Disney after the kids have grown

WDWLOYAL1971

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So I've been a Disney chic since that magical opening day of the most magical place on earth back in October of 1971. I basically grew up in Disney and then shared the magic with my kids, mostly my daughter being the youngest of two who was my Disney companion . Now she's grown and facing college. I no longer have my Disney buddy but have a boyfriend who understands my love for Disney and he gets us the annual pass. Thing is that I find myself always missing my "Disney buddy" after having shared that with her for 18 years and I find myself struggling with adjusting to enjoy it now at a different level. Any advice to help break that barrier and still
enjoy Disney?
 

Minnie Mum

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Just enjoy it. I've BTDT. Full circle, and then some. Started going when I was a single young thing. Then with DH. Then a couple of decades with DH and the kids. Then it was DH and I , again, without the kids. While I missed the kids a bit, frankly we loved having the freedom to go and do just want we wanted to do. And later on there were the odd trips where one or the other would join us. The last one had 3 generations in the mix- DGS had his first WDW vacation.

Don't let mourning the past affect your present and future. Enjoy the differences.
 

Laketravis

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On our last visit an elderly woman exited in front of us from the monorail at Epcot. I figured we'd need to politely pass her on the side but to my surprise she almost sprinted to the gate, it was all we could do to keep up with her. We struck up a conversation while standing in line and she volunteered that she was 81 years old, had been coming to WDW since the day it opened with family and spouse and children and grandchildren, and now that she was alone it was "her" time to come and enjoy it. She said she came several times a week not only because she enjoyed it but because she felt safe there.

Go and have a good time.
 

DfromATX

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Why can't you still enjoy Disney with your buddy? Does she not enjoy it anymore? I'm not to that point - YET. My oldest is 21 and just today he said he might try to do a trip with just him and his g/f. We even did a mock booking online so he could see what all was involved. I'm so happy that he loves it still and I think he would have so much fun going with his honey. I hope as a family we never stop going! Maybe when we have grand children someday we can take them too and leave their parents at home!
 

Darth Figment

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Me and my girlfriend we went for 7 yrs , every November. We took her kids twice. The other 5 times just me and her , it was awesome!!! Granted her kids were 11 and 13 at the time . But it's nice to be a kid again yourself, and re-see everything you saw as a kid , and just take your time, walk, look at the details of the buildings, watch kids and people interact with the cast members . I love going, I go by myself. Just enjoy the time you have here and be happy.
 

Yert3

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I go to Disney all the time by myself and actually have more fun. I can do what I want, eat where I want, and do attractions serval times in a row without complaints. It's just how you look at it. Both have their pros and cons.
 

parkhopper1213

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So I've been a Disney chic since that magical opening day of the most magical place on earth back in October of 1971. I basically grew up in Disney and then shared the magic with my kids, mostly my daughter being the youngest of two who was my Disney companion . Now she's grown and facing college. I no longer have my Disney buddy but have a boyfriend who understands my love for Disney and he gets us the annual pass. Thing is that I find myself always missing my "Disney buddy" after having shared that with her for 18 years and I find myself struggling with adjusting to enjoy it now at a different level. Any advice to help break that barrier and still
enjoy Disney?
Facing that same dilemma. Son going off to college this fall. We planned a trip for this summer (yes, I know it will be hot) and then he gets a month off for winter break, so we are going for Christmas.
 

disneygeek90

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I go to Disney all the time by myself and actually have more fun. I can do what I want, eat where I want, and do attractions serval times in a row without complaints. It's just how you look at it. Both have their pros and cons.
This. I loooove going alone. I chat up bored cast members, bartenders, and just have a genuinely great time doing things I want when I want. Now living so close has afforded me the opportunity to go even more often. If no one wants to go, I have no problem doing things by myself.
 

Goofyernmost

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Let me start by saying this... the absolute best week of my life was when myself, my wife and my two young children (7 & 9) took our first road trip from Vermont to WDW in 1983. We made many trips after that, unfortunately, at the time, we couldn't afford to make it a yearly thing, but, we went as often as we could. Things changed through the years, I took physically and mentally challenged people there as guide and caretaker, went a few times with just my wife. Sometimes when my daughter was in college she flew in from New Orleans to join her mother and I or my group that I escorted for a few days. Eventually both my girls got married, one asked for a trip to WDW as a wedding present (she got it). Again times changed. My wife and I divorced, the kids had their own life to build and I started to go solo. Occasionally, I went on trips there with my kids and their families, even at one point paid for everyone to go and had a huge 11 person gathering, but, mostly over the last 15 years have been solo.

My first solo was sort of a mix of fun and melancholy. I can remember sitting on a bench and looking around and all these images of those trips, especially the first one, jumped into my mind occasionally bringing tears to my eyes. I knew it was never going to be the same again because it was a journey with the people you loved that made it so special. It was also a very difficult time in my life. I had to close my nursing home, took a job I hated beyond my ability to describe it. My wife had left, my kids were creating their own memories... probably the lowest point in my life, ironically, in the very same place that once was the highest point of my life.

After giving myself a short period of time to indulge in self pity, I decided to just do whatever I could to move on and make the best of what I was deeply, emotionally being controlled by. Again, ironically, I went to CoP. When we first went to CoP in 1983 the theme was "Now is the best time of your life" and indeed it was. The kids picked up on that song and remembered it after the first exposure. We sang that all the way back to Vermont. On my first solo trip, they had just reinstated the "Great Big Beautiful Tomorrow" theme. There couldn't have been better timing then if I had come up with it myself. I left with a resolve to make the best of what life currently was and how I was going to make it better. I no longer have my original family to travel with, but, our time of sharing, way back when, made us solidly closer, we share many things now, just not often, our trips to WDW. I will, hopefully, always have the memories of the past because they were great, but, I have since made my current experiences be as important and as great as the old ones, just different. That past few years since that first solo, have been great.
 

JIMINYCR

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My DS was my ride buddy. Over the years he grew to overcome his fears of riding ToT, HM, RnRC, MS, and other attractions. Eventually he looked forward to riding with me multiple times. Now that he's grown, DW & I travel without him. I still have those memories of all those ground breaking trips, family memories together and fun events. Next year we will return with him as an adult, which will be fun on a different level.
Once your kids grow and leave, there is a grieving of what you lose. Ultimately you have to face the facts that you'll never have those times back but they remain in your memories and those can still give you pleasure recounting those moments. As you move on you now have opportunities to build new moments to treasure. Enjoy your new time and new type of trips and don't let it hold you back from discovering the new you on a different level. Try some new experiences, be adventurous, take new risks, discover different menu items, step out and let yourself grow. You might even want to do some non Disney trips off property and see the other sides of Orlando.
 

Walt Disney1955

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I am just hoping for the first time to take our young kids this year. I guess I am not at the point yet where my kids think it is uncool to hang out with dad. But either way, my wife has been my "ride buddy" up until now and I think always will be. As for my kids, I guess I'll cross that path when it happens but if they ever get to the point where they are old enough to stay home and don't want to come I would still go with my wife. If anything happened to my wife I would still go even alone although I'd like to think I could take some grandkids.
 

John C. Shepherd

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I started going to Disney as a kid with my mother. Then as life moved on i went as a single or with friends, then came my wife going with me to disney. My last couple trips and one going forward for as long as kids are with us will be as a family. I loved every way going to Disney and when my girls no longer go with us, i will enjoy it for all i can with just my wife. I would go alone if needed, i am like a kid there, i get as excited as they do.
 

Since1976

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I am *so* looking forward to my kids starting college in about 5 years, so my wife and I can go to WDW whenever we want.

Don't get me wrong: my many trips down there with DS and DD are the best memories of my life, but my wife and I wish we could go down to see the F&G and F&W Festivals, and even Halloween, all of which occur during the school year. We regret not doing a lot of things before our oldest reached school age (or at least before she reached an age where teachers started discouraging missing school).

Once the kids finish college -- OH BOY! We'll have even more freedom to travel to WDW as a family.
 

Nemo14

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I am *so* looking forward to my kids starting college in about 5 years, so my wife and I can go to WDW whenever we want.

Don't get me wrong: my many trips down there with DS and DD are the best memories of my life, but my wife and I wish we could go down to see the F&G and F&W Festivals, and even Halloween, all of which occur during the school year. We regret not doing a lot of things before our oldest reached school age (or at least before she reached an age where teachers started discouraging missing school).

Once the kids finish college -- OH BOY! We'll have even more freedom to travel to WDW as a family.
but a lot less money to do it with...
 

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