Can someone explain me her behavior? **Girl Help

[Jakester]

I need a lil input, Im 17, and theres a girl who ive been talking to for quite sometime (shes 16), heres a list of stuff that happens between us

I have noticed recently that she laughs at alot of things I say (even when im not trying to be funny), for example, If I say something in a wierd way (like misprounce it), she'll laugh. She likes to practice her punching on my hand, and sometimes, will playfully hit my arm (and Ill pretend to hit her), and when that happens, she'll get giggly.
Whenever we looked at eachother, she'll smile
She asks me everyday to give her either a foot massage,back massage, or massage her legs, and she always enjoys them.
When she has a Horse-show, Im always there helping her, and she usually lets me spend the night at her house for it.
The other day, I told her "Sometimes I feel like you use me for my car", for which she responded "I could get my friend(girl shes know for years) to get me from school, and take me to the barn, and all these places"
I used to smoke weed, and she always kept telling me to quit, and recently, I quit.
Sometimes, she'll run and jump into my arms(In a way that she wants me to carry her).
Sometimes when Im holding her horse, She'll grab where im holding him, and I feel her hand slightly over mine.
The other day, I was standing next to her, and her sister pulled down her pants to where most of her butt was hanging out, and she didn't complain, she just looked into my eyes.
Everyday after she gets out of school, she calls me within 15minutes of getting out to come hangout with her.
On christmas this past year, I got her a gift, and she got me a gift, and we hungout all christmas day at her house with her family.
Also, this past sunday, We got eachother something for easter, and we hungout all day again(she took her time to make me a easter basket)
Her friend tells me "You need to step it up" also.
Her parents also have said things about me and her in the future(like us living together).
Also recently, I have noticed she'll say somethings like I'd say them.
Sometimes, she'll walk by me, and brush her arm aganist me.
And today, I accidently tapped her butt, and she asked if I did, and didnt complain
She also wanted to give me a haircut

 

[rsoxguy]

Dear Jakester,

I will start by congratulating you on quitting the "weed". It is a decision that will save you money, time, brain cells, and a host of problems in your life. Don't allow your relationship with this young woman to be your only motivation to stay on this course. Let your motivation be the fact that you have a life to live, free of unnecessary influences.

Concerning the young woman, I believe that you are hesitating to commit yourself to her for some reason. Why do I make this statement? Because your description of her behavior toward you tells me that she is interested in you beyond the simplicity of friendship. In other words, she wants to be your steady girlfriend. This fact is so obvious that it stands out like a Bollywood video. I think that you should search your heart regarding this girl and determine what your feelings are concerning the relationship between the two of you. If you are interested in establishing something beyond friendship, then you should have a personal chat with her in which you express your feelings and desires, and ask her if she feels the same. Then...the two of you agree to "go steady".

By the way, keep your hands off of her rear-end. Some things belong to those who are married.

 

[LuLaSue]

I think rsoxguy gave you pretty sound advice.


PS. Congrats! No more weed dude!

 

[sweetpee_1993]

Yeah, pretty unmistakeable that she's totally into you as more than just a friend. Definitely you should figure out what your feelings are for her and make a move in one direction or the other to clearly establish what the relationship is. If you're into her you should make that commitment and be in the relationship. If you don't see it beyond just friends then make that clear so she doesn't continue to think anything more is possible.

As for the weed, yeah, that decision should be for the right reasons not just for a girl. Look at the facts. Don't sugar-coat it or choose your info with a bias. There's plenty of reasons not to go there. Life is so short. It goes by so fast. Use your brain and make the most of it.

The physical thing (touchin' of the hiney). I was 17 once, too. I'll explain it the way I have for my sons. My oldest is 16. As a girl of 17 getting physical had almost nothing to do with the act of 'doing it'. It was 99.9% emotional. Girls get physical as an emotional investment. That's why you have teenage boys who pick up on this and say all sorts of things they don't mean to get what they want which is the physical act itself. It's a huge difference. For girls it's pure emotion. For boys it's pure physical. Do not play that game if your heart isn't in it the way she will perceive it to be. Anything less is lying to get what you want which is wrong. Taking a relationship to a physical side is a huge personal, emotional commitment. Do not go into it thinking any less. Also, be smart! Don't make momentary decisions that have life-long consequences for you, her, and both your families. As mind-blowing as the moment can be, it's only a moment vs. the rest of your life. Ya know? I never aim to come off preachy but I also realize especially when you're young it's easy to get caught up in a moment and succumb to the hormone rush. Don't even approach that moment unless you have a clear head and a full understanding of the reality of it all.

Good luck!

 

[sweetpee_1993]

So, the boys got up & I read the thread to my 16 yro to see what he would say. Love the way he thinks sometimes. He says, "Yeah, if he's not into her he should just rip the bandaid off & get it over with. Don't prolong the pain or suffering for her if she's gonna be hurt."

Rip the bandaid off. Good thinking. :lol: