OP, sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he is alright. It is a bummer to get injured at WDW.
Over the years...hotel staff is often very good, but we've had a few stays where CM's just weren't up to snuff, and I understand where it might be hard to explain on a forum.
I was also very unhappy once to have significant mystery charges on my room bill. (Several hundred $).
OP, I wouldn't get down on all deluxe hotels or even AKL itself. To be honest though, the one type of hotel we have not stayed at much are the purely DVC ones. AKL Kidani has mostly been a great place to stay in my experience. Not always perfect, but very good. We have now stayed at most WDW hotels. A plus of the values is the convenience of the food courts.
I also find the birthday thing a little odd. I'd never expect any big birthday perks, but it is weird the way the booking CM's ask if you are celebrating, they make a big deal of NOTING it on your reservation- and then often enough NOTHING happens during your stay to acknowledge it. It just feels like a little slimy or something to me. Why pretend to care?
For your dad's sake, you can ask to be near lobby. Sometimes WDW is great on that front, and other times they've also stuck us at the far end of the hall and said they couldn't do anything, but that's not specific to any one hotel.
Personally, I'd cut WDW some pandemic slack right now, but I also have some sympathy for your less than stellar visit. It might be worthwhile to nicely email with your concerns.