Tapestry of Happiness is modest, but I really enjoyed it for what it is. One thing that might make it difficult to catch for your family, though, is that they don't even start showing it until after the fireworks at 10 PM.
I also caught the Skywalker projection show. The only thing that's odd is that they load the viewing area back-to-front, but I found it to be very well-done (for what the opinion of a non-SW fan is worth) and very easy to catch.
I wish I had PTN first show advice, but alas, I pretty much stuck to the second show, where I found it very easy to walk up to a good spot by IASW not long before showtime. Is the Plaza dining package on the table (allegedly you can get the meatloaf swapped out for the chicken)?