What to do...

[PrincessNelly_NJ]

So months ago me and my friends decided to take a ladies only trip to Disney (3 of us, I've been but my friends have not)
We wasted no time and booked our Sept trip immediately. Myself and friend #1 have already paid our share of the trip, while friend #2 has been dragging her feet. And now our 45 pay off period is only 5 weeks away and now friend #2 is saying she may not be able to pay for her share in time. And to top it off, just last night she called me bragging that she blew an entire paycheck shopping for clothes just because she hadn't shopped in over a month....

Needless to say me and friend #1 are annoyed. We were thinking of just going without her or not going at all. But we were worried about that going without her would create tension between us and her... and then my fiance suggested that just him and I could go if we cancelled. So now I'm wondering what to do??

 

[bsiev1977]

So months ago me and my friends decided to take a ladies only trip to Disney (3 of us, I've been but my friends have not)
We wasted no time and booked our Sept trip immediately. Myself and friend #1 have already paid our share of the trip, while friend #2 has been dragging her feet. And now our 45 pay off period is only 5 weeks away and now friend #2 is saying she may not be able to pay for her share in time. And to top it off, just last night she called me bragging that she blew an entire paycheck shopping for clothes just because she hadn't shopped in over a month....

Needless to say me and friend #1 are annoyed. We were thinking of just going without her or not going at all. But we were worried about that going without her would create tension between us and her... and then my fiance suggested that just him and I could go if we cancelled. So now I'm wondering what to do??

Explain to your friend about the payment deadline. If she's not sure she will be able to pay, tell her she has two weeks to make a decision. After that, she's out. Then talk to your other friend about her feelings. If they'd rather cancel then fine. Go with your fiancé then.

 

[KLeigh]

I agree. Friend #2 knew what it was going to cost, it's her responsibility to budget her finances accordingly to be able to pay for her fair share.

It would be great if the three of you could go as planned, but you will have a fantastic time with whoever you end up going with. Hope everything works out for you!

 

[kfergdisney]

Seems like friend #2 needs to get her priorities straight! Ask her if she really wants to go cause it sounds like her conscience is making her decision for her. Then do what bsiev1977 said. Good advise.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I'd impress upon her that the pay in full date is not merely a suggestion nor is it something optional. I'd be tempted to angle it from a respect point of view, and ask that she decide now if she's going out of consideration for your friendship so that you can have adequate time to restructure things if it's her intention to back out. Then give her a firm deadline. I know she's a friend and you don't want to strain things, but she's the one causing the strain...you're just calling her out on it.

 

[PolynesianPrincess]

I agree with what everyone else has said. Disney sets that 45 day deadline (though sometimes they are flexible with it) so just explain to her that after that day comes and goes, you will be penalized if you make any changes or have to cancel it. Tell her you need an answer ASAP or you will have to ask her to step out of the trip. That's not fair to you or your other friend for her to do that to you.

 

[PrincessNelly_NJ]

After reading your responses, and talking to friend #1. She spoke to friend #2. Friend #2 said she would get back to us tomorrow with an answer on whether not she could in fact pay on time, But then proceeded to say that if she couldn't, she would give us an amount she was willing to pay and that we should then shorten our vacation days to fit her budget.... ???
I can only hope that if she comes, she doesn't bring her drama to Disney....

 

[Tinkerbella16]

After reading your responses, and talking to friend #1. She spoke to friend #2. Friend #2 said she would get back to us tomorrow with an answer on whether not she could in fact pay on time, But then proceeded to say that if she couldn't, she would give us an amount she was willing to pay and that we should then shorten our vacation days to fit her budget.... ???
I can only hope that if she comes, she doesn't bring her drama to Disney....

Oh I hate relying on unreliable people! I would say if you can't afford it than she should not have joined in the first place.. especially after having all that time in between to pay it off by the 45 day mark. I don't see how that would cause tension among the 3 of you. I would not shorten your trip to meet her needs. She does not seem at all worried about your needs and the possibility to ruin your fun and make it more of a hassle for you and your other friend. Good luck!

 

[rani8600]

I dont think it is fair that she wants you to shorten your vacation that you have been planing and looking forward to. If she has that much of an issue would she be able to join you for only part fo the trip...This way you and friend 1 can enjoy your full vacation and some without someone commenting on how much things are...i hope you are able to have a fun vacation

 

[PrincessNelly_NJ]

Oh I hate relying on unreliable people! I would say if you can't afford it than she should not have joined in the first place.. especially after having all that time in between to pay it off by the 45 day mark. I don't see how that would cause tension among the 3 of you. I would not shorten your trip to meet her needs. She does not seem at all worried about your needs and the possibility to ruin your fun and make it more of a hassle for you and your other friend. Good luck!

I agree! And it's just a couple hundred dollars (which I know isn't much to her.) I would hate for her to be upset if we went without her. Last year, we had planned a group trip to WDW but a few people backed out then everyone else backed out and me and my fiance went alone and everyone gave us a hard time for still going.

 

[PrincessNelly_NJ]

I dont think it is fair that she wants you to shorten your vacation that you have been planing and looking forward to. If she has that much of an issue would she be able to join you for only part fo the trip...This way you and friend 1 can enjoy your full vacation and some without someone commenting on how much things are...i hope you are able to have a fun vacation

That is a good idea, I never thought about her joining for just part of the trip.

 

[danpam1024]

After reading your responses, and talking to friend #1. She spoke to friend #2. Friend #2 said she would get back to us tomorrow with an answer on whether not she could in fact pay on time, But then proceeded to say that if she couldn't, she would give us an amount she was willing to pay and that we should then shorten our vacation days to fit her budget.... ???
I can only hope that if she comes, she doesn't bring her drama to Disney....

oh HE!! NO ! What kind of friend is that? I would say she has NO INTENTION of paying- she's probably gambling on the fact that you and the other gal want to go so badly that you both will make up the difference. Dump this chick, she sounds like bad news. Plus, she's likely leave you with bar/restaurant tabs, etc. Be careful!!!!!!!!

 

[PrincessNelly_NJ]

oh HE!! NO ! What kind of friend is that? I would say she has NO INTENTION of paying- she's probably gambling on the fact that you and the other gal want to go so badly that you both will make up the difference. Dump this chick, she sounds like bad news. Plus, she's likely leave you with bar/restaurant tabs, etc. Be careful!!!!!!!!

Pay for her? Pffff... no way. If she doesn't come, it only cost about $220 more, which me and friend # 1 agree is okay with us! She has been our friend for over 15 years so I would hope she would never do that. I just hope this trip isn't ruined, friend # 1 loves all things princess and Disney and never got to go so I want it to be a magical moment for her!

 

[bsiev1977]

After reading your responses, and talking to friend #1. She spoke to friend #2. Friend #2 said she would get back to us tomorrow with an answer on whether not she could in fact pay on time, But then proceeded to say that if she couldn't, she would give us an amount she was willing to pay and that we should then shorten our vacation days to fit her budget.... ???
I can only hope that if she comes, she doesn't bring her drama to Disney....

I don't want to dump on your friend, but what the hell kind of thing it that to ask someone? "I'll give you some of what I promised, change your plans."? If your friends bust on you because they can't go and you modify plans because you can, I hate to say it, but maybe you need new friends.

 

[danpam1024]

Pay for her? Pffff... no way. If she doesn't come, it only cost about $220 more, which me and friend # 1 agree is okay with us! She has been our friend for over 15 years so I would hope she would never do that. I just hope this trip isn't ruined, friend # 1 loves all things princess and Disney and never got to go so I want it to be a magical moment for her!

I say do it up with your princess friend! Go to Bibbidy Bobbity, Have afternoon tea at the GF, go to the spa. I once brought a life long friend with me. She paid for her tickets and that was about it. The hotel was a gift from my other friend (was my 21st bday), but I secured it with my credit card. Needless to say, my friend drank the entire mini bar at my expense. I also had to buy HER dinner on MY birthday! 15 years later, she's still a mooch- not to me though