Raining On Every Parade

[celluloid]

Don't let someone else's lack of enjoyment of something ruin your enjoyment of it. That is the best advice I can think of.

If someone else can't control how they think of it, you can control how you think of it and it need not hinder any enjoyment.

 

[flynnibus]

Could have taken your own advice and ignored this thread.

Yeah yeah!! Let's point at the 3rd guy in the chain instead of the guys inciting the mess. Safe space engaged!

 

[_caleb]

Yeah yeah!! Let's point at the 3rd guy in the chain instead of the guys inciting the mess. Safe space engaged!

This is exactly the type of post I had in mind when I started this thread. I wasn’t trying to bring more negativity, but to bring to light a pattern I find here that I’m concerned gets in the way of enjoyable conversation for as many people possible.

The sarcasm in your post is designed to shut down conversation. The “safe space” comment was intended to what, mock people? Belittle? It certainly wasn’t meant to encourage, was it?

We don’t know each other in real life, maybe that’s why you find it easy to treat people like they’re not worth more than a snide comment?

I truly appreciate your contributions to this forum. I think we can do better than this.

 

[_caleb]

Don't let someone else's lack of enjoyment of something ruin your enjoyment of it. That is the best advice I can think of.

If someone else can't control how they think of it, you can control how you think of it and it need not hinder any enjoyment.

Overall, I enjoy the discussion here. If I didn’t, I wouldn’t come back. But the meanspirited and belittling posts I read here makes me wonder what the point is sometimes.

 

[flynnibus]

This is exactly the type of post I had in mind when I started this thread. I wasn’t trying to bring more negativity, but to bring to light a pattern I find here that I’m concerned gets in the way of enjoyable conversation for the most people.

The sarcasm in your post is designed to shut down conversation. The “safe space” comment was intended to what, mock people? Belittle? It certainly wasn’t meant to encourage, was it?

It's way simpler than that.

Remember what smokey the bear used to say?


I don't need to 'shutdown' any conversation. You could have taken the high road and just skipped over this group of posters you refer to.. but instead you want to rally people in a discussion about them.

If you really think they are not genuine, you're doing exactly what they want... giving their behavior attention. If you think they are genuine, but you don't agree with them, then you're just spinning up new drama by trying to talk about other posters but in a context you want to control.

If you find those posters distracting in a way that the site owner has deemed not worthy of cleaning up - then take control in the way you've already been enabled to. By removing those posters from your experience. Do you really think opening a discussion on the worthiness of their POV or response is going to improve anything? You've clearly not swayed their opinion in the subject at hand.. so opening a thread just about their posture is not just going to make things worse? Come on..

There are plenty of hopeless contributors on the site... and it takes 2 seconds to move on from them. No open pleas needed.

 

[_caleb]

It's way simpler than that.

Remember what smokey the bear used to say?
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I don't need to 'shutdown' any conversation.

If you didn’t intend to shut me down, why did you post what you did the way you did?

You could have taken the high road and just skipped over this group of posters you refer to.. but instead you want to rally people in a discussion about them.

Honestly, yes, I am hopeful that by talking about the negativity I might raise awareness so maybe a handful of us could commit to trying to do better.

If you really think they are not genuine, you're doing exactly what they want... giving their behavior attention. If you think they are genuine, but you don't agree with them, then you're just spinning up new drama by trying to talk about other posters but in a context you want to control.

I ignore posts all the time—I think we all do. I’m not trying to stir up drama, I’m trying to discuss the discussion.

If you find those posters distracting in a way that the site owner has deemed not worthy of cleaning up - then take control in the way you've already been enabled to. By removing those posters from your experience. Do you really think opening a discussion on the worthiness of their POV or response is going to improve anything? You've clearly not swayed their opinion in the subject at hand.. so opening a thread just about their posture is not just going to make things worse? Come on..

There are plenty of hopeless contributors on the site... and it takes 2 seconds to move on from them. No open pleas needed.

Message boards like this have their own cultures. How we interact shapes that, and I am indeed looking for feedback- is it just me? Is anyone else bothered by the snark, condescension, and mocking? If I’m not the only one, maybe some of us can be a little more intentional about how we interact.

I’m not upset by any of this. Like most here, I use social media every day and I see all kinds of nonsense all the time. I find it interesting to talk about what motivates those who participate.

And I’d just like the conversation here to be civil and generally kind if at all possible.

 

[Mr Ferret 75]

Yeah yeah!! Let's point at the 3rd guy in the chain instead of the guys inciting the mess. Safe space engaged!

Well guy three was royally triggered by the truth