Where in the World Isn't Bob Saget?

[Mike S]

FTFY
Yes, relationships can be a great thing and it's nice to have someone to share with, but don't make the mistake of thinking you CAN'T be happy if you're not in a relationship. When you start defining yourself by that and measuring your success by having a significant other, you could end up settling for less than you should. Focus on what you like to do and then a relationship is icing on the cake.

If I might make a suggestion, if you have any hobbies, those are often good places to meet peope with like interests that you could hit it off with. Join a group or organization in your area that sounds like fun....a book club, or a sport, or whatever interests you. Somewhere to meet people outside of work. Then, even if you don't meet "the one" there, you're still enjoying yourself and you might meet someone who leads you to finding that person. I would never have met my husband if I hadn't been dating the guy I did in college. He was on the MUD and kept talking about it and it was really boring to me because I didn't understand it. He asked me to try it out, I did, and met a lot of really cool people. When I broke off my engagement to the guy I was seeing, my now husband admitted he had a crush, but had thought it was hopeless as I was taken. Maybe someone will have a friend, or a cousin, or a coworker who they want to introduce you to and then it just clicks. Just go into it with an intention to have fun and do your hobby and who knows what will happen. People also tend to be much more attractive when they are in their element and enjoying themselves. A girl might take notice of you in the right setting where you're relaxed and happy.

I think this is great advice. I also think that when you are actually not really looking and just out enjoying yourself in something you like doing that is when things might surface. So there really is no need for the pressure of it all. Go out and have fun and you never know what may be out there.

While good advice for anyone to follow I’m someone who’s biggest goal in life is to one day be a father so it’s very much dependent on being in a relationship. Also the going out thing doesn’t really work out now with a pandemic going on.

 

[Doodlelicious]

I speak from very much experience, having been in a really bad relationship for several years because I was so insecure and I thought it was better to have someone than be alone....the BTN syndrome...better than nothing. I wasn't really interested in the guy, but I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I was a coward and I just stayed with him for so long because I didn't think I could do any better. I ended up hurting him even more when I finally had the courage to end it, and the only reason I did was because he was getting increasingly possessive and jealous and had started being destructive. I was afraid the next step would be physical violence, so I called off the engagement. I feel like I really dodged a bullet. SO many red flags I missed, and so many mistakes I made. If I can spare someone else that experience, I will happily share my "wisdom".

I don't have that many relationships and really only one that seriously can even count as one. The high school stuff I am really not going to mention because it really wasn't serious. There was a guy I met in my Freshman year of college and broke it off a month before the whole Covid-19 thing hit my Junior year. So it was a pretty serious relationship. I like you since my high school days thought it was important to have a guy on my arm. Don't ask me why I had that logic, but I did. I do have to tell you in the beginning my Freshman year and even into my Sophomore year of college everything in this relationship was vibrant and good than it seemed to hit a wall and everything became stale. I tried to figure it out at first and then it just felt like we just continued to grow farther and farther apart. I like you though couldn't let go at first because i had to have someone. We went into the Summer months and hardly saw each other and only spoke. Then we went back to school and I thought that getting back together would make things better. It didn't, it was actually worse as I didn't even seem to want to be around him much at all. So we did somehow make it through the holidays, but after that I couldn't take the distance that was obvious between us as we have grown apart and I broke up. Both of us seemed so relieved when I did break up with him. Shortly after that our school was sent packing home for Covid-19. I do think some relationships just turn stale over time and possibly we were just not right for each other for the long haul and that is fine. I had great times with him over our relationship and I would never take any of it back, but after all of that it is time for me to sit back and stay out of relationships for now. I am going into my Senior Year of college this year which hopefully will include Student Teaching and that is going to take a lot out of me, Sorry for the long post.

 

[JenniferS]

While good advice for anyone to follow I’m someone who’s biggest goal in life is to one day be a father so it’s very much dependent on being in a relationship. Also the going out thing doesn’t really work out now with a pandemic going on.

My cousin, also a Mike S coincidentally, did not finally find his perfect “lid” until his early 40’s.

He had his first baby 4 months after his 46th birthday. Looking back, he thanks God everyday that he never “settled“ with any of his previous long-term girlfriends. Some people are worth waiting for.

 

[Mike S]

My cousin, also a Mike S coincidentally, did not finally find his perfect “lid” until his early 40’s.

He had his first baby 4 months after his 46th birthday. Looking back, he thanks God everyday that he never “settled“ with any of his previous long-term girlfriends. Some people are worth waiting for.

That long I wouldn’t want to wait.

Jeez

Another coincidence is that my sister is another Jennifer S.

 

[JenniferS]

That long I wouldn’t want to wait.

Jeez

Another coincidence is that my sister is another Jennifer S.

I married a Mike, but he’s a Mike D.

Those who know me outside these forums know that I’m actually Jennifer S-D.

My oldest son Spenser has expressed a desire to legally change his last name to S-D as well. It would be in honour of my dad, as he doesn’t want to see the S name die.

 

[Songbird76]

While good advice for anyone to follow I’m someone who’s biggest goal in life is to one day be a father so it’s very much dependent on being in a relationship. Also the going out thing doesn’t really work out now with a pandemic going on.

But this situation is temporary. You don't need to find a girlfriend tomorrow. There will still be women out there next month. Or in 6th months.

But, what do you mean by father? There are many ways to be a father figure if what you want is to mentor youth. If what you want is to continue your genes in a new generation, well, luckily you are male and can do that at pretty much any age. Anyone can be a "father" in that sense. But if what you want is to be a meaningful part in someone's development, biology has very little to do with that. You could coach a sport, teach, be part of a big brother program, volunteer in some capacity. When you put so much emphasis on needing to find a significant other, you might be ignoring some pretty great options, and there's this sort of intensity that is off-putting. That's why I say, people tend to be more attractive when they are relaxed and having a good time...when they aren't trying too hard. Trying too hard makes a guy seem creepy. Trust me on that. When a guy is so focused on an immediate committment, it is a red flag.

 

[Mike S]

But this situation is temporary. You don't need to find a girlfriend tomorrow. There will still be women out there next month. Or in 6th months.

But, what do you mean by father? There are many ways to be a father figure if what you want is to mentor youth. If what you want is to continue your genes in a new generation, well, luckily you are male and can do that at pretty much any age. Anyone can be a "father" in that sense. But if what you want is to be a meaningful part in someone's development, biology has very little to do with that. You could coach a sport, teach, be part of a big brother program, volunteer in some capacity. When you put so much emphasis on needing to find a significant other, you might be ignoring some pretty great options, and there's this sort of intensity that is off-putting. That's why I say, people tend to be more attractive when they are relaxed and having a good time...when they aren't trying too hard. Trying too hard makes a guy seem creepy. Trust me on that. When a guy is so focused on an immediate committment, it is a red flag.

What I mean is I have a great relationship with my own dad so I want to be on the other side of that same kind of relationship with my own kids. I want to see my kids look up to me the way I look up to my dad.

 

[Songbird76]

I don't have that many relationships and really only one that seriously can even count as one. The high school stuff I am really not going to mention because it really wasn't serious. There was a guy I met in my Freshman year of college and broke it off a month before the whole Covid-19 thing hit my Junior year. So it was a pretty serious relationship. I like you since my high school days thought it was important to have a guy on my arm. Don't ask me why I had that logic, but I did. I do have to tell you in the beginning my Freshman year and even into my Sophomore year of college everything in this relationship was vibrant and good than it seemed to hit a wall and everything became stale. I tried to figure it out at first and then it just felt like we just continued to grow farther and farther apart. I like you though couldn't let go at first because i had to have someone. We went into the Summer months and hardly saw each other and only spoke. Then we went back to school and I thought that getting back together would make things better. It didn't, it was actually worse as I didn't even seem to want to be around him much at all. So we did somehow make it through the holidays, but after that I couldn't take the distance that was obvious between us as we have grown apart and I broke up. Both of us seemed so relieved when I did break up with him. Shortly after that our school was sent packing home for Covid-19. I do think some relationships just turn stale over time and possibly we were just not right for each other for the long haul and that is fine. I had great times with him over our relationship and I would never take any of it back, but after all of that it is time for me to sit back and stay out of relationships for now. I am going into my Senior Year of college this year which hopefully will include Student Teaching and that is going to take a lot out of me, Sorry for the long post.

For me it was more about validation, I guess. My mom was very strict and I wasn't allowed to be out past dark, I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, I wasn't supposed to date. (I had a boyfriend from another town and we never saw each other so my mom didn't know) When I got to college, that was finally my chance to be independent and have an actual life without my mom dictating everything. But I had very very little experience with boys and dating, so I was severely out of my depth.

The guy I dated in college never actually asked me to be his girlfriend. He just told me he didn't like my boyfriend (the high school guy) and I could do better, then the next day he said he couldn't believe we were a couple. I was too much of a coward to hurt his feelings, so I went with it, and I shouldn't have. But since I was not at all popular in high school, and I wasn't allowed to date even if I had been, it was almost intoxicating to have someone be so into me, even though I didn't feel the same way. It was just nice to be liked, and I hoped that my feelings for him would grow. They didn't. But I thought, well, at least HE likes me....I don't have any other guys knocking on my door, so I might as well make him happy if my alternative is being alone. But it got to be too much to handle. He was possessive and didn't want me hanging out with my friends because he thought they might say something bad about him, he didn't want me hanging with my brother because I would "catch gay", and he didn't want me to go out because other guys might hit on me, etc. I had no life...it revolved around making him happy and not doing anything for myself. Sure, I was in a relationship, but I wasn't happy....I thought having a boyfriend would make me happy, because it was the first step in eventually getting married and having kids. But it just didn't make me happy.

I look back now and where would I be if I had gone ahead with the wedding? Probably divorced or heading that way....and as a child of divorced parents, I never wanted to do that to my children. It was that idea that I HAD to find "the one" right now or it will be too late, and then some other factors, but that's way too long of a story for now, but let's just say spite, that almost messed up my entire future. Hyperfocus isn't going to force someone into being the right person, and it's not going to make you meet the right person any sooner. It will just cloud your judgment and it could seriously derail your efforts. Not to say that you can't meet the right person in high school, or that it can't be right if it happens fast, but you just can't force it to happen on command and on your schedule. It's not something you put on your agenda. "Tuesday: find a spouse." And you also can't expect it to fall in your lap because you want it so badly. It just has to happen naturally.

 

[Songbird76]

What I mean is I have a great relationship with my own dad so I want to be on the other side of that same kind of relationship with my own kids. I want see my kids look up to me the way I look up to my dad.

That's awesome....it's great that you have that. You know, there are a lot of kids who would love to have that kind of relationship whose dads aren't there. They would love to have someone to look up to. You could mentor while you are waiting to find a spouse. They wouldn't be biologically yours, but you could still see someone looking up to you in that way, and watch them grow and become awesome people, partially because of you. You don't have to wait to make a difference in someone else's life.

 

[Wrangler-Rick]

In other news, I need more coffee. I’m thinking of going to Hortons vs Keurig.

Who wants what?

I’ll take a dark, double, double...

 

[PUSH]

One year ago today was our last day at WDW.

We started our morning at MK. I don't have pictures to complete the full course of the day, but we went to HM shortly after rope drop. A little later we had lunch at BoG. This was one of my top two meals of the trip, along with the nachos from Pecos Bill. I always get the croque monsieur, and sometimes it can be a little cold. But this time it was nice and warm and perfect. I also get the Master's cupcake with the grey stuff. It was delicious! We went to CBJ after that. I know we had some FPs for this morning, but I don't remember what. I think one of them was Splash Mountain, and one may have been Space Mountain.

After MK, my dad, brother, and I went to Epcot because we had yet to do WS at all this trip, except to go on GFT and FEA. We never had been farther than Norway. We always start on the Mexico side and make our way around. We did GFT again before making our loop. In the American pavilion, I got a Mickey Premium Bar. In Morocco we visited the little museum near the front of the pavilion that we never knew existed. After all these years, we still find something new! We continued to make our way around the lagoon. We watched IDF, and our final attraction for the trip was one that would make @JenniferS proud. O Canada. We hadn't done that one in years.

We made our way out of the park and back to POR. We ate at the River Mill for our final meal.

This post is makes me kind of sad, even though I'm not there right now. I hate the feeling of the last day. Knowing you're leaving with no plans to go back. Especially with what we are currently going through, it's going to be a long time until we even think about returning. But it was a good trip nonetheless.

Pictures to come.

 

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From our morning at MK:



















And onto Epcot:

 

[InnKpr]

it was the year I got into a lot of mischief. Probably caught something on fire.

And my first trip to WDW.

1993 is the year I had four drinks. Two glasses of champagne in the wedding limo and two boozy strawberry shakes at the pool bar on our honeymoon.

I don’t think I’ve had four drinks in the 27 years since.

It was the year that I visited California and Disneyland.
Didn't drink any champagne because I was 12.
Didn't set anything on fire.
First tried Taco Bell... and loved it!

 

[PUSH]

More from Epcot:













This was a place I had never known existed before, either. Anyone know what it was used for? Looks like a pickup window of some sort.





From that Morocco museum we didn't know about:

 

[Doodlelicious]

For me it was more about validation, I guess. My mom was very strict and I wasn't allowed to be out past dark, I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, I wasn't supposed to date. (I had a boyfriend from another town and we never saw each other so my mom didn't know) When I got to college, that was finally my chance to be independent and have an actual life without my mom dictating everything. But I had very very little experience with boys and dating, so I was severely out of my depth.

The guy I dated in college never actually asked me to be his girlfriend. He just told me he didn't like my boyfriend (the high school guy) and I could do better, then the next day he said he couldn't believe we were a couple. I was too much of a coward to hurt his feelings, so I went with it, and I shouldn't have. But since I was not at all popular in high school, and I wasn't allowed to date even if I had been, it was almost intoxicating to have someone be so into me, even though I didn't feel the same way. It was just nice to be liked, and I hoped that my feelings for him would grow. They didn't. But I thought, well, at least HE likes me....I don't have any other guys knocking on my door, so I might as well make him happy if my alternative is being alone. But it got to be too much to handle. He was possessive and didn't want me hanging out with my friends because he thought they might say something bad about him, he didn't want me hanging with my brother because I would "catch gay", and he didn't want me to go out because other guys might hit on me, etc. I had no life...it revolved around making him happy and not doing anything for myself. Sure, I was in a relationship, but I wasn't happy....I thought having a boyfriend would make me happy, because it was the first step in eventually getting married and having kids. But it just didn't make me happy.

I look back now and where would I be if I had gone ahead with the wedding? Probably divorced or heading that way....and as a child of divorced parents, I never wanted to do that to my children. It was that idea that I HAD to find "the one" right now or it will be too late, and then some other factors, but that's way too long of a story for now, but let's just say spite, that almost messed up my entire future. Hyperfocus isn't going to force someone into being the right person, and it's not going to make you meet the right person any sooner. It will just cloud your judgment and it could seriously derail your efforts. Not to say that you can't meet the right person in high school, or that it can't be right if it happens fast, but you just can't force it to happen on command and on your schedule. It's not something you put on your agenda. "Tuesday: find a spouse." And you also can't expect it to fall in your lap because you want it so badly. It just has to happen naturally.

I am so in agreement with that statement that you cannot force a relationship or command one to happen. It will not just fall into your lap. Things happen naturally and for a reason. The past relationship I had happened for a reason and I got some experiences out of it that I will never forget. I will now use those experiences in the future. Like I said right now though, I feel it is best for me to just take a little break in my life from relationships. Something I have not experienced in quite sometime.

 

[Mike S]

For me it was more about validation, I guess. My mom was very strict and I wasn't allowed to be out past dark, I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, I wasn't supposed to date. (I had a boyfriend from another town and we never saw each other so my mom didn't know) When I got to college, that was finally my chance to be independent and have an actual life without my mom dictating everything. But I had very very little experience with boys and dating, so I was severely out of my depth.

The guy I dated in college never actually asked me to be his girlfriend. He just told me he didn't like my boyfriend (the high school guy) and I could do better, then the next day he said he couldn't believe we were a couple. I was too much of a coward to hurt his feelings, so I went with it, and I shouldn't have. But since I was not at all popular in high school, and I wasn't allowed to date even if I had been, it was almost intoxicating to have someone be so into me, even though I didn't feel the same way. It was just nice to be liked, and I hoped that my feelings for him would grow. They didn't. But I thought, well, at least HE likes me....I don't have any other guys knocking on my door, so I might as well make him happy if my alternative is being alone. But it got to be too much to handle. He was possessive and didn't want me hanging out with my friends because he thought they might say something bad about him, he didn't want me hanging with my brother because I would "catch gay", and he didn't want me to go out because other guys might hit on me, etc. I had no life...it revolved around making him happy and not doing anything for myself. Sure, I was in a relationship, but I wasn't happy....I thought having a boyfriend would make me happy, because it was the first step in eventually getting married and having kids. But it just didn't make me happy.

I look back now and where would I be if I had gone ahead with the wedding? Probably divorced or heading that way....and as a child of divorced parents, I never wanted to do that to my children. It was that idea that I HAD to find "the one" right now or it will be too late, and then some other factors, but that's way too long of a story for now, but let's just say spite, that almost messed up my entire future. Hyperfocus isn't going to force someone into being the right person, and it's not going to make you meet the right person any sooner. It will just cloud your judgment and it could seriously derail your efforts. Not to say that you can't meet the right person in high school, or that it can't be right if it happens fast, but you just can't force it to happen on command and on your schedule. It's not something you put on your agenda. "Tuesday: find a spouse." And you also can't expect it to fall in your lap because you want it so badly. It just has to happen naturally.

I’m scared about that same type of situation happening to me whenever I eventually find someone myself. I try to be a rational person mostly but will I be able to do that and not be blinded whenever I eventually start seeing someone. Will I notice any red flags and question them or will I ignore or make excuses for them just because I’m finally with someone that shows interest. I’ve already told some people in my family they have full permission to give me the 100% honest truth even if it hurts if they ever think I’m ignoring potential warning signs though lol

 

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More from Epcot:

Love this place. Wish those people weren't sitting there.















Thank for reading along and letting me relieve my trip from last year! That's as close as I'll get for a while.

 

[InnKpr]

More from Epcot:

Love this place. Wish those people weren't sitting there.

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Thank for reading along and letting me relieve my trip from last year! That's as close as I'll get for a while.

Thank you for sharing these memories.

 

[JenniferS]

Thank you for sharing these memories.

I know, right.

 

[JenniferS]

This is a few days old, but answers @SteveBrickNJ ’s question a bit.