I have to go again

graphite1326

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Original Poster
On our last visit (October), we took my older brother. He had never gone before and for some reason invited himself on this trip. I told him to get good shoes and go out waking and get used to it and in shape. He didn't. Although he went on rides like ToT and Splash and didn't complain much he still kinda was a burden. We were walking a lot slower than usual and he still could not keep up. At one point he even said we were going to fast and wanted to slow things down. To make a long story short we only got to see about 60% of we usually see. I was really disappointed at the end of our trip and feel like it is unfinished. The only thing that will fix this is to plan another trip and go again. However, some friends have said that they would like to go with us and they have never been. This will be the third trip with "friends". I don't know what to do. We could have them go along and after a couple of days say something like "if you feel like you want go off on your feel free, we don't mind" and hope they take the hint.
 

DisneyFans4Life

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I would just plan a visit for you and your wife and just let your friends know you're planning a getaway for just the two of you. They'll understand and you guys will be able to have a great time, go at your own pace and see all the things you want to do.
 

danyoung56

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I completely agree with others here - there's nothing wrong with keeping your vacation to just the two of you. If the others want to look at a trip later in the year, fine. But you 2 need time to yourselves.

I'm usually a single park stormer, but on occasion I've visited with other family members. I just resign myself to the fact that I'm not going to get to do things like I usually do. Once I've made that mental adjustment, I'm fine. But I still like my time alone!
 

Berret

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In the Parks
No
There's no rule or law that says you have to bring others with you, even if they're family. If only you and your spouse want to go, then keep it at that.
 

cdeev8690

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I take it you're not the kind of person that knows how to say "no" to people? I am that person as well. Just tell your friends that you and your spouse are going to take this trip by yourselves and maybe you all can go another time. Make it known that you will help your friends plan their trip and give them a list of Must-Do's and Must-Try's but they would likely enjoy their first time much more on their own, rather than with seasoned Disney go-ers such as yourself. I'm sure they will understand!
 

mitchk

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Totally agree with everyone! If you can just have the 2 of you go, do it. I love my little girl, but I miss it being just me, and the wife sometimes.....
 

graphite1326

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Original Poster
I take it you're not the kind of person that knows how to say "no" to people? I am that person as well. Just tell your friends that you and your spouse are going to take this trip by yourselves and maybe you all can go another time. Make it known that you will help your friends plan their trip and give them a list of Must-Do's and Must-Try's but they would likely enjoy their first time much more on their own, rather than with seasoned Disney go-ers such as yourself. I'm sure they will understand!
I have done the trip planning thing before and swore I would never do it again. The last time they came back saying they had a terrible time. I asked if they went to the night shows like Fanstasmic or the fireworks - NO. Did you go on ToT or the Great Movie Ride - No. What did they do? Sat by the pool. What bothered me the most is they came back and told everyone how they had a terrible time and then everyone is looking at me like I'm nuts for going so much.
 

KikoKea

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Ignore everyone who looks at you strangely for your Disney addiction and just say, "Well, we had a GREAT time and cannot wait to get back there!." You've tried to be nice...now just look out for you and your wife. Next trip simply say it is a private getaway- or don't explain where you are going since you don't owe anyone an explanation. When someone asks for help, direct them to the WDW website and a few blogs like this one. If you wish, you can give a bit of advice, but they are adults and can figure it out on their own with help available on the web.

IF, in a weak moment you agree to go with others, make it clear from the start that you are not going to stay with them at the parks. Meet at Cosmic Ray's for a meal, but only if you want to. Be careful of ADRs since no-shows cost the reserving credit card $$. If you see them, wave, tell them to have fun, and keep walking...and strengthen your resolve to never again get talked into going with people you don't want to be with.
 

rsoxguy

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Gentle forum member. Your dilemma is understandable as you struggle with the need to satisfy your individuality while also struggling with the needs of family members who tend to hinder your vacation enjoyment. Fortunately the solution to your predicament is well within the scope of my expertise. I would humbly suggest that you take the questionable family members as far as the entrance to one of the theme parks. Next, discreetly contact one of the friendly and helpful Disney security personnel in order to quietly inform them that you heard the offending family members say that they had plans to accost Mickey Mouse with their hotel bill and insist that he pay because they know that he “has more cheese than the Trump family on a vacation to Wisconsin.”

Upon their detainment, calmly stroll into the given theme park and enjoy a leisurely day of fun and merriment. When found and questioned by the family members at the end of the day, simply tell them that the fine folks at Disney often do extensive security checks before declaring certain folks as Guests of the Day. You instantly have a time of complaint transformed into a family celebration.

No need for thanks. The picture in my mind of the relief and joy on your face while sitting at your computer screen just now is thanks enough.
 

sgtmgd

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I dont take our own kids on every trip...much less friends...if you know they cant handle your expectations...Disney cost too much for me NOT to have a reasonable expectation to enjoy myself..
 

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