working out for Disney

[Sans Souci]

Sometimes I swear we have the same family!! My brother didn't ever need bail, but he did almost have to declare bankruptcy and got my dad to bail him out of that jam. He's the same way....spend money as soon as he has it....sometimes BEFORE he has it. And he is an instant gratification person. He can't stand to wait and save up for something he wants. He's got to have it NOW, preferably a few weeks ago. He was working for the IT department at the university, and they were going to buy all the IT people palm pilots. My brother couldn't wait, so he went out and bought the exact model they were getting from work 2 weeks before they were set to come in so "he could learn how to use it" already and then when he got the one from work, he'd just resell the one he bought. Absolutely ridiculous....just wait 2 weeks and you'll have it and NOT have to waste hundreds of dollars on it! He got in trouble with credit cards, because he was an absolute sucker for free stuff and those CC companies target college students by offering a free tshirt or a 2 liter bottle of soda if you signed up for their guaranteed acceptance card. So he ended up with 10 to 15 of those pre-approved CCs that have really high interest rates, just to get a bottle of pop, and then he maxed every one of those cards out and couldn't even afford the interest on them. My dad had to put down a large amount to consolidate the debt so my brother didn't have to declare bankruptcy at 22. He also almost ruined his best friend's credit, because they shared an apartment and the best friend put the utilities in his name because my brother's credit was awful....then the best friend moved out, but let my brother keep the utilities in his name and my brother just never paid the bills. The best friend called my mom and told her he was worried about my brother and could she talk to him and help him. My mom was mad at the best friend for "Leaving my brother in the lurch" with the apartment. He had given my brother NINE MONTHS NOTICE that he was moving out when the lease was up, so my brother could find a new roommate. My brother didn't even look, and didn't tell my mom until a couple of weeks before his best friend actually moved, so she blamed the best friend for just moving out and leaving him without a roommate, and then got mad at me because my brother decided I was the answer to his solution. I had just decided to move in with my fiance at the time, and so my brother decided that I should move in with him instead. I said no, I already HAD a roommate, so my mom called and reamed me out for leaving my brother high and dry so I could live in sin. My BROTHER left my brother high and dry....he had months to find a new roommate. It's his own fault that he didn't look. But my mom always bragged about how smart and how responsible my brother was, he was just this golden child who could do no wrong, and I was such a screw up and my mother didn't know WHAT to do with me. Yet it was my brother who almost went bankrupt, ruined his best friend's credit, and declined to look for a new roommate, while I had perfect credit, a car that worked, and I paid my own way through college, and -I- was the screw up. My brother's problem is that everything was always given to him. He never had to work for it. He got good grades without working at it, so he got a full ride scholarship for college. My dad all but gave him his first car. My mom bought all his basic necessities through high school because he never had money to buy things himself, but I was expected to buy my own clothes, shampoo, my cheerleading uniform and letterman's jacket. We were poor and mom couldn't afford that stuff, so I had to buy it myself. But my brother always spent his money as soon as he had it, so when his pants ripped and he needed new ones, he didn't have the money for them. So my mom would have to buy them for him, but never made him pay her back. He was used to other people paying the bills so he could spend his money on fun stuff, and he was good at manipulating people, making them think they owed him for something. He was never your friend just because you were his friend....it costs you something to be his friend. You're involved in theater? You'd better get him free tickets to whatever show you are in. You're involved in some community organization? He expects your help with some project he's working on. You just got a raise at work? Congratulations....you now owe him dinner at a nice restaurant to celebrate, because of course you'd never have gotten that raise without some "favor" he did for you. If you DON'T, he's not going to waste time hanging out with you. He's a classic people-user. If you've read the Harry Potter series, he's Professor Slughorn. He likes his creature comforts, and he "collects" people who can get him those things. If you can't be of benefit to him, he has no time for you. And my mom was the classic enabler. She thought the sun rose and set out of his rear end every day and I couldn't possibly compete with him. She always thought I owed him for everything and gave him credit for my accomplishments. She told me I would never have gotten into college if it weren't for my brother, and she said I'd never have made it through my first year of college if he hadn't tutored me. But I was a music major and my brother knew NOTHING about music. He hadn't tutored me at ALL. I got straight A's my first semester, and I only had 1 B in the second semester, because -I- went and got help when I needed it....and NOT from my brother. But nope, it was actually my brother's accomplishment, so I owed him!

Your husband was totally right....why should you give up your vacation to pay for your brother's mistake? You know he'd never do the same for you! Is your brother older than you? My brother is the oldest, so my mom just thought he was perfect and I was the bane of her existence. I suspect you are right, that your brother will decline the offer, because it's not what he wants. What he wants is for you to just send him money to spend as he wants, not a place to lodge and eat under YOUR terms. He's probably holding out, hoping you'll come up with something more, or he's planning a counter-offer. I don't know if he's like my brother in this, but mine always throws everything back in your face....every favor he's ever done. "I printed out the mailing labels and maps for your wedding invitations! The least you can do is......" and he tends to forget all the favors I ever did for him, like that I got up every day that week to work the pride table for coming out week on campus because none of the actual members of their organization wanted to get out of bed to work the 8:00 slot. He figures the 30 minutes it took him to set the printer up for labels and print them out is worth way more than the hours I spent at that table early in the morning. My mother always reinforced that idea that I owed him and that he deserved more. So he grew up lazy and expecting everyone to do everything for him because he was taught that he was owed it by everyone else in the world. And it sounds like your brother was kind of enabled in the same way by your mom. So he's probably not going to change. If he gets knocked down, whether it's because of something he did or because of a natural disaster, he's going to expect someone else to get him out of it, because they always have.

Is he married? Have kids? I have to say my husband's spouse is AMAZING and has been SO good for him. I won't say my brother is completely reformed, but he does do more than he used to.

I have thought that, too, about having similar families! My brother isn't so much transactional as he is irresponsible. He has always had his messes cleaned up for him and he has always been shielded from the consequences of his poor choices. I think this has contributed to his devil-may-care approach to life.

My brother is not married, he's never been married. He is in a relationship with someone where they break up and get back together over and over again. My husband is on FB and he is friends with my brother and he will tell me, "You're brother is single...today." He seems to prefer women who are emotionally volatile and incapable of long term relationships.

 

[Sans Souci]

Good morning. There hasn't been much working out over the last week, unless you count lots of walking around softball fields and lugging stuff. I did at least get in a few mini workouts in the office with my kettlebells and my husband and I decided to go for a walk yesterday evening. It wasn't anything major, but 2 miles can't hurt either.

We also went into stress mode last week with Ian. My parents and brother's family are all Miami/Ft. Lauderdale area, so it was mainly some heavy rain (a bit scary because they have a lake on one side), TS force gusts and tornado warnings that were a little too close to home (closest touched down about a mile from my parents). I know a few of their neighbors lost some tropical trees, but that's about it. Our cousins that we met up with before our July cruise are in central FL and had to contend with some inland flooding, but no water in their homes. We have friends and family on the west coast who were a mix of issues, including some who were just down there for vacation and were trying to get out. It took some nudging, but our close family friends in the Tampa/St. Pete area ended up evacuating closer to my parents, so that was some relief. Our family in Punta Gorda is supposedly fine, which is also good. Other friends in Tampa and Bradenton had minor damage...fences and car ports blown over, trees uprooted, etc. The rest is a confusing mess. Our friends in North Port showed pics of bad flooding and moderate wind damage, but no word on what was their level of damage. They had a small motor boat that they were using to survey the neighborhood, but that's all they shared. We also have friends in Cape Coral that I don't think fared too well. They live in a neighborhood just off of the Caloosahatchee River and like much of Cape Coral, the neighborhood has lots of little canals. Said friends' parents are insisting the home did well and no real issues, but it seems impossible to believe. The friends in question work in a hospital in the area (I believe the hospital is in Fort Myers) and couldn't get home immediately since most roads were impassable. So, they were sheltering in the hospital where they work, which had no water and no functioning sewer system. So, who knows. I guess at least all of the people are good, so that's peace of mind. It's still mind-blowing to see all of the damage. My parents vacationed in Sanibel just a few months ago and now look at it!

I'd wondered about your family. I couldn't remembered where they lived, I thought it was the Ft. Lauderdale area, but I wasn't sure. Glad they are all ok. This hurricane was insane and I'd read most deaths were from drowning. It seems like it hit lower income retirement communities the hardest. I can't imagine having to start over at the point in life.

 

[Songbird76]

Yikes...as someone who's in accounting/finance... there's not enough money in the world to be shuffled around like that. Our CFO pretty much works from home and comes in when he needs to.

Well, I have to say, they are pretty well off. I don't know how much, because that's just not my business, but we met up in Paris once on vacation for a few days and while we stayed in a crappy hotel just outside the main "ring" in a not-so-nice part of the city, they stayed in a luxury hotel with a view of the eiffel tower. Their house could eat our house for breakfast. He's well compensated for moving all over. Originally, he was sent to Australia and it was supposed to only be a year or 2, and then he'd go to London for a year or two and would apparently be well-placed to be CFO of the whole company, which is BIG. Then the new ownership decided not to support Americans working in foreign countries anymore. They actually wanted to stay in Australia (Ironic, since my BFF went there kicking and screaming and I told her to give it a chance and she ended up LOVING it and not wanting to move back), but the company wanted him back in the US. They sent him to Denver with the promise that that would be it for a while, and then changed their minds. But that's why she refused to go with him....she's had enough of moving around, and she wanted their daughter to have some stability in high school. They went from OK, to PA, to NJ, to I think Denver, then to California....she didn't want to go to CA, but ended up really liking it, so then she didn't want to go to OZ, then back to Denver, and now he's in Florida, which I THINK was where the head office is? I have no idea. But they have traveled all over the world....they did a huge Asian tour to like India,Vietnam, Thailand....I don't even know where all they went. They've done European tours to France, Italy, Monaco, etc...I would LOVE to see some of the places she's been. They are well-traveled for sure, and they couldn't do that if he wasn't making the big bucks, so they must be more than just comfortable.

 

[Songbird76]

I finally made it back to the gym today.

When I came home from WDW, I came home with bronchitis that apparently was so bad that they were worried it was going to turn into pnuemonia, so they put me on a really powerful antibiotic. It too me a while to recover. Then the remnants of our friend Ian hit, which left me with a six day migraine.

I did 35 minutes on the elliptical and then some circuit training. I bought this thing for my knee that's basically a strap to support the knee cap, which most of my pain is when the knee cap moves around. They tried taping my knee at PT, and the tape refused to stay, so I figured this might do the same thing and work better. I did really well with it at WDW, so I decided to wear it at the gym (it's designed so you can wear it while working out).

I probably do need to restart my asthma control medications (well, probably just one of them for now). I've been completely off of them for a while and I just treat my asthma when I'm sick or have an attack, which is less and less frequent since working from home. But today I after I got off of the elliptical, I got into a terrible coughing jag, and I've been coughing ever since. I haven't coughed in over a week, it feels like an asthma cough, and this didn't happen pre-bronchitis. I'm probably just going to start with one puff of the one inhaler (so a half dose) and then up it to a full dose if I need it, and then I'll add back the second one if I need it. My asthma is tricky with controllers because some have been known to make it worse, so my doctor had my on one called Alvesco that had a really small particle size, and then he put me on the lower of the two available doses and started me on a half dose, then we upped it. Then he added on Dulera when I needed it for a while. So we know they work; I just haven't needed them in a long time.

Did you catchthe bronchitis at Disney? I HATE having bronchitis. It's miserable.

E has some sort of a bug. She's got a slight fever and is coughing up a storm, but she's done self tests for the last couple of days and they are all negative for covid,soit's just some other bug, but it just takes so much out of a person when they are sick.

 

[Sans Souci]

Hello-

Today is a rest day, but I have been doing strength training splits, with some cardio and walking sprinkled in.

I have a big roasting pan filled with lasagna that I assembled earlier today and will bake it for dinner. The weather is cooler and is begging for more robust meals. Plus, since it's such a large lasagna, I'm going to freeze it for lazy day dinners.

I had been looking at going to WDW late Jan. and I looked at the Swan Reserve and I was getting like $717/nt with my AAA discount. I like it there, but a regular room is not worth $717/nt to me. This is a regular, no view room--not a suite. So I looked at the Swan, since the Dolphin was unavailable for those nights. It was more reasonable. Then I just started looking at other Marriott properties on their website. I really just wanted to get away somewhere warm for a bit and spend time outdoors. So, I started looking at Scottsdale. I found this JW Marriott Camelback Inn in Scottsdale and it wasn't cheap, ofc, but it was a bit cheaper than the Swan Reserve. So, I ran some numbers and it was a bit cheaper to go to AZ, even with higher airfare. So, on a whim, I decided to check Costco Travel and I found this same JW Marriott for waaaaay cheaper and not only that, a rental car and $50/day resort credit was included. Plus, the resort fee was included in the price, so I wasn't going to get a nasty surprise at check in. This price was too good to pass up. When I did the math for WDW with room, tickets and airfare, JW Marriott was $1500 cheaper in arguably better accommodation. I know it's not WDW, but it's somewhere new. The resort is massive with walking and hiking trails. So, I booked. I have had a Costco membership for 16 years and this is the first time I used the travel agency. They have packages for Swan/Dolphin/Swan Reserve with park hoppers folded in. I didn't look at them because the packages were only for this year, not next. They have loads of Disney property packages, too. But I didn't look at them. I will likely go back to WDW in Sept., but I will definitely be checking out Costco when I'm looking to book.

 

[Songbird76]

I have thought that, too, about having similar families! My brother isn't so much transactional as he is irresponsible. He has always had his messes cleaned up for him and he has always been shielded from the consequences of his poor choices. I think this has contributed to his devil-may-care approach to life.

My brother is not married, he's never been married. He is in a relationship with someone where they break up and get back together over and over again. My husband is on FB and he is friends with my brother and he will tell me, "You're brother is single...today." He seems to prefer women who are emotionally volatile and incapable of long term relationships.

Oh my brother is irresponsible, for sure, but part of it is he's kind of a.....status seeker I guess? Like....he wants people to envy him. The house he bought back when I was getting married, he only wanted that particular house because it had a hottub and all his friends would be jealous and they'd all want to come hang out there. So he'd have these huge parties where he'd just invite everyone he knew and the requirement was they had to bring a bottle of booze. But he always wants people to think he's the smartest person they know, and that he has the nicest things. If he doesn't know something, he'll fake it and hope no one figures it out. Like, when I moved over here, I paid for him to come visit me at Christmas because my mom's last wish was that neither of us were alone that first Christmas after she died. Since I was the one moving, I felt responsible for that, and I was married, so I wasn't going to be alone. So I bought his ticket (which he neglected to tell people....he said he was honoring mom's last wish coming to see me because I moved halfway across the world) and he stayed with us at my in-laws' house, so he didn't have to pay for anything. We took a few days and went to Germany...he had always wanted to go to Germany, and we're so close, and there were 2 German exchange students we had befriended back in high school and one of them lived just a couple of hours away, about half way in between us and the other German, so we all got together and stayed with her parents. In the morning, we were sitting down to breakfast, and her dad came in and starts rattling away to her in German....he wasn't talking to us. Anyway, my brother and I had both had German in high school, so she asked us if we had caught any of what was just said. I was honest and said no, they spoke too quickly and I had never been good enough at German to follow native speakers at regular speed, let alone when I hadn't had a German class in years. My brother said "I caught most of it, yeah." so she called his bluff and asked him what they were talking about and, keep in mind this was literally like 30 seconds after their conversation, he says "I'm trying not to remember too much. I only have a short time here." He just didn't want to admit that he had no clue what they said, because it would be admitting he wasn't as good at German as he had let people believe, just like he couldn't tell people I paid for his trip to Europe because then -I- was the one honoring mom's wishes, and being the nice sibling.

He's very competitive...he can't let anyone think someone is better at something than he is. If he loses a game, it's because he "let the other person win". He can't let someone, especially me, have credit for their accomplishments. And I think part of that is because of my mom. She was constantly telling me I would never have graduated high school if it weren't for him, or I never would have gotten through my first semester of college without his turorship. I won a speech contest my...sophomore year of high school I think? Maybe Junior....but he had competed in the same contest, but I won. My mom wouldn't let me tell anyone because it would make him feel bad, because he was "used to being better than me" and "it would be embarrassing for him for people to know that I had beat him". Then when I got straight A's in my first semester at college, and my high school English teacher asked us if we had gotten our grades back, we showed her and she exclaimed "You finally got better grades than your brother!!!" and he said "Well, it doesn't count! She's just a music major! All she does is sing all day!" Which wasn't true at all...theory is HARD, and he was an English major! It's not like his requirements were so much harder than mine! But then he went and told my mom what our former teacher had said she reamed me out about how I shouldn't have let her say that, and anyway, I'd never even be IN college if it weren't for my brother and how I should have stood up for him and told her that he was better than me and it was just a fluke that I got better grades. It was FINE that he said I didn't have to do anything hard....he was allowed to make ME look bad all he wanted. So that's what he did. He would just fake it and throw anyone else under the bus so people would think he was superior. And my job was to make sure everyone knew he was the best at everything and hide my own accomplishments and/or give him credit for them.

He learned that he didn't have to actually BE smarter or better, he just had to have the APPEARANCE of it. And blame other people for his mistakes. Always someone else's fault. Like you said, my mom shielded him from the consequences of his poor choices.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Did you catchthe bronchitis at Disney? I HATE having bronchitis. It's miserable.

E has some sort of a bug. She's got a slight fever and is coughing up a storm, but she's done self tests for the last couple of days and they are all negative for covid,soit's just some other bug, but it just takes so much out of a person when they are sick.

I got a cold at Disney. Everyone passed it around. Dad and B recovered. Mom ended up with a sinus infection and needed antibiotics. With me, it went into the bronchitis and was pretty bad. It was probably the sickest I've been in a long time; I was sicker with that than I was with COVID.

 

[StarWarsGirl]

Sorry you haven't been feeling well. I hope you are on the road to feeling better, at least you have those cute kitties to snuggle with .

Yeah I was really missing Belle. She was my caretaker kitty. Jasmine tries, but she's not Belle. Ella is a love, but she's still a kitten, so very much wrapped up in her own world. She turns into a total ham when anyone comes over, though. Apparently they're all over to see her.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I'd wondered about your family. I couldn't remembered where they lived, I thought it was the Ft. Lauderdale area, but I wasn't sure. Glad they are all ok. This hurricane was insane and I'd read most deaths were from drowning. It seems like it hit lower income retirement communities the hardest. I can't imagine having to start over at the point in life.

Yes, we're thankful that this storm had very little impact on them, although the insurance impact may be brutal. It still got me thinking about their home when they lived St. Pete Beach area. I've seen several sad articles about people in Ft. Myers Beach who had multi-story structures built with added hurricane protection, but all of that $ and expertise was based on wind. The violent floodwaters ended up taking out the foundations and the rest didn't end well. My parents used to live in a 3-story townhome in Tierra Verde (mapped below). I know they built based on upgrade standards from Hurricane Andrew, but it was also a zone A for evacuation and I don't think that place would survive an Ian type storm surge. That's not to say builders didn't consider surge, but I think the mindset was rising water and not a rushing river of surge. They rode out a couple of Cat 1 and Cat 2 storms there because evacuation never seemed feasible (gas/traffic, places accepting pets, hotel availability, etc.). At least where they are now is not an evac zone and much farther inland.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

Hello! I've been trying something a bit different with my workday fitness over the last week or so. It's not the most ideal thing, but it's better than nothing. Every 30-60 minutes I'm making myself get up to do something. Yes, there are some times where I really can't step away for long and it may just be walking across the house to refresh my cup of water. If I have a little extra time, I may put in 5-15 minutes of working out. It could be anything from dumbbells, kettle bells, resistance bands, step bench, squat machine, planking, barre type leg work, or even some marching/dancing in a small space.

As for the busy...it's mostly good busy. Although, even good busy can become overwhelming and stressful when there's little downtime. Still, K is finally getting the academic and music recognition she deserves, and Sam is over the moon happy with her new team. It's making me see that we could really use a small trip to decompress. I just don't know if it's in the cards. We are popping into Uni for a few days in November before Thanksgiving with family, but I could really use some nature. We've already talked about adding some into summer ball travel, since we know we'll be in Colorado and there's a possibility of California. Still, that's a long way off. I have an idea for February break, but we'll just have to wait and see.

 

[MinnieM123]

Hello! I've been trying something a bit different with my workday fitness over the last week or so. It's not the most ideal thing, but it's better than nothing. Every 30-60 minutes I'm making myself get up to do something. Yes, there are some times where I really can't step away for long and it may just be walking across the house to refresh my cup of water. If I have a little extra time, I may put in 5-15 minutes of working out. It could be anything from dumbbells, kettle bells, resistance bands, step bench, squat machine, planking, barre type leg work, or even some marching/dancing in a small space.

That's good for you. I'll bet these short bursts of energy (just getting up from your chair and going for a short walk, etc., will produce benefits over time.

 

[Songbird76]

Hello! I've been trying something a bit different with my workday fitness over the last week or so. It's not the most ideal thing, but it's better than nothing. Every 30-60 minutes I'm making myself get up to do something. Yes, there are some times where I really can't step away for long and it may just be walking across the house to refresh my cup of water. If I have a little extra time, I may put in 5-15 minutes of working out. It could be anything from dumbbells, kettle bells, resistance bands, step bench, squat machine, planking, barre type leg work, or even some marching/dancing in a small space.

As for the busy...it's mostly good busy. Although, even good busy can become overwhelming and stressful when there's little downtime. Still, K is finally getting the academic and music recognition she deserves, and Sam is over the moon happy with her new team. It's making me see that we could really use a small trip to decompress. I just don't know if it's in the cards. We are popping into Uni for a few days in November before Thanksgiving with family, but I could really use some nature. We've already talked about adding some into summer ball travel, since we know we'll be in Colorado and there's a possibility of California. Still, that's a long way off. I have an idea for February break, but we'll just have to wait and see.

That's so great that the girls are happy and getting the recognition they deserve!

I think whatever you can do is better than nothing with the working out, right? I got an injection in my shoulder today for the infection in my rotator cuff, so hopefully I'll be able to get back to standard workouts next week. But this week has been a total stinker and I need to destress!!

 

[HouCuseChickie]

That's good for you. I'll bet these short bursts of energy (just getting up from your chair and going for a short walk, etc., will produce benefits over time.

My mind keeps playing the "bodies in motion..." phrase. While it's probably not obvious to the masses, I do see some little positive changes. So, that's good!

 

[HouCuseChickie]

That's so great that the girls are happy and getting the recognition they deserve!

I think whatever you can do is better than nothing with the working out, right? I got an injection in my shoulder today for the infection in my rotator cuff, so hopefully I'll be able to get back to standard workouts next week. But this week has been a total stinker and I need to destress!!

I hope the injection helps. I'm prone to rotator cuff pain, so I can imagine the kind of discomfort you're in. Hopefully, you'll be back to full health soon. I swear...I think it's just time of year, or maybe even the week. It hasn't been an awful week, but just frustrations and headaches on this side. It doesn't help that it's my busiest time of year at work, but beginning Monday, it was clear that this week was not up for fun and games.

 

[Songbird76]

I hope the injection helps. I'm prone to rotator cuff pain, so I can imagine the kind of discomfort you're in. Hopefully, you'll be back to full health soon. I swear...I think it's just time of year, or maybe even the week. It hasn't been an awful week, but just frustrations and headaches on this side. It doesn't help that it's my busiest time of year at work, but beginning Monday, it was clear that this week was not up for fun and games.

This week has just been one thing after another. My FIL had surgery on Thursday and they sent him home too soon and he had to be taken to the ER on Friday night, then back home, then back to the hospital by ambulance on Tuesday morning. My husband is staying at their house for the week because his mom can't be left alone since her stroke in March. My daughter has Tonsilitis and is MISERABLE....probably also has an ear infection, but the doctor doesn't want her to come in to check because she's coughing and people will think she has covid, even though 3 selftests in the last week say she doesn't, but he also won't prescribe anything for her. She's been out of school since last Thursday when she came home after her first hour of Physics because she didn't feel well. I have a choir competition on Saturday that I really don't want to do....I don't like competetions, but the choir voted and I was the only one who said no, I didn't want to do it, so we're doing it. And there's a neighbor who has some problem with us but she won't tell us what that problem is. We're not loud, we don't share any walls or property lines with her....there's a house in between us, we don't park in front of their house, we don't have pets to bother her...actually she has a yappy dog. We're at a loss. She was mad at us because we were gone on vacation and some wasps took up residence in our back yard and she kept knocking on our door to ask us to fix it, but strangely enough, no one answered the door while we were on vacation and that angered her. As soon as we found out, we got it taken care of....we hadn't even been home for a week, but apparently that wasn't good enough for her and she still has a beef with us, but won't talk to us directly about it, but wants us to take time off of work to meet with her and a mediator so she doesn't have to give up an evening. And A's bike seems to have been damaged at school when some kids were playing something with a ball and the ball hit the bike at a high speed, so now I need to find time to bring the bike to a repair shop, but he still needs the bike to get to school and chess and tennis. And they are changing everything at work and they only scheduled me for one 4 hour shift this week, which is weird because they usually schedule me for whatever I have available. So now I'm worried that I'm not going to get hours anymore, and I might have to look for a new job. I'm just a ball of stress this week and being in pain from the rotator cuff infection is not helping!!

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

This week has just been one thing after another. My FIL had surgery on Thursday and they sent him home too soon and he had to be taken to the ER on Friday night, then back home, then back to the hospital by ambulance on Tuesday morning. My husband is staying at their house for the week because his mom can't be left alone since her stroke in March. My daughter has Tonsilitis and is MISERABLE....probably also has an ear infection, but the doctor doesn't want her to come in to check because she's coughing and people will think she has covid, even though 3 selftests in the last week say she doesn't, but he also won't prescribe anything for her. She's been out of school since last Thursday when she came home after her first hour of Physics because she didn't feel well. I have a choir competition on Saturday that I really don't want to do....I don't like competetions, but the choir voted and I was the only one who said no, I didn't want to do it, so we're doing it. And there's a neighbor who has some problem with us but she won't tell us what that problem is. We're not loud, we don't share any walls or property lines with her....there's a house in between us, we don't park in front of their house, we don't have pets to bother her...actually she has a yappy dog. We're at a loss. She was mad at us because we were gone on vacation and some wasps took up residence in our back yard and she kept knocking on our door to ask us to fix it, but strangely enough, no one answered the door while we were on vacation and that angered her. As soon as we found out, we got it taken care of....we hadn't even been home for a week, but apparently that wasn't good enough for her and she still has a beef with us, but won't talk to us directly about it, but wants us to take time off of work to meet with her and a mediator so she doesn't have to give up an evening. And A's bike seems to have been damaged at school when some kids were playing something with a ball and the ball hit the bike at a high speed, so now I need to find time to bring the bike to a repair shop, but he still needs the bike to get to school and chess and tennis. And they are changing everything at work and they only scheduled me for one 4 hour shift this week, which is weird because they usually schedule me for whatever I have available. So now I'm worried that I'm not going to get hours anymore, and I might have to look for a new job. I'm just a ball of stress this week and being in pain from the rotator cuff infection is not helping!!

Sorry to hear about all the illness/injury, hopefully everyone gets better soon. I can't believe that lady still has a beef with you about the wasp thing, geez she needs to learn to let go. I hope neither you or your husband take off work to go to her silly meeting, if there needs to be a meeting make her meet according to when you are free. You did nothing wrong. What can she do to you if you don't have a meeting?

 

[MinnieM123]

This week has just been one thing after another. My FIL had surgery on Thursday and they sent him home too soon and he had to be taken to the ER on Friday night, then back home, then back to the hospital by ambulance on Tuesday morning. My husband is staying at their house for the week because his mom can't be left alone since her stroke in March. My daughter has Tonsilitis and is MISERABLE....probably also has an ear infection, but the doctor doesn't want her to come in to check because she's coughing and people will think she has covid, even though 3 selftests in the last week say she doesn't, but he also won't prescribe anything for her. She's been out of school since last Thursday when she came home after her first hour of Physics because she didn't feel well. I have a choir competition on Saturday that I really don't want to do....I don't like competetions, but the choir voted and I was the only one who said no, I didn't want to do it, so we're doing it. And there's a neighbor who has some problem with us but she won't tell us what that problem is. We're not loud, we don't share any walls or property lines with her....there's a house in between us, we don't park in front of their house, we don't have pets to bother her...actually she has a yappy dog. We're at a loss. She was mad at us because we were gone on vacation and some wasps took up residence in our back yard and she kept knocking on our door to ask us to fix it, but strangely enough, no one answered the door while we were on vacation and that angered her. As soon as we found out, we got it taken care of....we hadn't even been home for a week, but apparently that wasn't good enough for her and she still has a beef with us, but won't talk to us directly about it, but wants us to take time off of work to meet with her and a mediator so she doesn't have to give up an evening. And A's bike seems to have been damaged at school when some kids were playing something with a ball and the ball hit the bike at a high speed, so now I need to find time to bring the bike to a repair shop, but he still needs the bike to get to school and chess and tennis. And they are changing everything at work and they only scheduled me for one 4 hour shift this week, which is weird because they usually schedule me for whatever I have available. So now I'm worried that I'm not going to get hours anymore, and I might have to look for a new job. I'm just a ball of stress this week and being in pain from the rotator cuff infection is not helping!!

Fingers crossed that all these issues get straightened out in due course. I hate it when everything goes south at the same time. There's only so much stress people can handle.

As for the neighbor -- she's just a loon. The wasps are gone. End of story with her.

 

[Songbird76]

Sorry to hear about all the illness/injury, hopefully everyone gets better soon. I can't believe that lady still has a beef with you about the wasp thing, geez she needs to learn to let go. I hope neither you or your husband take off work to go to her silly meeting, if there needs to be a meeting make her meet according to when you are free. You did nothing wrong. What can she do to you if you don't have a meeting?

As far as I know, she can't do anything. It's completely voluntary. We're not going unless it's at a time that works for us. They wanted me to go by myself, without my husband and he was like nope, not happening. We have no idea why she still wants to meet when we took care of the problem months ago and she knows that. There must be something else bothering her, but rather than just saying it, she's trying to make a huge deal out of whatever it is, involving other people. To me, it just sounds like she wants an audience. The more I get to know her, the more I think she's kind of a drama queen. She's estranged from her parents, has no friends...I'm thinking she's just one of those toxic people who thrives on the drama and drives everyone away eventually and then tells anyone who will listen how she's the victim and everyone is so mean to her. She just seems very narcissistic. I've been nothing but nice to her and this is how she acts? I have no time for that kind of immaturity. If she had a legitimate complaint of something we were doing that was negatively impacting her, I'd already have fixed it, like with the wasps. But even the note she left about that was so snippy like "I've knocked several times in the last several weeks to try to get you to take care of it, but you haven't bothered to answer the door. This is one last effort before I complain to the city." Like we were just looking out our window and "Oh, it's her...everyone be quiet and she'll go away." But we weren't even home! So to act like we're horrible for ignoring her...it's just...I don't even have words. But as far as I know, the only thing she can do is call the city to complain, but even if they sent someone to our house, there's no wasp nest anymore, and we haven't done anything wrong. Our grass is dead and there are weeds, but there are no regulations about that, so I don't think she can do anything to us. But she does seem to be the type who is...superficial, I guess? Always wearing designer clothing, etc. Very into appearances, so I imagine my front yard doesn't meet with her approval.

 

[Sans Souci]

I got a cold at Disney. Everyone passed it around. Dad and B recovered. Mom ended up with a sinus infection and needed antibiotics. With me, it went into the bronchitis and was pretty bad. It was probably the sickest I've been in a long time; I was sicker with that than I was with COVID.

Wow, feeling sicker than covid? That's sounds awful. I felt icky half-way though my WDW vacation. I felt like I was coming down with a sinus infection, pressure, post-nasal drip, slight sore throat from said drip. What was really weird was the site where I'd gotten my covid booster injection 2 weeks prior was sore and slightly swollen. I took a test and it came back negative. It was odd.

 

[Sans Souci]

Yes, we're thankful that this storm had very little impact on them, although the insurance impact may be brutal. It still got me thinking about their home when they lived St. Pete Beach area. I've seen several sad articles about people in Ft. Myers Beach who had multi-story structures built with added hurricane protection, but all of that $ and expertise was based on wind. The violent floodwaters ended up taking out the foundations and the rest didn't end well. My parents used to live in a 3-story townhome in Tierra Verde (mapped below). I know they built based on upgrade standards from Hurricane Andrew, but it was also a zone A for evacuation and I don't think that place would survive an Ian type storm surge. That's not to say builders didn't consider surge, but I think the mindset was rising water and not a rushing river of surge. They rode out a couple of Cat 1 and Cat 2 storms there because evacuation never seemed feasible (gas/traffic, places accepting pets, hotel availability, etc.). At least where they are now is not an evac zone and much farther inland.

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I'd read an article this morning that said the storm surge was 15' above normal. The meteorologists in the article said this was on par with a tsunami. I remember before it hit land, they said water was sucked away from the shoreline, like a tsunami. I have no idea if this is a feature of a hurricane but I honestly have difficulty trying to fathom what all of that water pushing back onto land, on top of torrential rain would be like. No wonder so many people drowned.