Anyone ever suffered from BDD/self obsessive self consciousness?

Moritz Stiefel

Moritz Stiefel

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Hey guys. Sorry thats this is a dull/sad post but i need to talk to someone.

Im a teenage girl (I hear the mens groans..sorry guys) who just turned 18. Im really young for my age, never had a boyfriend (EMBARRASSING!!!) And have become overly concerned over my looks.

Every five minutes im looking the mirror at my hideous curved big nose or at my teeth and its got to the point where its obsessive. I cant stop crying or feeling depressed! I feel like everyone is staring and thinking about my imperfections, disgusted by them and looking at how ugly i am.

Is this just a faze? Im worried i have BDD.

I want to talk to my mum but she has so much going on with work and personal issues with my dad.

If you've read this, thankyou. Any advice or if you have ever been through/going through this would be great!

xxx
 
SOLISIMO

SOLISIMO

Member
Im not gonna sugar coat this. You can see, you can talk, and you can type. Beauty is something that is different in every mans eyes there is no set standard.

There are others that can not see, walk, talk, or even hear yet they are happy, ____!t they cant even enjoy a Disney park yet you can. Snap out of it!
 
Moritz Stiefel

Moritz Stiefel

New Member
Original Poster
SOLISIMO said:
Im not gonna sugar coat this. You can see, you can talk, and you can type. Beauty is something that is different in every mans eyes there is no set standard.

There are others that can not see, walk, talk, or even hear yet they are happy, ____!t they cant even enjoy a Disney park yet you can. Snap out of it!
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I know! I keep telling myself that. I know i sound like a complete ridiculous b***h! I just dont know whats wrong with me.

I think i have some sort of depression or mental illness because it comes on and off.
 
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wizards8507

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Moritz Stiefel said:
I know! I keep telling myself that. I know i sound like a complete ridiculous b***h! I just dont know whats wrong with me.

I think i have some sort of depression or mental illness because it comes on and off.
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I think the people with the real problems are the ones who deny that there's anything wrong in the first place. You're going in the right direction.
 
rsoxguy

rsoxguy

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Hello Moritz Stiefel.

Asking strangers over the internet to help you with a diagnosis of BDD is not the wisest choice for you to make. Such a task is best left to mental health professionals who can speak to you in person and make a determination based on counseling. As to your self image, you should take into consideration the fact that:

  1. You are at an age where many of your peers have had some type of dating experience, thereby leaving you with the feeling that you are "different".

  1. There seems to be issues between your parents that leave you feeling as though your needs can not be met. This can potentially leave you with feelings of inferiority, as though you are not an important individual.
I strongly urge you insist that your Mother make the time to speak with you regarding these feelings. They are not unique to someone your age , but you really need to sort them out with someone who is close to you. Please do not let this go, and please do not expect to find solutions over the internet. The last thing that you need is the attention of a criminal degenerate who comforts you over the internet and offers to meet with you in order to "confirm" your good looks and worthiness.
 
SOLISIMO

SOLISIMO

Member
I dont believe in "mental illness/add" and all that crap. To me its just a term from pill companies that make billions off of people like you. Yeah you might have a crooked nose but hey you have a nose right? And you might have crooked teeth, but hey you have teeth right?

Think about and I mean really think about those that you see in the parks that cant even ride a ride, those that cant enjoy a good meal in Epcot bc they are stuck to breathing/feeding tube, those that have a work dog bc they cant see (they cant fuggin see the magic you see) and they are still happy. So you tell me where does that put you.

Remember you just need to be beautiful to that one guy that finds you special not everyone else.
 
SOLISIMO

SOLISIMO

Member
rsoxguy said:
Hello Moritz Stiefel.

Asking strangers over the internet to help you with a diagnosis of BDD is not the wisest choice for you to make. Such a task is best left to mental health professionals who can speak to you in person and make a determination based on counseling. As to your self image, you should take into consideration the fact that:

  1. You are at an age where many of your peers have had some type of dating experience, thereby leaving you with the feeling that you are "different".
  1. There seems to be issues between your parents that leave you feeling as though your needs can not be met. This can potentially leave you with feelings of inferiority, as though you are not an important individual.
I strongly urge you insist that your Mother make the time to speak with you regarding these feelings. They are not unique to someone your age , but you really need to sort them out with someone who is close to you. Please do not let this go, and please do not expect to find solutions over the internet. The last thing that you need is the attention of a criminal degenerate who comforts you over the internet and offers to meet with you in order to "confirm" your good looks and worthiness.
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I dont know about all the other stuff, but the bold parts are very, very true.........
 
lilclerk

lilclerk

Well-Known Member
SOLISIMO said:
I dont believe in "mental illness/add" and all that crap.
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You don't believe in mental illness? Or do you just not think what the OP is describing is a mental illness?

To the OP, as a former 18 year old girl who hadn't had a boyfriend yet, I totally understand how you feel! I have always been slightly underweight and saw myself as fat (not to the point where I had an eating disorder, I just hated my body,) and I've got these weird veins that run down either side of my face that are barely visible to anyone but me and I'd stare at them daily in the mirror.

Once I got out of school (didn't go to college) and got a real job and made some new friends, everything changed for me. I have much more self-esteem now and made a conscious decision not to care about how other people see me -- just to be myself. I know it sounds corny and cliche, but it's the truth! I dated a little bit (no one special) and met my current boyfriend when I saw 20, and we've been dating for 5 years now =)

But yes, if you feel you have a disorder of some kind you really should see a professional about it. But at least try to sit down and talk with your mom, maybe have a girl's day out (it might help her stress too!) I'm lucky enough to have a mom and two older sisters to talk to about anything I need and they are a huge help!
 
SOLISIMO

SOLISIMO

Member
lilclerk said:
You don't believe in mental illness? Or do you just not think what the OP is describing is a mental illness?

To the OP, as a former 18 year old girl who hadn't had a boyfriend yet, I totally understand how you feel! I have always been slightly underweight and saw myself as fat (not to the point where I had an eating disorder, I just hated my body,) and I've got these weird veins that run down either side of my face that are barely visible to anyone but me and I'd stare at them daily in the mirror.

Once I got out of school (didn't go to college) and got a real job and made some new friends, everything changed for me. I have much more self-esteem now and made a conscious decision not to care about how other people see me -- just to be myself. I know it sounds corny and cliche, but it's the truth! I dated a little bit (no one special) and met my current boyfriend when I saw 20, and we've been dating for 5 years now =)

But yes, if you feel you have a disorder of some kind you really should see a professional about it. But at least try to sit down and talk with your mom, maybe have a girl's day out (it might help her stress too!) I'm lucky enough to have a mom and two older sisters to talk to about anything I need and they are a huge help!
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Correct, mental illness is not believing that your ugly sorry. To me there is no ugly and pretty there is the person that see's you which ever way he pleases
 
CoffeeJedi

CoffeeJedi

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SOLISIMO said:
I dont believe in "mental illness/add" and all that crap.
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As someone who's struggled with severe ADD his entire life and is finally managing it as an adult through the use of prescription meds; I politely ask you to not talk about subjects that you obviously know nothing about..... thanks.
 
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BwayBaby

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Hi! I know what you're going through. I'm 22 now and still have down moments. I was 21 when I started dating my first boyfriend (still with him) and had my first kiss.
I've had immense anxiety problems and have had a good amount of depression that's gotten much better. I was on meds for a time and they helped me. My best advice- go see a counselor. I know it's scary. I know there's a huge stigma attached to mental illness, but it's really helpful. I took a semester away from college and met weekly with a really nice woman who helped me so much.
She ended up thinking I had an anxiety disorder- general or social or both.
Just tell your mom you're feeling down and want to see someone. Or contact your insurance and see what they cover and contact someone yourself, as you're now 18.
Just try to nip it in the bud. I didn't and now my academic career is essentially over- I'm likely never to get into a decent law school. Thankfully, I'm much happier with life and not letting that be the end of my world.
I hope you feel better soon. Feeling depressed is absolutely horrible.
 
Moritz Stiefel

Moritz Stiefel

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Original Poster
Thankyou everyone! I know it sounds pathetic but it get's to the point where it starts affecting your life, and i feel like a loser even going out because of the way i look, or how hard i find it to socialise with new people. Im painfully shy and start stuttering a bit when i talk to new people, mainly guys.:brick:

I feel horrible because and like a b!!!h because there are people out there with much bigger problems, but my lack of confidence stress's me out terrible. I'm a person who can not go a day without worrying about SOMETHING.


Apologies again, i know i look ridiculous for posting this. xxx
 

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