OK - Moral theology is my field. Let's work with this. I've been very troubled by that.
When considering whether or not something is evil, you need to ask if the action is ever justifiable. Then, if yes, you need to ask if the action is justifiable under these conditions. That's why you can't say war is unjust, but you can say that some wars are unjust.
Are there circumstances that would justify preventing a person from visiting a dying relative? What if it were ebola? And there were no protective gear available? Would it be justifiable to allow somebody, unprotected, to go in when doing so would be almost certain infection and probably death? (After all, once they are exposed, you can't let them expose anybody else, so they have to be confined to that room).
Here's the circumstances with the COVID bans on visiting those infected, including the dying:
- At the start, there wasn't enough PPE to protect the visitor. It's still not easy to come by.
- The real risk with COVID is the collapse of the healthcare system - so more people getting sick raises that risk, which affects everybody.
- Transmissibility is still not fully understand, but was definitely not well-understood in the beginning, so there was no way of knowing how one person visiting a dying loved one could potentially put scores or more of other people at risk.
- It's not perfect, but there are alternative means to visitations, including tele-visits. Nothing replaces human touch, but it is a middle ground.
- Nobody hates the no-visitiation more (other than families of dying loved-ones) than health care workers. They are not clamoring for a change in policy.
- The policy will change when it is safe to do so. (Our hospital vaccinated clergy in the first group precisely so they could have people who could visit COVID patents safely.)
My take - if there is a risk of dying isolated and alone from COVID and that risk devastates you - take whatever precautions you can to avoid getting COVID. My husband and I had the conversation that if either of us headed into a hospital with COVID, we would understand that the last time we were physically together could be the last time we were physically together. Not likely, but possible, so we prepared ourselves emotionally and spiritually for that possibility.
Losing a loved-one to COVID and not being able to be with them is sad and tragic. If it is evil, it's an evil caused by the disease itself and not by human policy. Nobody wants this policy. If it were safe to do otherwise, the policy would not be there.