To take the little one or not??

HoneyMnShawnee

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I am looking into booking a trip for next May for mine and my husbands 3rd anniversary.. I am currently pregnant with our first child - a little girl and she will be approximately 8 months old when we'd like to go.. I am debating about whether we should take her.. We are currently going through major WDW withdrawl, but I don't know if I would be able to leave her for 5 or 6 days while me and hubby go away.. Has anyone left an infant at home to have a trip with your significant other at WDW or should we just take her?? If we take her, we would most likely be going for a longer trip.. Grateful for any input you parents have!!!
 

KingStefan

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Take her! It will be an entirely new experience. Just make sure to expect to do different things than you normally do.

This is bound to be a controversial thread, BTW. There are strong opinions on both sides
 

HoneyMnShawnee

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Not meaning to be controversial.. Just was wondering what other parents had done.. It's all new territory to me, considering I'm a first time parent..
 

Master Yoda

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You are going to have to answer a very hard question very honestly.

Are you willing to let your 8 month old dictate what you do on your trip?

Anytime you bring a small child, especially an infant, you will need to be on their schedule. You let them nap when the want to nap, eat when they want to eat and ride what they want to ride. You can no longer run around the parks from sun up to sun down commando style like you did pre-parenthood. If you can do this by all means bring the new one. If you are not quite ready to let go and want one last big kids only hurrah then leave the little one at home.

From my own personal experience I had always thought people that brought babies to WDW were cracked in the head. Then I had my own child and boy did my opinions change

My youngest was 10 days old on her first WDW trip and it was a blast. It was without a doubt different than my previous trips but it was a trip that I will never forget. She might not remember the trip but my wife and I sure do.

If you do decide to bring you newest addition to WDW do not hesitate to get advice and ask questions. You can learn quite a bit from other's failures and triumphs when it comes to going to WDW with an infant.
 
Once she's here, you probably won't even consider leaving her behind. My husband and I had a trip to Hawaii planned for when my daughter was about 9 months old before she was born and we cancelled it altogether because there was no way we could leave her (or take her on a long flight like that). :) And to Disney World of all places? Take her, that would be a blast!
 

k.hunter30

New Member
I'd take the little one!

If it were a one-month-old in July/August... not sure about that... But an eight-month-old in May... do it!
 

LetsGoAgain

New Member
If you are going to be nursing, then definitely take her. My youngest was 4 months old when DH won a trip to Vegas through work. I was nursing at the time and so we paid to fly my parents out there so that they could baby sit while DH and I attended the awards ceremonies. We all had a great time! I imagine WDW would be even better.

There is no way I could have left my baby at such a young age. DH ended up winning the trip again this past March and we went to Miami. Our girls were then 15 months and 3 years old so it was a little easier to leave them but we sure did miss them a heck of a lot!

You will have to make the call. Only you know what you and your DH will be happy with. I would hate to be in WDW and miserably be missing my baby. :veryconfu
 

KingStefan

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Not meaning to be controversial.. Just was wondering what other parents had done.. It's all new territory to me, considering I'm a first time parent..

Oh, I didn't mean to scold - I'm sure you didn't mean to be controversial. I was just making a general warning.

However, I am pleasantly surprised at the lack of negative response (so far), and so perhaps my warning was unwarranted. Let's hope.

Yoda had it absolutely right on. Well put, Yoda. It's difficult to find something to add.

Your whole life before you is going to be filled with wonder and delight, and your lives will be different in ways that you never would have expected. There will also at times be great frustration. These statements apply to every aspect of your life, not just going to WDW. It's best to try to enjoy every moment you can with your little princess.

And so if you decide to bring the little one along, your trip will be filled with wonder and delight and frustration and will be different in ways that you never would have expected. The experience is a bit different for everyone, so no advice any of us could give you will be perfect. But the experience will be unforgettable. And hopefully magical.

Here is some advice that seems like it almost goes without saying, but I've seen so many people at WDW who just didn't seem to get it that I guess it's important to say: try to conform to your babies routine as much as possible. Don't overstress her. And see the magic of WDW through your child's eyes. If you do this, you will surely have a magical trip.

Every child is different, so you will know what your child's needs are better than anyone. Make sure she gets her usual amount of rest and sleep. Make sure she doesn't get overheated or sunburned or dehydrated. And try to conform to her usual feeding routine.

Try to think of what you would want to do if you were she.

To be sure, do some things for yourself as well. Most thrill rides have baby swap, so take advantage of that, but don't do it all day, 'cause that's not much fun for her. If you're comfortable with it and can afford it get a sitter one night and go out someplace romantic. (She'll be too little for the kids clubs).

And once again as Yoda said, please feel free to ask for our advice on any specific things you need to know. I've never been there with an infant that small - 1 1/2 to 2 yo was the youngest either of my kids were. But we're all here to help and there are a lot of parents that have had young kids there that are more than willing to discuss and help.
 

tigsmom

Well-Known Member
Only you can make this decision. If you do a search you will see that this is a very hot topic around here. :lookaroun

If it was me I would either take her along or not go. She may not remember it, but kids live in the moment. If you are unwilling to adjust your schedule and plans to accommodate her then don't take her...your choice.
 

PineapplePrincess

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As others have said, only you can make the decision. For me, it would depend on who would be taking care of the baby. If it's someone who loves her (a grandmother) and who you are certain would take as good care of her as you would, then I'd go without her. I'm a firm believer in staying connected with your spouse. On the other hand if there is not someone you would trust 100% to take care of her, then bring her. A trip to WDW is magical no matter what.
 

sbkline

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When we went in 2007, our son was not quite a year old yet. And when we went in 2008, he was almost two. We left him at home with his grandparents both times. Master Yoda was right on when he gave that list of questions to ask yourself. And for us, the answer was no. We weren't willing to try to deal with an infant on that long car trip, nor at WDW. We wanted to enjoy our vacation unencumbered by having to tend to the needs of an infant and all the responsibility that this entails. We figure we'll take him for sure on our next trip, whether the next trip ends up being next year (at three years old), or sometime after that. But for now, at the age that he was, we didn't feel like WDW was any place for a child that age and that it would only make the trip less enjoyable for all three of us.

I'm not trying to tell you what to do one way or the other. I'm just telling you what we did and why. But on the 2nd child, it may be different. Speaking for myself, if things go as planned/hoped and my wife gets pregnant soon then once the baby is done nursing, I would like to consider a trip to WDW with both kids, rather than taking the older one and leaving the younger one at home.
 

HoneyMnShawnee

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Thanks for everyone's thoughts and advice.. We know we have a difficult decision ahead of us.. I'm thinking this may be a wait and see, as I know there is no way I can make the decision right now..
 

KingStefan

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When we went in 2007, our son was not quite a year old yet. And when we went in 2008, he was almost two. We left him at home with his grandparents both times. Master Yoda was right on when he gave that list of questions to ask yourself. And for us, the answer was no. We weren't willing to try to deal with an infant on that long car trip, nor at WDW. We wanted to enjoy our vacation unencumbered by having to tend to the needs of an infant and all the responsibility that this entails. We figure we'll take him for sure on our next trip, whether the next trip ends up being next year (at three years old), or sometime after that. But for now, at the age that he was, we didn't feel like WDW was any place for a child that age and that it would only make the trip less enjoyable for all three of us.

An excellent response! After reading this well-written post, I was prompted to point out that this is a perfectly valid opinion, and it is NOT what I meant in an earlier post about "negative responses". What I meant by "negative response" was the poster who comes in and vehemently insists that anyone who takes their kids that age is a complete moron and is ruining it for the rest of us having their screaming drooling brats around to disturb us, and/or that they are somehow damaging the kids for life or whatever and/or that the kid is not going to remember anything so what is the point, or that it's a big ego trip for the parents, etc., etc.

sbkline's response is typical of a well thought-out reasoning that results in realizing that taking a younger kid is just not for them, and that's fine. You will have to decide for yourselves whether that's true for you or not.

Thanks for everyone's thoughts and advice.. We know we have a difficult decision ahead of us.. I'm thinking this may be a wait and see, as I know there is no way I can make the decision right now..

Take your time. Who knows? You may feel differently as time goes on. I hope you have a magical trip either way. Blessings on you and your family.
 

sbkline

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An excellent response! After reading this well-written post, I was prompted to point out that this is a perfectly valid opinion, and it is NOT what I meant in an earlier post about "negative responses". What I meant by "negative response" was the poster who comes in and vehemently insists that anyone who takes their kids that age is a complete moron and is ruining it for the rest of us having their screaming drooling brats around to disturb us, and/or that they are somehow damaging the kids for life or whatever and/or that the kid is not going to remember anything so what is the point, or that it's a big ego trip for the parents, etc., etc.

sbkline's response is typical of a well thought-out reasoning that results in realizing that taking a younger kid is just not for them, and that's fine. You will have to decide for yourselves whether that's true for you or not.

On the opposite side, there are those negative responses such as "how could any parent even THINK of leaving their kid", all the way up to implying that one is an unfit parent if he/she prefers to leave their child with Grandma. Unfortunately, there are a few on these boards who are just as negative in that direction as the kind of people that you describe.

I respect a person's decision to take their infant or not to take him...that's their business. And I'm certainly not going to condemn a person for being selfish in wanting to take their child to WDW because my motives for wanting to leave the infant behind are just as selfish. Ultimately, it comes down to "how can *I* best enjoy *MY* vacation", whether you choose to bring your infant or not. I'm not saying there's a thing wrong with that...just saying that that's how it is.
 

KingStefan

Well-Known Member
On the opposite side, there are those negative responses such as "how could any parent even THINK of leaving their kid", all the way up to implying that one is an unfit parent if he/she prefers to leave their child with Grandma. Unfortunately, there are a few on these boards who are just as negative in that direction as the kind of people that you describe.

I respect a person's decision to take their infant or not to take him...that's their business. And I'm certainly not going to condemn a person for being selfish in wanting to take their child to WDW because my motives for wanting to leave the infant behind are just as selfish. Ultimately, it comes down to "how can *I* best enjoy *MY* vacation", whether you choose to bring your infant or not. I'm not saying there's a thing wrong with that...just saying that that's how it is.

Here here! You are absolutely correct!
 

HoneyMnShawnee

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I respect a person's decision to take their infant or not to take him...that's their business. And I'm certainly not going to condemn a person for being selfish in wanting to take their child to WDW because my motives for wanting to leave the infant behind are just as selfish. Ultimately, it comes down to "how can *I* best enjoy *MY* vacation", whether you choose to bring your infant or not. I'm not saying there's a thing wrong with that...just saying that that's how it is.

This is exactly what I'm trying to figure out.. How can I enjoy my vacation to the best of my ability.. It's nice to hear both sides of the story.. Thanks to everyone for the supportive comments..
 

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