I need some adult advice. Or just a talk.

[LoriMistress]

Im worried about his wife going mad at her (Which i dont blame her to be honest) but if she expects me to support her whilst thats happening i just cant. I feel helpless. Especially since my own family has almost been torn apart (But then again so has hers.. ) by someone else., i cant help resenting her a little for what shes gonna do to a family.


What is wrong with people!:veryconfu:hammer::brick:

That wife will probably not be made at your friend. She knows that your friend IS A CHILD. Your friend didn't put the wedge between their marriage. YOUR BOSS DID THAT. He KNEW better then to hit on a child, and he felt that he could mess around with a child that's almost HALF HIS AGE!!! He's disgusting. *If* the wife is upset with your friend--she shouldn't be. She's upset of the situation that her husband and put her and her family through. Why resent your friend? Even if your friend was butt naked in his bed begging for his love--the bottom line is that YOUR BOSS is an ADULT, and he KNOWS the difference between right and wrong. He's her boss, she's a minor, and he's married with children. You shouldn't be mad at your friend--you should be outrage that your BOSS took advantage of your friend and abused his trust as boss and employee.

 

[glee]

In england the age of consent is 16.:dazzle::hammer::brick: So he hasnt done anything illegal. (I personally think it should be 18!)

I think my friend will move on eventually. I just keep telling her my thoughts an i think im getting through to her. Thanks everyone! :animwink::animwink:

 

[LoriMistress]

In england the age of consent is 16.:dazzle::hammer::brick: So he hasnt done anything illegal. (I personally think it should be 18!)

I think my friend will move on eventually. I just keep telling her my thoughts an i think im getting through to her. Thanks everyone! :animwink::animwink:

I keep forgetting the consenting age is sixteen in the UK, but she is technically a child: she can't join the service until she's at least 18, she's not technically an adult until she's 18, etc. He has done something illegal because he's a boss and he's sexually harassing an employee who's also a child. If your boss's boss found out he's been hitting on an employee who's also sixteen, he would be fired.

 

[unkadug]

I keep forgetting the consenting age is sixteen in the UK, but she is technically a child: she can't join the service until she's at least 18, she's not technically an adult until she's 18, etc. He has done something illegal because he's a boss and he's sexually harassing an employee who's also a child. If your boss's boss found out he's been hitting on an employee who's also sixteen, he would be fired.

Perhaps therein lies the answer!

 

[glee]

Perhaps therein lies the answer!

Its not illegal to hit on a 16 year old. It would be a 15 year old but we do not employ anyone under 16. :hammer:

Hopefully he will just grow up!

 

[Monty]

Its not illegal to hit on a 16 year old. It would be a 15 year old but we do not employ anyone under 16. :hammer:

Hopefully he will just grow up!

I don't know the laws where you are, but age of consent is normally only applicable where there older person is not in a position of authority over the younger. Since in this instance he is her boss, it would still constitute Statutory Rape in some jurisdictions. If not, it certainly qualifies as $exual harassment in any work environment, whether it's consensual or not.

 

[DisneyLeo18]

Since I had an experience like this, I guess I can jump in and lend some advice. And I mean I was in her shoes...

I was about 18 I think (21 now) and I started talking to a woman at work (28 at the time) and she wasn't my boss, but a co-worker non the less. We started hanging out as friends and feelings developed. All this while in the past year or so she had just got married. I knew her marriage wasn't going well, and that's probably why she was hanging out with me, but of course that doesn't make it right. In the end I was hurt because obviously it was something that wasn't ending well. Now to this day we are best friends and have no issues.

My advice would be to explain the consequences to your friend, and maybe she will understand. I think your situation is a little different because you're both girls. Usually girls are smarter with things like this. My guy friends, instead of giving me good advice, gave me the old "Oh thats awesome bro!! a hot older chick??!?! Nice!!" which isn't good. :ROFLOL:

Anyway good luck :wave:

 

[LoriMistress]

Its not illegal to hit on a 16 year old. It would be a 15 year old but we do not employ anyone under 16. :hammer:

Hopefully he will just grow up!

I'm sure it's against work policy for a manager/boss/anyone that has authority to be sexually harassing an employee--particularly someone that's under the age of 18. (It may not be illegal, but probably frowned upon). For a boss to use and take advantage of an employee by abusing his authority, it's morally and ethically wrong on many levels. He needs to be reported.

 

[glee]

Just got a New store manager...Do you think hes ready for that...:lol::hammer:

 

[LoriMistress]

Just got a New store manager...Do you think hes ready for that...:lol::hammer:

I would report the activities to the new store manager of his behavior with other employees.

 

[Monty]

Just got a New store manager...Do you think hes ready for that...:lol::hammer:

"Managers" are paid the big bucks to "Manage". It's his job, whether he's ready or not.

 

[unkadug]

"Managers" are paid the big bucks to "Manage". It's his job, whether he's ready or not.

I agree wholeheartedly. If they thought enough of the manager to put him in that position then he/she should be capable of dealing with it. If not, then they need to find someone that can.