Nothing Disney Related:Need advice for a situation with my MIL

[Disneydreamer23]

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Hey every one I have a situation and I would like some advice,
In July My DH DD and 3 dogs went to KY to visit my DH Grandparents. We always stay at his Moms "vacation home" I have 3 dogs a Pomeranian, a Rot, and an English Mastiff. My MIL has a Mountain Curr and German Shepard. This is my Pom Ellie. So while we were at my MIL my DH myself Daughter were out and my FIL was watching the dogs . I got Home and My Dog was on my bed?? I asked what is going on why is Ellie on the bed. he said " her and gabby ( THE Shepard) were barking and I wanted to break it up. Well as soon as I lifted her off the bed she started CRYING and bad I asked him are you sure nothing happened to her. He said yes I am sure So I figured she was just shaken up. The next day My dog got worse crying in terrible pain. We left that night to go home and so I got her into her Vet that day I go in they shave her my dog had SEVERE MARKS


VIEWER DISCRETION ADVISED PICTURES OF MY DOGS INJURIES








This is her today 3 weeks later still on bed rest
She has a broken rib and severe bruising on her whole body and might need surgery will know Friday. So after this I asked my FIL again and he told my Husband their dog DID attack my dog he said he didn't tell me because I woujld over react. I was upset my poor dog was in pain for so long and I didn't know It was VERY hard for me. FFD to today. My MIL wants to watch my daughter Madyson ,I said sure! Then she told me She wants to watch her at HER house. My DH and I talked and we don't want out daughter at her house because of the dog. The dog also went after my Rott before and My mother. She told me I was Rude and I hurt her feelings and I told her this is for my daughter and this was nothing against her. She is making my Dh feel very bad saying We dont love her etc etc. Can I have advice. Am I being mean by not letting my daughter at her house?

 

[ajrwdwgirl]

Wow that is a tough situation. I really hope your dog is doing better; poor baby. I guess I would be really reluctant to let a small child be around a dog that would do that, especially as you said it has gone after another dog and a person. It's too bad that your MIL is putting your husband in the middle, how does he feel? I guess if your really feel like the dog could harm your daughter stand your ground and say that MIL is welcome to visit your daughter at her house. Maybe the dog could be kenneled while your daughter is there, but that would mean you would have to trust the in-laws to do that. Do they think the dog is a menace? Good luck!

 

[stevehousse]

First thing first, as a parent myself, your child's safety is the upmost concern. More important than a dogs. I wouldn't allow her over there unless the dog was to be either kept in a seperate room away from my child at all times or kept outside while she was there. Plain and simple. Your mother in law getting upset over it is just tough s*%#! If a dog is gonna attack a small animal, who's to say it won't do the same to a small child. I would give her that ultimatum if she really wants her over there...

 

[lilclerk]

I am a total dog lover here (and it sounds like you are too, with the crew you have!) but I don't blame you in the slightest for not wanting your daughter there. Especially since their dog attacked yours, and they didn't even have the courtesy of telling you.

 

[stevehousse]

And now that I think if it, why didn't they take the dog to the vet if it was injured? Did they not know or were they trying to act like they didn't know it happened???

 

[flynnibus]

I don't see the connection between two dogs getting into a tussle and the dog being a threat to your child.

I'd be more concerned with their lack of transparency and don't make it about the dog. If you don't feel the dog is safe, make it clear about that. But don't make the dog can excuse about not seeing your in-laws. Cover-ups never go well and only make things worse.

If it's lack of transparency, say it, bring it up and let them know the dogs were not something to be swept under the rug in your view. They need to respect what is important to you with your family. That's what the discussion should be about.