Lots of good advice. My wife and I have been a number of times without kids (grown, at the end of a business trip). So some quick tips.
1. Unofficial Guide is a great starting point. BUT you will likely be overwhelmed with information. Try to decide on some basic boundaries such as; do we want luxury, moderate or value resort; what parks to we want to visit and what do we consider the "must do" at each one? Then take it from there. Are you planners or do you wing it? Planners usually make out as they are aware of all the deadlines and when to make reservations, etc. But try not to be obsessive.
2. Try to pick a time that is less busy. (Hotels will be cheaper and parks less crowded) Try "Undercover Tourist" web site for metrics on least busy months, weeks, days, down to the day of the week on the week you will be there. Some of the extra's might not be on (Jazz Band) but it will be much less stressful.
3. If your husband has never been, consider EPCOT, AK for more "adult" experiences. BUT, they don't call it the Magic Kingdom for nothing. They have the best coaster rides, and it is fun to watch all the kids.
4. If you really want to go cheap, try one of the time share resorts around (but you will need a car), especially if you are going for a week or more. But you give up the DDP and extra magic hours. If you are only going to WDW stay at a Disney Resort, use the Magic Express and Disney transportation and forget the hassle.
5. DDP is not worth it unless you are eating a lot. It can also be less flexible. But you will have to keep telling yourself you are saving money without it each time you get the restaurant bill. Best advice, eat a good breakfast (cheapest meal of the day) and then eat a sit down meal in the late afternoon. Snack if you have to in-between. But you likely will not be hungry.
6. If you don't like soda, best discovery I made is that you can get ice and water at any counter service, with or without your own cup. You don't have to buy bottled water.
7. Carry as little as you can get away with. With the new security, you will wait in longer lines before entry. Without any but a small pouch, you can bypass the bag check and got straight through. While a camel back is a great idea, if you are younger and have kids, I try to keep my load to whatever fits in my pockets (cargo shorts). At the end of a long day, you will be glad you did. BUT don't skimp on sun screen (pocket carry extra with you), a hat and comfortable shoes. You will not need to "work out". You will not need fancy clothes unless doing a really fancy restaurant like Victoria and Albert's or you just want to dress up.
8. That said, treat yourself to at least one really good restaurant if you can. It will make memories for you and your husband that are worth their weigh in gold. Later times are usually available. And your walk out of the park after most have departed can be very relaxing. Just don't miss the last bus out.
9. Try to take a "special tour". If you can do only one, the best I've found is the "Wild Africa Trek". Read here;
https://disneyworld.disney.go.com/events-tours/animal-kingdom/wild-africa-trek/
10. One of the more helpful sites I've use is: MouseSavers
https://www.mousesavers.com/ you can reach Undercover Tourist from there. Also the Disney sites.
11. I have stayed at POR, but not POFQ. It is very quiet, and stately (not sure what it looks like after the hurricane). There are several bus stops around the resort, not just at the lobby, but you can also be a long way from the lobby.
This could have been a lot longer than it already is. Have fun planning, it can be overwhelming at first, just one thing at a time. Making the big decisions (When, flights, hotel, park days, times) will help you lead you make the other decisions (restaurants, fast passes, etc). Take every negative review with a grain of salt. You just cant make some people happy. Highly recommend the
My Disney Experience to keep everything straight, otherwise you need a spreadsheet
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