the boys get swords.
enough said
violence = little boys loving it.
seriously though, the princesses do come and pose if desired, but the atmosphere is more of excitement over the beauty of the place for us, and the excitment of being IN THE CASTLE and looking out at fantasyland.
and we've gone with all boys, and larger boys (don't call them men, not when they are sitting at the table having sword fights with the little boys!) and never felt out of place. if your husband would be good at helping DS enjoy the surroundings and stressing his being a knight protecting the princesses, i think it would be a great experience for both of them
we prefer breakfast to lunch or dinner, and reservations are now easier to get as everyone is trying to get BOG when lines open up. however, lunch and dinner are still very nice, just even more ridiculously expensive.