How the Date Went

[MickeyMoose15]

It didn't go badly but it could have gone a little better.

I met her at the theater at 6:05 pm and we went into the theater without a problem. The previous showing the film had not finished yet, so we went down to a table and talked.

We talked about Combined (Advanced American Literature/U.S. History) and how wonderful it was going to be when it was all over with. Then we went in to see the film.

I am just so confused on what is going on with us. I don't know if there can be a relation ship between us or not.

Let's first look at the good. I made her laugh a lot. The jokes and the comments I made about the commercials before the start of the film and about the movie itself went great with her. She has a wonderful laugh by the way. She let me put my arm around her about half way through the film and I kept my arm there for the rest of the film. We talked about combined, her dancing, what colleges she was looking at and stuff like that which all went fine.

The thing that I am confused about is at the end of the date. On the way back to her house, I tried to hold her hand but she pulled it away. Then again my mom was driving. She wasn't looking back or anything but I don't know. During the film I held her hand. She really didn't hold back but she let me hold her hand.

I know was stupid but when I walking to her house after my mom drove up to her driveway, I apologized for making her feel uncomfortable back in the car. She said "That's sweet". We didn't hug or anything like that when she went in the house. We have a group meeting for our presentation tomorrow at her house, so she just said "see you tomorrow" and then I went home.

I am so confused. I e-mailed her but it is kind of late. Anybody understand this?

 

[The_CEO]

First off.. If you were in the car with your mom and you were trying to hold her hand, she isnt going to feel comfortable being next to your mom doing this. Goes the same way if she tried to kiss you infront of her parents or somthing. She might not care. but you might want privacy.

Second. The whole good night thing. May I ask if you have been dating for awhile? Is she a shy girl?


Hope I've helped bud.

 

[ArchiDanDisney]

Originally posted by MickeyMoose15
It didn't go badly but it could have gone a little better.

I met her at the theater at 6:05 pm and we went into the theater without a problem. The previous showing the film had not finished yet, so we went down to a table and talked.

We talked about Combined (Advanced American Literature/U.S. History) and how wonderful it was going to be when it was all over with. Then we went in to see the film.

I am just so confused on what is going on with us. I don't know if there can be a relation ship between us or not.

Let's first look at the good. I made her laugh a lot. The jokes and the comments I made about the commercials before the start of the film and about the movie itself went great with her. She has a wonderful laugh by the way. She let me put my arm around her about half way through the film and I kept my arm there for the rest of the film. We talked about combined, her dancing, what colleges she was looking at and stuff like that which all went fine.

The thing that I am confused about is at the end of the date. On the way back to her house, I tried to hold her hand but she pulled it away. Then again my mom was driving. She wasn't looking back or anything but I don't know. During the film I held her hand. She really didn't hold back but she let me hold her hand.

I know was stupid but when I walking to her house after my mom drove up to her driveway, I apologized for making her feel uncomfortable back in the car. She said "That's sweet". We didn't hug or anything like that when she went in the house. We have a group meeting for our presentation tomorrow at her house, so she just said "see you tomorrow" and then I went home.

I am so confused. I e-mailed her but it is kind of late. Anybody understand this?

Lets put it this way...SHE'S A GIRL. Thank you, that is all. I think it is there job to be confusing, I could tell you about my situation, but people would fall alseep. LoL it sounds like you're doing fine...just relax, and it will be ok.

 

[MickeyMoose15]

Originally posted by The_CEO
First off.. If you were in the car with your mom and you were trying to hold her hand, she isnt going to feel comfortable being next to your mom doing this. Goes the same way if she tried to kiss you infront of her parents or somthing. She might not care. but you might want privacy.

Second. The whole good night thing. May I ask if you have been dating for awhile? Is she a shy girl?


Hope I've helped bud.

This was the first date.

She is a pretty private person. We have been friends for most of the year.

 

[ArchiDanDisney]

Originally posted by MickeyMoose15
This was the first date.

She is a pretty private person. We have been friends for most of the year.

Well first dates are better, seems as though she was pretty responsive though, so that is a HUGE plus. Just be confident. Girls have a low confidence detector or something, you don't want that. Just keep doing what you are doing.

 

[The_CEO]

Originally posted by MickeyMoose15


We talked about Combined (Advanced American Literature/U.S. History) and how wonderful it was going to be when it was all over with. Then we went in to see the film.

Talk about... Like... TV... or Sports... That might help

 

[Bagheera]

Actually, it sounds like it went pretty well if, as you say, she is a very ..... private person. (Sorry, reminds me of all the comments about Captain Picard in that episode with Vasch.)

She laughed at your jokes, let you hold her hand and put your arm around her in the movie, and she thought it was sweet when you apologized for making her feel uncomfortable.

Yes, she didn't hold your hand back and pulled it away in the car, and there was no goodnight hug or kiss. But remember. If she's a very private person, then she's not going to want to do this in the car with your mother, let alone in front of her while she's waiting for you to get back in the car!

Best test situation: Is there a way for you to go on a second date without needing a lift from parental units? Ask her out again, regardless. As long as you're not getting any NEGATIVE vibes from her, don't shy away.

Another possibility. If all of you in the Combined group are really close friends (as I believe I recall from your pre-date post), have one of the others in your group get more feedback. Yeah, it's sneaky, but it's been the method of choice for decades, at least.

If none of this feels accurate or comfortable to you, just dismiss it as the ravings of one of the older farts on this board.

Good luck!

 

[Maria]

Originally posted by Bagheera
She laughed at your jokes, let you hold her hand and put your arm around her in the movie, and she thought it was sweet when you apologized for making her feel uncomfortable.

Yes, she didn't hold your hand back and pulled it away in the car, and there was no goodnight hug or kiss. But remember. If she's a very private person, then she's not going to want to do this in the car with your mother, let alone in front of her while she's waiting for you to get back in the car!

Best test situation: Is there a way for you to go on a second date without needing a lift from parental units? Ask her out again, regardless. As long as you're not getting any NEGATIVE vibes from her, don't shy away.

I agree with Bagheera here. If she thought it was sweet, that´s not a bad sign. But yeah, she was not going to let you hold her hand or hug or kiss in front of your mom! Another thought... arenpt you going too fast? I don´t know how the customs are nowadays, but I wouldn´t hold hands or let him hug me the first time we go see a movie. Also consider that you study with her, that could be a terrible disaster if things don´t work right between you two, so she has to be very cautious about her decisions and actions towards you. That´s also a reason why I don´t think you should go asking around about how she feels about you. You don´t want your whole classroom gossiping about the two of you.

Ask her out to simpler things were you can hang out together without the need of the parents driving and picking you up on time, like for instance, some sunday fest, an open market, meet her at the mall, she could be with her friends too, some school activity, etc.

Now the email.... what did you write to her?!

When you see her tomorrow, please don´t apologize too much, that will embarrass her, just try to act normal and let her know you had a nice time and would like to watch another movie with her and wait for what she says.

Best of luck!

 

[darthdarrel]

Boy I couldn`t have said it better then bagheera or Maria have you 2 taken psych classes? LOL! but I agree with both of you. just take it slow and everything will be fine

 

[MouseMadness]

Re: Re: How the Date Went

Originally posted by ArchiDanDisney
Lets put it this way...SHE'S A GIRL. Thank you, that is all. I think it is there job to be confusing, I could tell you about my situation, but people would fall alseep. LoL it sounds like you're doing fine...just relax, and it will be ok.

*slaps the heck out of Dan*

And stop looking at me! Honestly!

and MM15, don't worry about this at all... it all sounds pretty typical of a high school date. I'm sure things will be good between the two of you if you don't dwell on what you *think* went wrong... when she may have thought nothing was wrong at all! And, sorry if I'm repeating anything somebody else has said... my attention span sputtered out after Dan's post. :lol: so there's my two cents.

 

[MickeyMoose15]

You're are probably right that I am thinking about this too much.

She sent me an e-mail this morning saying that she had a very nice time last night, so hopefully that is indication that we could possibly go on another date.

 

[Cliff]

Originally posted by Maria
I agree with Bagheera here. If she thought it was sweet, that´s not a bad sign. But yeah, she was not going to let you hold her hand or hug or kiss in front of your mom! Another thought... arenpt you going too fast? I don´t know how the customs are nowadays, but I wouldn´t hold hands or let him hug me the first time we go see a movie. Also consider that you study with her, that could be a terrible disaster if things don´t work right between you two, so she has to be very cautious about her decisions and actions towards you. That´s also a reason why I don´t think you should go asking around about how she feels about you. You don´t want your whole classroom gossiping about the two of you.

Ask her out to simpler things were you can hang out together without the need of the parents driving and picking you up on time, like for instance, some sunday fest, an open market, meet her at the mall, she could be with her friends too, some school activity, etc.

Now the email.... what did you write to her?!

When you see her tomorrow, please don´t apologize too much, that will embarrass her, just try to act normal and let her know you had a nice time and would like to watch another movie with her and wait for what she says.

Best of luck!

I agree 100% with Maria too on this. Yeah bro, slow down and calm down.

How much were you expecting on the first date? Plus mom was right there? That's enough to kill the mood for any "respectable" girl. Just put yourself in your friend's shoes. Mom was making that moment feel way too akward for the both of you. I'm sure that's why she was there!

Just relax. Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth. Don't feel bad. Everybody on this board has been in similar situations at one time or another!!

Be a "friend" first. Be honest at all times. (Never lie to her about anything...ever!...EVER!! ) Listen very closely to what she tells you and remember it. Take the time to "earn" her trust. Be honest with your feelings for her too.

Listen,..you are going to get pressure from your friends. DON"T LISTEN TO THEM. Your friends are likely to be thinking of ONE thing. ( getting "lucky") Don't fall into that trap! Listening to the pressure they will put on you could easily destroy a good friendship that you could develope with this girl.

Just focus on BUILDING a real freindship FIRST. ("Build" meaning,...one peice at a time.) After that, things will be allot easier for both of you. And, in due time, with a solid foundation, everything else will fall into place more naturally. (the physical part)

Hey kid,...if it helps you at all,..I'm allot like you in many ways and I understand how you feel. :animwink:

Relax!

-Cliff

btw,...everything in my last post on this topic was pretty much just me being goofy. It was a perfect example on how NOT to be!

Don't put all that pressure on yourself!

 

[BRER STITCH]

WOW......

No wonder I prefer FIGS to DATES!

:hammer: :hammer: :hammer:

 

[darthdarrel]

Originally posted by BRER STITCH
WOW......

No wonder I prefer FIGS to DATES!

:hammer: :hammer: :hammer:

:lol:

 

[RU42]

Any of you older folks getting horrible deja-vu from this post. Glad to see the dating/high school scene still has it's...um...challenges.

Sounds like a good solid first date. Relax, take it a day/date at a time. Don't rush, be a friend, let it develop.

RU

 

[MickeyMoose15]

Got to let the first date set in for both of us. She has a busy week this week with the presentation on Thursday and her dance competition this weekend.