We have two girls - they will be 4 and 6 by the time of our next trip. Let me start off with the character meals we've done that we've enjoyed (beyond Chef Mickey's and Crystal Palace, which we also enjoy for early breakfasts).
1. 1900 Park Fare Breakfast - Alice and Mary Poppins are what make this meal special (I wish i could say the same for the Mad Hatter, but we never get a good one). On our first visit, Alice spoke in riddles which was a lot of fun. On our second visit, Mary Poppins actually sang with my girls. This is also our fave for food. I am still trying to justify keeping it on our schedule for next trip.
2. CRT (we've done lunch and dinner) - While I prefer the food and service at Akershus, the setting w/CRT trumps everything for a first princess meal IMO. It's just very cool to eat in the castle and I know both of my girls still talk about their visits. The service at our last dinner here was pretty bad- as was the food...but no regrets.
3. Akershus (we've done lunch and dinner)- If you can swing it, doing this one as well as CRT is a lot of fun. Like I noted before, we prefer the food and service here. My kids also enjoy that the princesses do their parade around the dining room. We are all huge fans of the cold bar. My girls love the cheese, meats, and I think they'd like me to bring home a whole tub full of shrimp salad.
4. Hollywood and Vine Breakfast - while this one usually appeals more to the younger ones, we loved this meal. The food was great, the service wonderful, we were out before 9am w/an 8:05a adr, and the character interaction was some of the best we've ever experienced.
5. 'Ohana Breakfast - The food was not the greatest when we went, but the service and character interaction was top notch. It may not be something we do every trip, but we would return.
We are trying a few new things this upcoming trip...
-Garden Grill
-Cape May breakfast
-1900 Park Fare dinner
The only character meal that we've done and didn't really care for was Tusker House breakfast. I know most people love this one, but the morning we went it was a mess. It's sad b/c I was really looking forward to more interesting breakfast food in a more unique setting, but the service was bad, character interaction awful, and food gross (either dried out, undercooked, or highly picked over). Our experience was likely the exception and not the norm, but it's worth noting since I've seen others with experiences similar to ours as well.