Light At The End Of The Tunnel

Figgy1

Figgy1

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Don't get me wrong I love my dh, but since the ride home I want to throttle him. Well that was until last night. By the last day of our trip he was saying I've done Disney to death, maybe we can go back in 5 years. How my heart's been sinking. Last night he surprised me by saying I think we'll need to go back to Disney in 2015. Yea, The only problem is he's now saying maybe we should take that trip without our boys. What should I do. I want to go back sooner than later, but Disney without our sons?
 
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real mad hatter

real mad hatter

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Wheest! ( that's an old Scottish term for Ssshhh ) ..I know the feeling..My DS is looking at apprentice jobs for telecommunications..(Phew! That's a big word for so early in the morning) Anyway..I agree with your DH..A Two year break is fine..absence makes the heart grow fonder..As far as going alone..Well at first our DS wasn't too excited about returning in 2015.. Now he's looking forward as I've promised him we will be staying at AKL for 14 nights..:oops:...Iam about to start selling off my furniture to pay for it..:eek:..Plan for 2015 with the boys..Tell them,and hubby, October 10th till 24th is "Hatters Final Hoolie & Halloween Party" ...This is a one off and never to be repeated in the history of WDW..:joyfull:
 
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Disvillain63

Disvillain63

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We did WDW a few times w/o kids before they grew up and left the house, even been w/o them after they left the house...Guess what? We talked about what fun they would have on this ride or that attraction throughout the trip. With or without them, you still wish they were there to share. Mind you, we enjoyed our trips w/o kids but they were ever present in day-to-day park conversation. The advent of cellphones has just made it 'worst'. We get off a ride/attraction and have to call and tell them about it...like the first time we rode TSMM and had to call our son, while he was in class at AFA, and tell him what a 'cool ride' it was. Your boys will be how old? ...believe me, the magic is still there for them, even if they don't always act like it.
 
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MouseDreaming

MouseDreaming

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Figgy, what a mixed bag! With both kids still at home, I don't know if I could do it. As it is, we could have waited until December to do our family vacation to WDW, instead of last June. Even though DS would be there, he would really be more with his school band. I just thought it was too weird to do a family vacation with him there, but not really there with us. So, I miss him marching down Main St, but we did have some very good family time back in June.

I will add, that this is not a two way street. He has no problem going without us, and can't wait to call me while he enjoys his first Dole Whip Float (the one thing he promises to spend all of his food money on while there), so he can rub it in.
 
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danpam1024

danpam1024

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figmentfan423 said:
Don't get me wrong I love my dh, but since the ride home I want to throttle him. Well that was until last night. By the last day of our trip he was saying I've done Disney to death, maybe we can go back in 5 years. How my heart's been sinking. Last night he surprised me by saying I think we'll need to go back to Disney in 2015. Yea, The only problem is he's now saying maybe we should take that trip without our boys. What should I do. I want to go back sooner than later, but Disney without our sons?
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Last year was our first trip without our DS (now 11). Let me say, we do ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING together- like the 3 musketeers (we don't have family). It broke my heart dropping him off at camp- even though he couldn't wait for us to leave. DH and I went to UNI for a week and treated ourselves to a concierge king room at the HRH. I cried when we checked in- DS and I always go to the bathroom while hubby is checking us in (there's a couch in there!). My heart was broken- how could I enjoy this place without my lil man-EVERYTHING reminded me of him! :cry: After check in we went to the Rock Shop and bought him some ridiculously expensive clothes and went down to the pool for a bloody mary. As we were sitting in the ADULT only spa, sipping (ok downing) our drinks, we began to relax- I mean really relax and enjoy each other's company! We weren't rushing to get to the parks, or play in the pool, or go to CW or anything- we just got to vacation! We never realized how much we needed a vacation without him until the opportunity presented itself. You enjoy the parks in a completely different way- I mean you actually get to do things YOU want to do-things you may pass up with the kiddos because they may find it boring or want to get to Space Mountain right now. You get to eat where ever and when ever you want. And you get to SLEEP IN and stay out late:jawdrop:. We did it again this summer (stayed at Sea World) for a week, and DS is already begging for a 2 week camp next summer! I constantly ask him-Are you SURE you don't want to go on a big family vacation? And he says "Ma- I'm with you ALL OF THE TIME- go somewhere with Dad!"
We are lucky enough to live close, so we can go up for a night with him, and as he gets older, that seems to suit everyone's needs just fine. I won't lie- I miss those 10-12 day long family vacations, but this is our new chapter and it's just as great!:)
 
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KCheatle

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What I've found from my DH is that usually his bark is louder than his bite. I'd say just nod and smile, and back off the Disney talk with him for awhile. I understand where you're coming from because my enthusiasm for Disney is at 11/10 whereas my DH's is at like 7/10. He likes it, and likes to go there, but doesn't have nearly the love for it that I do.

I know in the back of my mind that we will go every 12-18 months and that I need to just set money aside on my own so that when the time comes to talk to him about it, I'm prepared with a Cash Stash and he's far enough removed from the last trip to be willing to go back.

I usually first approach him about 8 months out from the trip I want to go on so that he has plenty of time to think about it before the 180 ADR date. I also collaborate with him for the trip so that it's he and I picking the dates and not just me. However, I start planning the next trip within 2-3 months of getting home from the last trip :-)
 
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JIMINYCR

JIMINYCR

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A two years break from Disney can be rough but you can at least look at it that by the time you get back the new Mine Train ride will be up and running, and all the glitches worked out. The magic bands perfected. The drink dispensers fine tuned. You'll have 2 years to save and make the trip extra special by adding in some things you always wanted to do but never could spend the money for. A trip without DS's will feel very different ( especially when you go on the rides they liked most ) but we've done trips before without our son and after missing him the first couple of days we realized it wasnt as bad as we thought it would be. We could do more adult things, no fussy meltdown moments to contend with. We could focus on each other, go at our pace, no worries about keeping DS entertained. Enjoy the alone time with DH and make the trip a romantic DH & DW event.
 
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hollymc3

hollymc3

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KCheatle said:
What I've found from my DH is that usually his bark is louder than his bite. I'd say just nod and smile, and back off the Disney talk with him for awhile. I understand where you're coming from because my enthusiasm for Disney is at 11/10 whereas my DH's is at like 7/10. He likes it, and likes to go there, but doesn't have nearly the love for it that I do.

I know in the back of my mind that we will go every 12-18 months and that I need to just set money aside on my own so that when the time comes to talk to him about it, I'm prepared with a Cash Stash and he's far enough removed from the last trip to be willing to go back.

I usually first approach him about 8 months out from the trip I want to go on so that he has plenty of time to think about it before the 180 ADR date. I also collaborate with him for the trip so that it's he and I picking the dates and not just me. However, I start planning the next trip within 2-3 months of getting home from the last trip :)
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Sounds like you are writing about my husband!!! I handle it the same way :-) I squirrel away the money and Disney points with my Visa and calmly announce "guess where we are going" once I finally book. We have gone January 2011, 2012 and now returning January 2014!!
 
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hollymc3

hollymc3

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My triplets are 14 and freshmen now. We are going in Jan 2014. My fear is that their lives are going to get to busy to go to Disney with us. I just know my heart will break the first time I go without them. I do think Hubby and I would love the food & wine festival though. Perhaps that would be the first childless trip
 
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coachwnh

coachwnh

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real mad hatter said:
Wheest! ( that's an old Scottish term for Ssshhh ) ..I know the feeling..My DS is looking at apprentice jobs for telecommunications..(Phew! That's a big word for so early in the morning) Anyway..I agree with your DH..A Two year break is fine..absence makes the heart grow fonder..As far as going alone..Well at first our DS wasn't too excited about returning in 2015.. Now he's looking forward as I've promised him we will be staying at AKL for 14 nights..:oops:...Iam about to start selling off my furniture to pay for it..:eek:..Plan for 2015 with the boys..Tell them,and hubby, October 10th till 24th is "Hatters Final Hoolie & Halloween Party" ...This is a one off and never to be repeated in the history of WDW..:joyfull:
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When you say it like that hatter, we may have to rethink our 2015 plans and join the ever-growing party!!
 
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coachwnh

coachwnh

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Figgy,

My wife and I have raised the idea of doing a parents only trip as well, but at some point that year we would have to return with the kids. Would it be possible to do a long weekend with just the two of you for an anniversary or birthday then return later that year with the kids? Maybe look into getting APs. Just some ideas.

Hope it all works out for you. We all want a happy @figmentfan423 on the WDWmagic boards!
 
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Figgy1

Figgy1

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coachwnh said:
Figgy,

My wife and I have raised the idea of doing a parents only trip as well, but at some point that year we would have to return with the kids. Would it be possible to do a long weekend with just the two of you for an anniversary or birthday then return later that year with the kids? Maybe look into getting APs. Just some ideas.

Hope it all works out for you. We all want a happy @figmentfan423 on the WDWmagic boards!
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Thank you my friend!
 
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Mr Ferret 75

Mr Ferret 75

Thank you sir. You were an inspiration.
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coachwnh said:
Figgy,

My wife and I have raised the idea of doing a parents only trip as well, but at some point that year we would have to return with the kids. Would it be possible to do a long weekend with just the two of you for an anniversary or birthday then return later that year with the kids? Maybe look into getting APs. Just some ideas.

Hope it all works out for you. We all want a happy @figmentfan423 on the WDWmagic boards!
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What he said ... No one wants an angry Joisey Girl :eek:
 
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