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For the past three years my mother an I made an annual trip to Disney World. She has been in poor health for the past 6 years but always looked forward to our trips. We had a trip planned for June 13 - 21, unfortunatley she passed away last week.

My one brother thinks I should go with our other brother as we were her primary care takers. I am torn if I should go or not.

If I decide to go, will changing the reservations easy?

Thanks for the help!

6/6/06
My brother and I decided to go, mom would want us to. Disney was a breeze to change and very empathetic to our situation. The airline wasn't all that difficult. I had to request a refund for my moms ticket and then purchase a new ticket for my brother. Considering our trip is only a week away, I was really happy there was only a $40 difference in the airfare.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers, I know it will be a little difficult but she would have wanted us to go and enjoy ourselves.
Michelle

 

[napnet]

I am very sorry for your loss. As for if you should go, it might be a nice way to remember her for both of you. I am sure Disney would be more than accomidating in changing any reservations due to a death.

 

[coltow]

So very sorry for you loss.

Of course the decision is yours. If it were me I think I'd like the break that WDW gives to you from the world.

 

[Ciciwoowoo]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You should call and ask about changing things.

I think if it were me, I'd postpone the trip for a bit. You might be too emotional to enjoy yourself. (I know I would be) Maybe six months down the road would be a better time to go, and yes, bring your brother!

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[olive10tails]

I'm sorry about your mom.

If it would make you feel as though it is part of your remembrance to her, then go ahead. I know my mom would not want me canceling or postponing a trip that was so special to us. She would want me to go and enjoy/remember all the great times. If her passing is still too recent for you, you may want to reschedule. Sometimes it's better to get away for a while and clear your mind. It all depends on you-you can only make that call.

 

[shoppingnut]

Sorry for your loss. I would go because it will give you a little breather from the real world. Caring for an ill parent is not an easy task, I know first hand, you and your brother should go. I am sure there will still be many more things, including tons of paperwork, that you will have to handle in the coming months, which will be very stressful, so I would take this time to decompress and go to a place where there are many happy memories.

 

[3fordisney]

I am sorry to hear of your loss. If it were me, I would go. It might be good for you and your brother. She might not want you to miss your trip. I know my mom would not want me to miss it. She'd want me to go in honor of her and have a good time. I agree with some of the other post. There will be paperwork, things to take care of, and it might be good to get away for a little while before you have to deal with that stuff.

Go with your gut feeling and do what's right for you. Hope this helps and I will say a prayer for you and your family!

 

[cdunbar]

I am so very sorry for your lost and I have gone through this experience with my best friend, the loss of her mother, she and her mother were suppose to go but after her mothers death she felt like she couldnt do it but as her best friend I knew her mom wouldnt want her to drown in her sadness so we went ahead and went and did enjoy ourselves, I know that most parents are like this, they don't want your life to completly stop just because they are gone now they want you to keep on living and Im sure your mother would feel the same. And on the topic of changing the reservastions I imagine it would be nothing more than a simple phone call to change the others guests name. Once again you sorry for your loss, the loss of a parent is one of the hardest things a person will ever go through especially in your situation since you had been provinding her care.

 

[Teenchy]

So sorry for your loss.

My Mom is the one that lit the fire for the love of Disney in me. Whenever I go I think of her. I'm sure when she is gone , my first visit back to WDW will bring a tear because I will be thinking of her, but it would be a tear of joy and rememberance than of sorrow. I surprised my parents (they are in their early 70's) and took them to WDW this past Christmas. Our first night was to MK for MVMCP, I will never forget the look and tears my Mom shed when she saw Main street all decked out for her favorite holiday. In the future I think that will always be one of my best memories, of my Mom, WDW and Christmas.

You can only judge for yourself how you would feel going at this time. But I know for me it would be just another step in the healing process.

Good luck and God bless <><

 

[Craig & Lisa]

I too am sorry for your loss. My mother-in-law loved WDW as well, she could not walk too well so she enjoyed from the wheelchair, my wife wasn't sure if she would want to go without her, but, we brought her ashes with us and spread a small amount in the rose gardens, ( she loved them), we still miss her greatly, but she's always with us when we go in spirit, so she's not really gone, hope this helps.

 

[WaltzingMatilda]

I too am sorry for your loss. My mother-in-law loved WDW as well, she could not walk too well so she enjoyed from the wheelchair, my wife wasn't sure if she would want to go without her, but, we brought her ashes with us and spread a small amount in the rose gardens, ( she loved them), we still miss her greatly, but she's always with us when we go in spirit, so she's not really gone, hope this helps.

That's darn near the coolest thing I've ever read.

 

[Dagger]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You should call and ask about changing things.

I think if it were me, I'd postpone the trip for a bit. You might be too emotional to enjoy yourself. (I know I would be) Maybe six months down the road would be a better time to go, and yes, bring your brother!

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

I think I would feel this way too, however, if your mother was the type that was a fun-loving spirit, she would probably want you to go.

My prayers are with you.

 

[WeLComeHomE OKW]

im so sorry about your loss. I think it would be best if you went with your other brother. Disney is just the type of place you would want to be in a time like this.

 

[Nansafan]

For the past three years my mother an I made an annual trip to Disney World. She has been in poor health for the past 6 years but always looked forward to our trips. We had a trip planned for June 13 - 21, unfortunatley she passed away last week.

My one brother thinks I should go with our other brother as we were her primary care takers. I am torn if I should go or not.

If I decide to go, will changing the reservations easy?

Thanks for the help!

So sorry for your loss. When my mother passed in 2000, my brother, sister and I decided Christmas would just be too hard without her so we left for DL and celebrated with Mom there.

Changing your reservations with Disney is no problem. The airlines (if you will be flying) will be more of a challenge and might include an upcharge for the change.