Taking mother to Disney after father passed away

[jcldtrek]

I had planned to go to Disney since last October . I was going solo , I'm 32 still live at home, just wanted to go on my own, friend couldn't go at the time so I booked the trip finally in November. Unfortunately this year in the end of February my father had a very moderate stroke and really did damage to him. The last four months were not good and he went through a lot. He finally passed away on the 9th of the month. I asked my mother afterwards if she'd go with me to Disney in September . She was really happy I asked her. She thinks it would be a great thing and we both need it after what we went through . I ended up adding her on the trip, paid for it all and now we'll be going together down to Disney in September. Just thought I'd share this , we're going September 6th . Trust me it can't come soon enough .

 

[ExtinctJenn]

First, I'm very sorry for your loss. Second, what a fantastic idea! I think any time we as adults can go back to the world with our parents is a wonderful experience. For my son's 3rd birthday we took him to the world. When we were standing in line checking in at the resort my mother and her husband walked up to me and shocked the heck out of me. They were only with us for one full day at the MK but it was awesome. I had traveled to the world with them so many times as a child so to have them there with my family brought back all those wonderful memories. It will be a great way for you and your mother to reconnect and recover from the loss you each experienced!

 

[Sweet Melissa]

My condolences. I hope that you and your mother enjoy each other's company on your vacation. I think it's lovely that you're treating her.

 

[Spikerdink]

You two will have some special memories from this trip. My story is a bit of a mirror image of yours....I had given my parents a Disney cruise/vacation for Christmas. A few days before they were to depart for the cruise, I received a phone call from Disney saying the cruise ship had blown a propellor and the cruise was cancelled. I was bummed but asked if they could spend the entire trip in WDW. The answer was yes, they could. I had also for that Christmas treated my neice and nephew to a trip - they would stay with me while my parents had their own room. At some point my brother and sister in law decided they wanted to go also and they booked a room. We all spent a few days together touring the parks, having dinners together and really enjoying ourselves. Sadly, one week later my father died unexpectedly from a massive heart attack. At his funeral I displayed a photo taken at the entrance to Adventureland - it would be the last photo the family would take together. I look at it often as it hangs on my bedroom wall....

Take a lot of pictures while you are there - they will be great to look back on many years from now.

 

[jcldtrek]

I'm definetly gonna take lots of pictures, even thinking of getting a camcorder. I wish we were going this week. September can't come soon enough.

 

[rsoxguy]

Please accept my sincere sympathy for your loss. I hope that you and your mother find a great deal of comfort and strength in the days and months ahead. I wish you the very best in your planning for this trip, and I hope that the weather is perfect and the Fastpasses are plentiful when yo go.

 

[Nemo14]

I think it's a wonderful idea, but be prepared for some incredibly bittersweet moments. Several years ago we invited a friend of ours to come with us on a trip we had planned. He had just lost his wife to cancer, and was left with 3 very young children. We all saw WDW so differently that year, and it's a trip I'll never forget.

Love and prayers to you and your mom.

 

[pixiesteno]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is very hard to lose a parent. Yes, be prepared for both you and your mom to be over-whelmed at times with emotion and treat yourselves with extra care during those times. I would refrain from trying to do the parks and get everything in, just relax and take things as they come.

 

[maryszhi]

i am so sorry for your loss. i think the trip is a wonderful thing to do with your mother.

 

[Britt]

I am so so sorry for your loss :' (

I think the trip will be very good for your mother. Enjoy your time together <3

 

[DrummerAlly]

I'm also very sorry for your loss - a very similar situation happened to me.

We were planning on taking both of my parents to WDW in April as a Christmas present. My dad passed away in January and it was a difficult decision about what to do with the trip. My mom still came with us and had her sister take my dad's plane ticket and come along. I can tell you from experience that though you may have many "sad" moments during the trip that you will still have a wonderful time with your mother. It was the first time since my dad had passed away that I got to see my mom let loose and enjoy herself. Best of luck to you!

 

[acollins876]

We did this in Oct 2010 with my father in law after his wife passed in June. It was a great time for all of us and definitely helped to "lighten" things up in a very tough time. Great idea - enjoy your trip!

 

[jcldtrek]

I'm sure its gonna be hard at times, especially epcot. We have a legacy tile there. But she's very happy about going. Talks about it constantly . I'm glad I made the decision , she is too.

 

[worldfanatic]

That'll be a nice trip for you 2.

 

[disneypearl]

I am sorry for your loss. I hope that this trip will help bring some fun and great memories for you and your mom.

 

[DisneyDebNJ]

I am so very sorry for you and your Mom's loss. What a wonderful thing to do for your Mom! Try your very best, to relive the good times, but make memories for you and your Mom to share in the future as well. (Maybe do a horse and carriage ride, or treat her to the Grand Floridian tea, ride the segways at Epcot, or Dolphins in Depth) Again, I am so very sorry for your family's loss.

 

[bgraham34]

Thats great, i am sorry about your loss. You will have a great time no matter what.

 

[Poofiesdream]

I took my mother to Disney the week after my Dad died. My husband sent us. We stayed at POFQ. What a great time we had. Talked about memories of Dad from past trips and laughed a lot. We did some real bonding too. We had been so stressed for the past few weeks with his illness and it just gave us a frame of mind that he was now at peace and it was time for us to continue on. We knew he was with us in spirit looking down at us smiling. So glad we did it! I will never forget that trip and no matter how many more I take which is a lot that one will always be special.

 

[Samanthabrown3]

My mother just died, and my sister had the great idea of both of us going to DW at Christmastime. Planning the trip and looking forward to it eases our ache. I hope it's the same for you. I know that getting the Disney pampering will comfort you, and being together will, too. Great idea to take your mom along. The trip will be richer for both of you.