Well this sucks...

R W B

R W B

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So i've been planning on proposing to my girlfriend this December since our trip last holiday season. When I found out this might be the last year for the Osbourne Lights I new that was my "excuse" for wanting to go so badly because 1, she knows how obsessed I am with LED lighting (how I earn my money, lol) and 2, I really do wanna go see them one more time. So I thought it was perfect. I've been talking to her for months on when she wanted to go, well she never really gave an answer. I was planning on going Dec 13th-15th, a nice short weekend trip. So I talked to her recently and told her to use one of her personal days for the 13th (friday) and she told me she really didn't want to go because she didn't wanna spend the money and miss work, she also didn't want to use her personal day (she loses it at years end so IDK why she wants to keep it) but this is RUINING my plans on proposing lol!!!

I then told her I'd pay for the whole trip and she started telling me that I don't need to spend all that money and she wouldn't let me do that. She said she knows I wanted to see the lights but she doesn't think its worth the trip. So IDK what to do now.

We have a nice Christmas event locally with lights and music and live holiday entertainment that runs most nights of this month and thats always been a back up plan but that was only if I couldn't afford a WDW trip but thats not the case. I never imagine my girlfriend would turn down a WDW trip and what really has me confused/torn up/not knowing what to do is I know if I propose locally she'll realize thats the REAL reason why I wanted to go to WDW and she'll be upset with herself.

I'm kind of damned if I do and damned if I don't!

How do I force someone to go to WDW and make them pay for half lol?
 
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Disvillain63

Disvillain63

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You've already told her that you'd pay for the trip. Tell her that it can be her 'Christmas present' to you, if she'd go see the lights for one last time.;) Give her the puppy dog eye-look:angelic:...my DH does that to me and it usually works, even when I'm mad at him.:rolleyes: Maybe there is some place that she's always wanted to dine or such at WDW or in the area...that might help. Besides, who wants to work on FRIDAY the 13TH!?!
 
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Weather_Lady

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As someone who's been on the receiving end of a lovely, "local" proposal, I can assure you that regardless of which spectacular lights you decide to propose under (those of WDW or those at home), she'll be thrilled... and if you don't go to WDW, you might find she's delighted that the two of you have a little more cash to put toward the wedding. :)
 
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harryk

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Looks as though she is really not a Disney fan and this may be a problem in the future if you are a Disney fan.
$$$ can be a problem in the future.
 
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Mukta

Mukta

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I would try one last time.

Be sincere. Girlfriend, it is important to me to go on this trip. As you know, the lights are my career, I love WDW and the holidays are spectacular there. I want to give you a special gift there. What can I do to convince you?

If she still says no, give up. Hopefully, she is a the kind of life partner who compromises when things are important to her partner.
 
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DManRightHere

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R W B said:
So i've been planning on proposing to my girlfriend this December since our trip last holiday season. When I found out this might be the last year for the Osbourne Lights I new that was my "excuse" for wanting to go so badly because 1, she knows how obsessed I am with LED lighting (how I earn my money, lol) and 2, I really do wanna go see them one more time. So I thought it was perfect. I've been talking to her for months on when she wanted to go, well she never really gave an answer. I was planning on going Dec 13th-15th, a nice short weekend trip. So I talked to her recently and told her to use one of her personal days for the 13th (friday) and she told me she really didn't want to go because she didn't wanna spend the money and miss work, she also didn't want to use her personal day (she loses it at years end so IDK why she wants to keep it) but this is RUINING my plans on proposing lol!!!

I then told her I'd pay for the whole trip and she started telling me that I don't need to spend all that money and she wouldn't let me do that. She said she knows I wanted to see the lights but she doesn't think its worth the trip. So IDK what to do now.

We have a nice Christmas event locally with lights and music and live holiday entertainment that runs most nights of this month and thats always been a back up plan but that was only if I couldn't afford a WDW trip but thats not the case. I never imagine my girlfriend would turn down a WDW trip and what really has me confused/torn up/not knowing what to do is I know if I propose locally she'll realize thats the REAL reason why I wanted to go to WDW and she'll be upset with herself.

I'm kind of damned if I do and damned if I don't!

How do I force someone to go to WDW and make them pay for half lol?
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Propose on the cheap and save for a nice honeymoon at Disney. A Christmas theme proposal will be great anywhere.
 
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R W B

R W B

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So it looks like we might still be going after all. Yesterday after work she told me she's trying to find someone to switch shifts with her for that Friday so I guess we'll see!

I used the "Christmas gift" speech yesterday morning so maybe that had something to do with it lol

harryk said:
Looks as though she is really not a Disney fan and this may be a problem in the future if you are a Disney fan.
$$$ can be a problem in the future.
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She's a bigger Disney but then me! She's the one that got me hooked lol.
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sorry wasnt tryin to be a smarta**

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No hard feelings!!
 
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ToTBellHop

ToTBellHop

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Give her an ultimatum. That always works. "Either we go to Disney on 12/13 or I dump you and commence a torrid love affair with my Jessica Biel poster."

She'll see the light.
 
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Disney Shib

Disney Shib

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I agree with @lunchbox1175 . Just be like "hunny, I thought you would be into it when I first suggested it but I have to admit that I already paid for the entire thing and it would mean the world to me if you came with me."
 
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R W B

R W B

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I didn't think about telling her that the trip is already paid for, thats probably what I should of done lol.


ISTCNavigator57 said:
Give her an ultimatum. That always works. "Either we go to Disney on 12/13 or I dump you and commence a torrid love affair with my Jessica Biel poster."
She'll see the light.
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Funny you mention Biel. Most of us know what Biel is known for and it isn't her acting (although she is a good actress) and yea, I totally had a thing for her a few years back and my girlfriend knows it lol.

NIkkila said:
My husband and I will be there the 15th for our ten year anniversary! If you come I will buy you a drink and we can celebrate!
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That is very nice of you and thank you for the offer but we would be leaving Sunday morning (the 15th) so that probably wouldn't work out unfortunately.
 
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danpam1024

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I would have to go with telling her it was already paid for- no refunds. and if she can't swap her shift- she CAN call in ...sick...:oops:. You can give her the speech that personal days, vacation time, sick leave etc are benefits and are of NO benefit to HER if they go unused :D
 
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docdebbi

docdebbi

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just gotta say...........lying to begin a marriage (i.e. tell her it's paid for) is not a strong foundation upon which to build.
just my two cents worth.
 
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