From my Grandparents backwards there were family secrets. My Gran on my Dads side which I knew better when asked a pretty general question about family was often met with Why do you ask these questions? Why do you need to know? My Grandfather was dead before I was born so Gran took many secrets to the grave but her cousins in Illinois over time have shared some of those ledges. I was Grans girl. I was the one she shared recipes, was taught to cook correctly, how to sew. She was a smart lady that learned things the hard way immigrating when she was 19 and never looking back. I was a teen by the time she went 'home' one time. She died at 83. She wasn't a warm and fuzzy person.
My Grandma (Mom's mother) was the leader of the pack or so she thought. It worked with some of her 12 children. The ones it didn't moved far away. Both she and my Grandfathers parents immigrated into Canada. Around 20 years old they both immigrated to the states when they were old enough to leave Canada. Since they were born Canadian they eventually had duel citizenship. My Grandfather worked in Canada as a young man for the railroad and continued to work for the same Railroad down in the Chicago area somewhere. We lost the trail of our family in Canada though I guess if we put some more effort into it we could trace with the immigration papers to the states we have.
They all could have shared but that generation backwards kept their secrets. I knew even my Dad knew more than he admitted to.
We can likely track them all down but the stories are likely lost forever.