Husband not so into it

jengrey

jengrey

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This will probably sound like a Dear Abby column.Not sure where to post this, but it has something to do with planning...

My husband and I are leaving for WDW in a little over a month. I surprised him with the trip back in March. He's never even been to Florida and he says he's excited, but when it comes to planning, I feel like he doesn't give a hoot. Other than looking at a few menus for restaurants that I made our ADR's for, he hasn't looked at anything else. I offered to show him some YouTube videos of rides and tell him about them before I made FP+ reservations (he has blood pressure issues and gets motion sick easily) but he just said to surprise him. So I tried to make choices that we would both enjoy. I'm starting to worry that he's not as excited anymore. I know everyone's not a Disney nut, but
I'm just a little miffed that he doesn't want to partake in any of the planning and isn't even curious about the attractions/shows/etc.

Does anyone else have a member in their family who just doesn't seem that into it before the trip?
 
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mikeyd229

mikeyd229

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This is exactly how I was about my family's first WDW trip, last year. I told my wife I was just along for the ride and to plan whatever she thought we all would enjoy. I changed my tune for this year's trip! So, don't feel like it is disinterest, perhaps he's just like I was and didn't realize how much awesome stuff is part of a trip to WDW.
 
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Chernaboggles

Chernaboggles

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jengrey said:
Does anyone else have a member in their family who just doesn't seem that into it before the trip?
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*raises hand* MEEEE!!!! Oh, lord. ME.

My husband never gets excited about ANYTHING until we're actually at the place, doing the thing (whatever it is). He doesn't care at all about planning and is frankly terrible at it. He's honestly loves WDW and it's his favorite place to go, but he just isn't into the planning. The only time he gets even a little bit excited is when something arrives in the mail (magic bands, etc.). Then he'll be all, "Yay Disney!" for five minutes before going back to normal. Once we get there, he's super enthusiastic and has a great time with everything, but he's Mr. Indifferent until we're driving under the sign. EVERY. TRIP.

Having to do all the planning AND provide the before-event enthusiasm is a drag, but some people just aren't wired for anticipation. He says it just doesn't feel real to him until we're actually there.
 
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allgiggles

allgiggles

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My husband does ZERO planning. He trusts me to make the best choices for our family. He doesn't even really talk about the trip until we are literally on our way there. That's how his engineering brain functions -- he focuses on one thing at a time and until we're in the car heading south, Disney isn't even on his radar. He still has a great time, though.
 
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insaneshadow

insaneshadow

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jengrey said:
This will probably sound like a Dear Abby column.Not sure where to post this, but it has something to do with planning...

My husband and I are leaving for WDW in a little over a month. I surprised him with the trip back in March. He's never even been to Florida and he says he's excited, but when it comes to planning, I feel like he doesn't give a hoot. Other than looking at a few menus for restaurants that I made our ADR's for, he hasn't looked at anything else. I offered to show him some YouTube videos of rides and tell him about them before I made FP+ reservations (he has blood pressure issues and gets motion sick easily) but he just said to surprise him. So I tried to make choices that we would both enjoy. I'm starting to worry that he's not as excited anymore. I know everyone's not a Disney nut, but
I'm just a little miffed that he doesn't want to partake in any of the planning and isn't even curious about the attractions/shows/etc.

Does anyone else have a member in their family who just doesn't seem that into it before the trip?
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I do and it's my sister. She's 25 years old and still acts like she's a teenager that doesn't want to spend time with her family. We hardly get to take trips together so I try to do a Disney trip once a year. I think this year is the last time I'm going to try with her and just give going solo a chance.
 
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Chernaboggles

Chernaboggles

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PinnySmart said:
Just a thought but why would someone with high BP and one that gets motion sickness be excited to go to a theme park with rides?
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WDW isn't really about rides, not in the way that other theme parks are. I have motion problems and have zero interest in places like Dorney Park or Six Flags, but I absolutely love WDW. I love the fireworks, the street performers, parades, all the shows like Festival of the Lion King and Fantasmic. Epcot and Animal Kingdom are especially good for people who dislike rides. The trick is to move the focus of the trip away from the rides and put it onto things everyone can enjoy together.
 
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jimbo mack

jimbo mack

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I had exactly the same problem when I took my partner for the first time last year...during the planning stage he was not interested in looking at online menu's or YouTube videos etc well my partner ended up loving it and we are returning next year! This time round he is all over the menus and you tube vids
 
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DaisyDoesDisney

DaisyDoesDisney

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jengrey said:
He loves to eat and we'll be there during the F&WF. We're also going to try and get to Coco Beach (we both love beaches) and the Kennedy Space Center while we're there.
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I would suggest that you reconsider overloading the trip by going to too many places other then WDW. It's just a kindly suggestion considering that your DH has never been there before and he is sure to be stunned (happily so) by how much there is to do. It's so hard to explain to people until they actually experience it themselves.

As far as your husband's lack of enthusiasm for planning the trip- I wouldn't worry. If I could, I'd talk constantly to my husband about our upcoming trips. We are booked for September, December, and February/March. I do the majority of the planning. He chimes in with commands now and then such as, "NO CONTEMPORARY", or " No Victoria & Albert's in September". Other than that sort of thing he doesn't want to be involved in the details. He'll have a blast once the plane lands, but I have to save my enthusiastic Disney chatter for here on these boards until then. That's why I sign on here almost every day. My Fellow Posters here give me my daily Disney fix :)
 
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ajrwdwgirl

ajrwdwgirl

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If he hasn't been there before, it might be hard for him to get how great it is. I'm sure once he gets there he will be more into it. My husband had been to WDW twice as a teenager before we went and had like it kind of (his family didn't go on many attractions during the visits), and I convinced him that we would take our honeymoon there. He wasn't that excited about it but once we got there he had a great time and is just as involved as I am with the planning now. In fact he says his two teenage year visits don't count as WDW visits since he didn't do Disney until our first visit together.
 
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zurgandfriend

zurgandfriend

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My DW likes Disney but isn't as into it as me. I do most of the planning taking inputs (commands?) from her concerning the resort and dining. Once we get there she is as into it as I and my DS are.
 
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JIMINYCR

JIMINYCR

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Give the guy some slack. If hes never been to WDW, he has nothing to get excited about YET. Once hes there and experiences Disney maybe he will find things that appeal to him and his attitude will change. I've known a lot of people who didnt grow up dreaming of Disney, or watched Disney TV, or ever thought about doing a Disney vacation. Right now hes probably got the wrong impressions about the Disney parks, thinks its not for adults and he has little desire to put a lot of effort into the planning stages. So YOU have to make sure you plan some things into the trip that you know he will love to do. Maybe even go off site for things to add to the trip. Hopefully he catches a spark and wants to go back for more. I wish everyone had the Disney bug but some people dont ever get hooked. If thats him ...... youll have to keep working on it, hope one day he will catch on or suffer being a one Disney loving family. Do the best you can to plan to WOW him, but dont expect him to have the excitement you do.
 
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graphite1326

graphite1326

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Drop him and get a new one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Seriously, I didn't want to go the first time our family went. My wife said WE ARE GOING....... so we went. I didn't do anything with the planing. It wasn't until we got there that I realized just how big it is and how much there is to do. That was back in 1996. We go every other year now. AND now that the kids have grown, we go without them and have a great time,

by the way, I do all the planning.
 
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LdyApxr

LdyApxr

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jengrey said:
This will probably sound like a Dear Abby column.Not sure where to post this, but it has something to do with planning...

My husband and I are leaving for WDW in a little over a month. I surprised him with the trip back in March. He's never even been to Florida and he says he's excited, but when it comes to planning, I feel like he doesn't give a hoot. Other than looking at a few menus for restaurants that I made our ADR's for, he hasn't looked at anything else. I offered to show him some YouTube videos of rides and tell him about them before I made FP+ reservations (he has blood pressure issues and gets motion sick easily) but he just said to surprise him. So I tried to make choices that we would both enjoy. I'm starting to worry that he's not as excited anymore. I know everyone's not a Disney nut, but
I'm just a little miffed that he doesn't want to partake in any of the planning and isn't even curious about the attractions/shows/etc.

Does anyone else have a member in their family who just doesn't seem that into it before the trip?
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Holy Moley! Your husband is apparently my husband's twin!
 
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jaklgreen

jaklgreen

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My husband was/is the same way. I do all of the planning(which I love to do). We have been going for 20 years now and I know he loves it but just does not want to plan any of it. Which is really no problem for us since I am the compulsive planner anyway. He will listen when I talk to him about WDW but will not really contribute. But I am happy that he acts interested when I talk. LOL The good news is, you can plan anything you want and he will go along with it, so there are no disagreements. Plan away and enjoy your trip.
 
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