What should I do ? I need some Help!

[Disneydreamer23]

I was in Disney in Feb for 5 days, originally my husband and I with my parents were going for 3 weeks IN September but I got pregnant and SO my parents are still going in Sept. My mom asked me to come down for the weekend so we would leave Friday night come home Monday night , the thing is I would NOT be bringing my baby which she is due in June ( the 5th) she would be 3 1.2 months old . I would have my husbands Mother watch her. We cant take her because we would be doing Universal sat sun and Monday with the US Halloween party . My Father works for Comcast and gets 50 % off park admission and party admission I would be staying in parents hotel and I have voucher for my flights only good until feb 2014. SO i would literally be paying maybe 200.00 out of pocket ( my mom offered to pay for all food ) Would you go... or would you stay home some one please help me!

 

[minnielaw]

Hey Disneyndreamer23! Great dilemma to have! Congrats on the upcoming birth of your child!

As a mother of two boys, now ages 14 and 12, I say GO FOR IT!! It is so much easier to leave your children when they are small. As they age they become involved in activities which require your attendance and they are aware that you are leaving them....trust me, my husband and I have yet to be able to plan a trip to WDW without kids!

Have fun, relax with your family and know that your baby is being cared for by a loving grandparent!

 

[luv]

Go!

Every new mother thinks her way is the best way to raise a child...and it is, for her! But the entire first year consists mainly of keeping them alive. Feed them, prevent them from falling down stairs or drinking Drano, that sort of thing. And your MIL has obviously passed the test of being able to do that properly. Plus, she will love the baby. You can't do better than that for a sitter.

Even if she drives you crazy with unsolicited parenting advice and you think she's a nut, she'll be a excellent sitter.

So don't worry about the baby. The baby will be fine! Go and go have some fun!!!

 

[ShookieJones]

Hey Disneyndreamer23! Great dilemma to have! Congrats on the upcoming birth of your child!

As a mother of two boys, now ages 14 and 12, I say GO FOR IT!! It is so much easier to leave your children when they are small. As they age they become involved in activities which require your attendance and they are aware that you are leaving them....trust me, my husband and I have yet to be able to plan a trip to WDW without kids!

Have fun, relax with your family and know that your baby is being cared for by a loving grandparent!

This times 20. I know I would have a hard time convincing my wife to go when the kids were little..,minnielaw is right - now is the time to take advantage of a situation like this.

 

[stevehousse]

As a parent, you don't get enough alone time as it is, so I say go for it! Enjoy a little time to yourself!

And what a great perk getting 50% off at universal! Jealous!

 

[bethymouse]

Go! You may not get this chance to go again!

 

[ratherbeinwdw]

I was in Disney in Feb for 5 days, originally my husband and I with my parents were going for 3 weeks IN September but I got pregnant and SO my parents are still going in Sept. My mom asked me to come down for the weekend so we would leave Friday night come home Monday night , the thing is I would NOT be bringing my baby which she is due in June ( the 5th) she would be 3 1.2 months old . I would have my husbands Mother watch her. We cant take her because we would be doing Universal sat sun and Monday with the US Halloween party . My Father works for Comcast and gets 50 % off park admission and party admission I would be staying in parents hotel and I have voucher for my flights only good until feb 2014. SO i would literally be paying maybe 200.00 out of pocket ( my mom offered to pay for all food ) Would you go... or would you stay home some one please help me!

I will be the odd women out on this one, but since you were just there for five days, I would not leave my baby to go back. I went back to teaching when my daughter was five months old and those were the longest days of my life. I would never enjoy myself at Disney with my new baby at home. That's just me. I have friends who have no trouble at all leaving their babies for long weekends and such.

 

[gardenia]

I wouldn't go. You don't realize it now, but you will NOT want to be separated from your infant. And you shouldn't be separated from an infant that age.

 

[Jeannemccabe]

I had a baby in May and my husband and I had a trip to napa valley booked in September. After I had the baby, I couldn't imagine being away from her. We had planned the trip with another couple and I felt awful, but we cancelled. I can barely stand being away from my little girl for an evening, let alone a couple if days.

Maybe not the answer your looking for. But reality froma first time mom.

 

[HouCuseChickie]

I say go.

While I love being with my kids, it's beneficial- especially for new mommies- to step back and have some "me" time. Some people will say it's selfish, but your baby will be in good hands and this is a great way to recharge your batteries. Sure you'll miss your baby- it's part of being human- but I'm really glad people pushed me into getting out and having my MIL watch our girls when we were at that stage. It's amazing how many people lose themselves in becoming parents and opportunities like this are a great way for you to be a great you and a great mommy. Plus, we've found that by having our kids spend some time with my MIL here and there, they skipped the separation anxiety some kids wind up with. Granted, my kids are older now (4 & 6) but they are thrilled to spend 4 days with grandma while we go to Vegas this summer. Now, I'm going to miss them and think about them a lot + we'll probably Skype every night- but it's going to be good for DH and I to get out and have fun now and then.

 

[rsoxguy]

You have asked what others would do, so bear in mind that this is a personal answer. I would not leave such a young baby for the trip. I ask forgiveness from the Disney fanatics for the following statement, but it's only Disney World. Your new baby will be the priority in your life.

Day and night away from a baby for an entire weekend? Not a good start. One night on a date for dinner and a show? Sure. Set it up and enjoy a great date with your spouse.

 

[luv]

It's true that you'll probably feel like, "Oh, I shouldn't leave the baby. I don't want to leave the baby. I love the baby and the baby needs me." New mothers, especially, will feel like that.

But get over it, lol. Go and have some fun! You'll be fine. The baby will be FINE. Baby would be much happier with grandma than sitting in a stroller in Orlando, I'm sure. It'll be good for you. It will also be good for the baby and for grandma. Win-win-win.

 

[Nemo14]

Personally I know I couldn't do it, that's all.

 

[Hot Lava]

Can you make your decision after the baby is born? You will know then if you feel you can leave the baby emotionally, but also if you feel up to it physically. Only you can really decide. I would not have been able to do it. But also where I live, I don't have anyone I would trust for that length of time. Also my son was colicky (although your time frame, if you had that issue, your baby would probably be past it).

If you do go, there may be some other practical considerations beyond just your attachment. Are you going to nurse? You will have to at least pump while at WDW. Not fun, and you will either have to drag a pump around the park, or run back to the hotel every few hours. Then refrigerate and transport that milk back home (unless you build up a store at home and then just "pump and dump" at WDW - which you would have to do a lot of if you are drinking).

Also, even at 3 months, your body still isn't the same. I am not even talking about the baby weight. You still have some hormonal things wreaking havoc. I had major issues with the ligaments in my legs and plantar fasciitus. So painful, especially with exercise...and you would be doing a lot of walking. You also might end up wanting to sleep the whole trip since you will be sleep deprived. I pulled by fair share of party, study and even work all-nighters over the years. I used to work 90+ hour weeks for months on end. But nothing prepared me for or felt like the sleep deprivation of a baby.

At the very least, if possible, put off this decision until after the baby is born.

PS. If baby does have colic, Dr Harvey Karp will save your life.

 

[moonwishes2013]

I can see it both ways, when I had my DD, the love of my life, ( I never thought I would have a Child), I hated having to go to work & leave her with a babysitter, I could not wait to pick her up & for my days off. But life happened & I had to quit work to keep her at home do to her health issues, I thought I would love staying at home with her, now that was 3yrs ago, I hate staying at home, now we are not like most families, I do not have anyone to leave her with for some me time, so my me time is few & far between, so what I am trying to say if you feel comfortable with it & you will know when the time comes, go for it.

 

[Hot Lava]

I hate staying at home, now we are not like most families, I do not have anyone to leave her with for some me time, so my me time is few & far between, so what I am trying to say if you feel comfortable with it & you will know when the time comes, go for it.

I don't hate staying at home, but I feel some of your pain. I don't have anyone else (other than the hubby in his off time) and little "me" time. Staying at home is really, really hard, no joke. It isn't bon bons, Dr Oz, and Real Housewives marathons.

 

[moonwishes2013]

I don't hate staying at home, but I feel some of your pain. I don't have anyone else (other than the hubby in his off time) and little "me" time. Staying at home is really, really hard, no joke. It isn't bon bons, Dr Oz, and Real Housewives marathons.

I had worked for 27yrs, & then all of a sudden I was not working anymore, I had work withdraws!!! lol!!!

 

[mamabunker]

If you do go, there may be some other practical considerations beyond just your attachment. Are you going to nurse? You will have to at least pump while at WDW. Not fun, and you will either have to drag a pump around the park, or run back to the hotel every few hours. Then refrigerate and transport that milk back home (unless you build up a store at home and then just "pump and dump" at WDW - which you would have to do a lot of if you are drinking).

I second this. It's a pain to pump.

I would not have been able to leave my children. Not judging anyone who does. I just wouldn't have been able to.

 

[PUSH]

I say go as long as you trust your MIL. It will be a nice getaway from changing diapers all the time.