Said something you wish you hadn't?

Tomi-Rocket

Tomi-Rocket

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Okay, this isn't so much about telling people off as much as wishing you hadn't said something at all.

Before our last trip I had told the kids after my DS turned 16 they'd be allowed to go off in the parks on their own for a bit. Not the whole day or anything like that but long enough that they could go to breakfast or lunch on their own. Okay, fast forward a few years, waaaaay faster than I ever expected, next year is that trip and I find myself going, "Why did I ever say that?!?" Of course, the kids are excited to do it and I'm not. It's not a safety issue, just missing time together as a family, something we don't get a whole lot of during the year. But we will let them do it, hey, maybe they will only want to do it for one day or cut short the time we give them, who knows? I can always hope, right? Lol....

Has anyone else said something they wish they hadn't?
 
zurgandfriend

zurgandfriend

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I let my dear son go off in the Magic Kingdom and the other parks by himself at 13 years old. He kept asking for "space" and telling me he was too big to tag along with Dad and Mom. The ground rules were don't leave the park, it's okay to buy lunch or something like a picture on splash mountain and charge it to our room, but don't be purchasing any $500.00 watches etc. I found that after about an hour in each park my son texted my dear wife and I and asked "where are you I don't want to be alone anymore."
 
Britt

Britt

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Awwww, I think they'll have fun and you guys will get some 'kid free" time on vacation. You don't have to spend every moment with eachother to get some really good bonding time : )

I like the idea that Zurgandfriend had....let them know they can go off, but they must stay IN the parks, can charge specific items to the room/lunch, but thats it. I'd let them have the morning to themselves and then meet up right after lunch and spend the rest of the day with eachother ;)
 
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Beholder

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At the age of 16, my daughter prefers to be with friends over parents, so "space" is good for all concerned. It's harder on us parents than it is them.
 
Tomi-Rocket

Tomi-Rocket

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Oh, there will definitely be rules in place, lol! Stay in the park we are in, keep your cell charged and ready to answer whether it be a call or text and since we use the dining plan they need to know what type of place they can eat in and finally STICK TOGETHER.

I do think my DH and I will enjoy some time to ourselves, also. I guess it will be okay as long as their first excursion alone goes off without a hitch. I might even start to look forward to the "space", too, lol.
 
BrittanyRose428

BrittanyRose428

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When I went in December, I was with my grandparents, myself (20 years old), and my cousin (17 years old). And my grandparents would not let us out of their site, because they are "responsible for us" and "worried about us" and all that. I get that its more of an issue when its not your own child, but I'm 20 years old. Its not like I've ever been a problem child or anything, and I've spent days in WDW by myself before anyways. I don't get it. It wasn't that I was in a teenager phase of not wanting to be with parents/grandparents. It was more of, when they're tired, I didn't want to watch them take a nap in the room. I don't know if that sounds selfish, but I mean, thats not what I want to do in WDW.
 
Britt

Britt

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Basketcase463 said:
When I went in December, I was with my grandparents, myself (20 years old), and my cousin (17 years old). And my grandparents would not let us out of their site, because they are "responsible for us" and "worried about us" and all that. I get that its more of an issue when its not your own child, but I'm 20 years old. Its not like I've ever been a problem child or anything, and I've spent days in WDW by myself before anyways. I don't get it. It wasn't that I was in a teenager phase of not wanting to be with parents/grandparents. It was more of, when they're tired, I didn't want to watch them take a nap in the room. I don't know if that sounds selfish, but I mean, thats not what I want to do in WDW.
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Oh my gosh, that is hilarious and AWFUL!!!! lol <3
 
Dad 2 M & M

Dad 2 M & M

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I know you mentioned safety wasn't an issue, but if you are concerned whatsoever, their free time needs to be A.M. as you suggested....and be selfish with the time you have with them!!!
M & M get their own room now!
 
BrittanyRose428

BrittanyRose428

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Britt said:
Oh my gosh, that is hilarious and AWFUL!!!! lol <3
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More awful lol. My parents even explained to them that it is perfectly okay for us to go off by ourselves, but they wouldn't have it. It got pretty awkward, because I wasn't going to start an argument while my grandparents were taking me on vacation. But lets just say we were in bed earlyyy and I took a couple of naps at the hotel. I really wanted to see the Kiss Goodnight. Sometime it will happen lol.
 
sydney

sydney

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Basketcase463 said:
More awful lol. My parents even explained to them that it is perfectly okay for us to go off by ourselves, but they wouldn't have it. It got pretty awkward, because I wasn't going to start an argument while my grandparents were taking me on vacation. But lets just say we were in bed earlyyy and I took a couple of naps at the hotel. I really wanted to see the Kiss Goodnight. Sometime it will happen lol.
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Wow I couldn't imagine! My grandparents have come with us on our disney vacations sense we(my brother and I) were 2 and 3.(now 21 & 22) they came visit me 4 times on my college program and thy were the ones wanting to do whatever I wanted haha. I love going to the parks with them, they are so fun and care free!
 
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DisneyDebNJ

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Tomi-Rocket said:
Okay, this isn't so much about telling people off as much as wishing you hadn't said something at all.

Before our last trip I had told the kids after my DS turned 16 they'd be allowed to go off in the parks on their own for a bit. Not the whole day or anything like that but long enough that they could go to breakfast or lunch on their own. Okay, fast forward a few years, waaaaay faster than I ever expected, next year is that trip and I find myself going, "Why did I ever say that?!?" Of course, the kids are excited to do it and I'm not. It's not a safety issue, just missing time together as a family, something we don't get a whole lot of during the year. But we will let them do it, hey, maybe they will only want to do it for one day or cut short the time we give them, who knows? I can always hope, right? Lol....

Has anyone else said something they wish they hadn't?
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Yep yep and yep ... I told my son, if he married someone we approved of (dont judge LOLOL) we would pay for the wedding and honeymoon IF he got married at Disney. He has no steady girlfriend as of yet?? but holds me to it, even plans to check out the wedding pavillion during out next visit in a few weeks. Shoot me now LOLOL
 
sydney

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DisneyDebNJ said:
Yep yep and yep ... I told my son, if he married someone we approved of (dont judge LOLOL) we would pay for the wedding and honeymoon IF he got married at Disney. He has no steady girlfriend as of yet?? but holds me to it, even plans to check out the wedding pavillion during out next visit in a few weeks. Shoot me now LOLOL
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My dad wants me to get married at Disney World too! He thinks it should be all out and extravagant with my dress and in front of the castle. I warned him of the ticket price for such an event but he says that's his job. I wish you luck haha
 
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DisneyDebNJ

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sydney said:
My dad wants me to get married at Disney World too! He thinks it should be all out and extravagant with my dress and in front of the castle. I warned him of the ticket price for such an event but he says that's his job. I wish you luck haha
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And he has every right to wish that for his Princess!! LOL But ........ he DID tell you his wishes, so like my son is doing... hold him to it ;)
 
acishere

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During my teenage trips to Disney, we would always go with another family. We would only do certain things all together, rest of the time the adults and kids stayed separated until it was time for a park break, dinner, fireworks, etc. Occasionally they would call and check where we are. We weren't doing everything together as a family, but it the most stress-free option. Teenagers just seems to clash with parents on vacations like this and the adults I guess reached a, "Fine, do what you want! We're getting margaritas in Mexico!" point in terms of dealing with us. In the end we were much more agreeable during the time we did spend together.

Basketcase463 said:
When I went in December, I was with my grandparents, myself (20 years old), and my cousin (17 years old). And my grandparents would not let us out of their site, because they are "responsible for us" and "worried about us" and all that. I get that its more of an issue when its not your own child, but I'm 20 years old. Its not like I've ever been a problem child or anything, and I've spent days in WDW by myself before anyways. I don't get it. It wasn't that I was in a teenager phase of not wanting to be with parents/grandparents. It was more of, when they're tired, I didn't want to watch them take a nap in the room. I don't know if that sounds selfish, but I mean, thats not what I want to do in WDW.
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I'm 25 now and during our trip in June when me and my girlfriend separated from the group for the rest of the day, she asked me to check in and say where we are and that we got back to the room safe. It was weird since we were staying at different hotels and would of had to separate eventually. But anytime it was clear we had plans to do something away from everyone else, she wanted to know our every move. It was weird to suddenly get treated like a 16 y/o. Though its probably just her not liking my gf.
 
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Beholder

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To all the young folks on here getting frustrated by parents and grandparents being a little smothering, us parents can't help it. We're wired this way. I remember not wanting to be around my patents from about age 15-20, but to us, you guys and girls will always be our children. It's tough to not take the natural desire to be independent as rejection or not being needed anymore. It's all natural and part of life, but still tough.
 
luv

luv

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Kids, your parents and grandparents love you...and they like you. They enjoy spending their vacation fun time with you.

I know most teens and even the more immature early 20s kids don't get this. It's annoying. You want to be free of the old folks and have fun.

But I PROMISE you...someday you will be so glad you had all that. The self that you're going to be then will want to go back for more of this SO BADLY, but won't be able to do that. You will be annoying your own kids and grandkids, who will be hinting or telling you outright that you are no fun and they dont want to hang around you...and asking you can't they please just go somewhere that you aren't?!

So, do your future self a favor and try to enjoy it now. You don't get it back.

Geez, I sound old!!!
 
coachwnh

coachwnh

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a regret? yes!! asking my parents if they wanted to meet us there.. now we cant go without the whole family inviting themselves. i know it sounds bad, but when im on vacation, i want stress free living!!
 

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