Dating Suggestions Needed

MickeyMoose15

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Hey everybody.

I am in a class known only as COMBINED. It's an Advanced American Literature/Advanced U.S. History class where history and literature are combined and play off each other throughout the school year. Basically it covers stuff from the 1600's to the early 1900's up to World War I. We work in groups on a project each quarter for three out of the four quarters of the school year.

The group I am in consists of two of best friends: Eric and Alan. These two were in the same group together with me and one other person, who left our school recently, during Freshmen Combined. Also in the group are two girls who are friends of ours, Annie and Mary.

I hadn't really thought of this long. I only thought of this a couple of weeks ago, around a week or two before Easter vacation. I began to notice Mary a little more then I usually do. We talked a bit more together during the meetings and she seemed to like talking to me as well. Mary is a pretty private person. He does well in school but she tends not to be too talkative. Pretty quiet most of the time. I thought about asking her out on a date but backed down on the idea for awhile. I mean, kind of weird to ask someone out that you have worked on school projects for most of the year. I just thought it would be weird if we went out.

But then things changed a bit. I found out that Eric and Annie were going out. I knew that Eric asked Annie out to Prom but I hadn't figuared anything beyond that. I mean, I kind of guessed but didn't say anything on the risk that I might embarass someone. Eric ended up saying something about it at lunch. I was a little surprised but I guess I shouldn't have been.

Anyway... I finally got the nerve to ask Mary out. The thing is that Mary does a lot of dancing. She does competitions, teaches younger children and so on. Finally found a date that worked for both of us and she said yes.

We decided to go see The Matrix Reloaded on May 17th. She like Sci-Fi and Fantasy books and movies like I do, which is really neat :D.

Anyway ... I need suggestions on what to exactly do on the date. I mean, this is not my first date. I went out with a person starting May 4th, 2002. I went out with the girl until she broke up with me in January 2003. So it has been awhile since I actually went out with somebody. Plus Mary is totally different from my first girlfriend. She was a sophomore (Mary is a Junior like me) and she was a lot more talkative and stuff like that. I just need help here. I don't know if this relationship will exactly work (long term, I mean) and I don't want to worry about that now.

Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
 

foxfire

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Well, let's see. The best advice I could give you is to just be yourself and not put pressure on the situation. Of course, it's normal to be nervous---heck, I've been dating for years and first dates(I'm recently single again) are still a bit jittery, but they can be exciting. I'd say just go out & be yourself. It sounds like you know each other fairly well, so there should be plenty of topics for conversation, and just take it one day at a time. Best of luck!


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GenerationX

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The best first date I went on had three activities:
1. Seeing a movie.
2. Going to a planetarium to see Halley's Comet (yes, this was 1985).
3. Eating ice cream on the way back to her house.

While Halley's Comet is not currently in the neighborhood (it's due back some time around 2061), there's plenty of other wonders of the universe visible through their telescopes. I would imagine U of W-Milw would have a planetarium open to the public.

As a side note, the lovely woman in my avatar was my date.
 

Dizknee_Phreek

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well, seeing as my so-called 'love life' is the pits at the moment, i have no advice to give....but i wanted to congradulate you on getting THIS far with it! i can't even get to the 'talking' stage with the guys i actually like. i'm getting pretty dishearted about it. i know i'm still young and i have time and all, but it's hard when the 'i like him but he doesn't like me back' crap has been going on for the past 5 years. and it's not like i'm asking for marriage for pete's sake! i just want to find a guy that i like that actually likes me back for once! :( sorry for unloading on you all...i'll get off my self-pity soap box now :)
 

MicBat

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First of all, congrats on asking the girl out! I know sometimes it takes major guts to ask a girl out. Especially if you're friends with her!

-Be yourself!... She wouldn't have agreed to go on a date with you if she didn't of liked you. That and if this relationship ends up being long term, you don't want to go about not being yourself.
-Be a gentleman... Most of the ladies love it when you open doors for them, act politely, and just treat her like a princess for the night. It's usually the little things that count!
-Go somewhere after the movie... Somewhere like and ice cream shop, a coffee joint, etc. It will give the two of you to talk and get to know eachother a little better.
-No honking... Some guys I know have actually honked the horn when they go to pick up their dates. This definitely goes with "be a gentleman." Go to the door, introduce yourself to her parents, and walk her to the car at the beginning of the date and at the end.
-Introduce Yourself to her parents... Tell them what you'll be doing and what time you think you'll be bringing their daughter home. This scores major points with her parents and (in some cases) if her parents are happy with you, she will be too.

I know most of the stuff I mentioned were obvious, but some guys actually dont know to do this stuff... Hope you have a great time!
 

MickeyMoose15

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Thanks for the advice so far.

We might get a bite to eat or something like that after the movie.

Since she has dancing practice, so we are meeting each other at the movie theater. Which reminds me, I really should buy the tickets in advance so we don't have to worry about it. I am paying for everything, accourse.

I believe her parents know me but I will meet them when I bring her home.
 

CDS Disney

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Um Um Um..... Don't throw up on or near her:hurl:
Oh and go out after the movie so that you can talk because there is no talking in movies. Unless you some kind of movie Nazi. But go out for ice cream after or for a walk in the park. Hold her hand and look up at the stars. Talk about what's important to you but don't hog the entire talk time listen to her. When she’s talking don’t make any sounds just listen and look into her eyes. Unless you’re walking because you don't need to wind up walking into a pole, a pond, person, the list can go on and on. Stay away from politics and controversial issues during your discussion and for the love of god don't at anytime mention the weather as a conversation starter or during a long pause. *MOST IMPORTANTLY* Tell her about us at the forum and when you get back tell us how it went.
 

disney_nutter

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Originally posted by tenchu
Here's a tip:

Stay away from women, it'll all end in tears.

:lol:

here here i agree with u 100%, my love life isnt very good at the min, i dont last very long i think ive posted two threads before ab my love life, all women do is cause heart break and turn men to drink. Only kidding yes a lot do want to hurt us but then some are just kool. congrats mate hope everything works out.
 

MickeyMoose15

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My last relationship ended pretty badly considering my ex-girlfriend was the one that ended it and never really told me why. She sent an e-mail rather then saying it to my face and she, being a sophomore, is currently dating a senior.

But I hope the date goes well on Saturday. I just pre-ordered the tickets.
 

Cliff

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Originally posted by tenchu
Here's a tip:

Stay away from women, it'll all end in tears.

:lol:

HA!...yeah. That's pretty funny.

Just be "you".....Be smart, considerate, sexy, witty, nice, attentive, relaxed, polite, funny and attractive...that's all. ( nothing special )

Just do those things and she will love you. If you don't,..well it's all over and you can forget all about it.

Oh,..DON'T put pressure on yourself either!! If you are nervous, women will sense that,...and that is a big turn off to them. ( so,.. just don't be "nervous"....OK?)

CT : - )

( I'm single,..if THAT sez anything....LMAO!)
 

MouseMadness

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*shakes head at all the jaded menfolk*


Anyway, MM15 (I'm just MM:D ) just have fun... you need to keep this in perspective. It's a date... nothing more, nothing less. Have fun, enjoy the movie! It should be great.
 

MickeyMoose15

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I hang around with her after Combined and after school a lot lately, so we get to talk a lot. Hopefully I won't be too nervous. I wasn't with my first date with my first girlfriend but this is a little different, I guess. Anyway, Nervous is bad. Got it. :D
 

MickeyMoose15

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Tomorrow, We finalize plans for the date on Saturday. I figuare this: show up 30-40 minutes before movie, watch movie then head to restaurant for dinner then bring her home. Got the tickets but pain in the butt to do it. Had to get my parents to come down to the theater to let me see it (The movie is rated-R and we are both 16 though I am two weeks away from my 17th birthday which kind of sucks if you think about it). I will update everything tomorrow after school or during school, whenever I talk to her or get to a computer.
 

Pippa

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Hi mickeymoose! I hope my two cents worth gets to you before the big date. Anyhow you mention she is a dancer, well I too am a dancer and own a school in the UK so my advice is to ask her how the practice went and try to take an interest in it as dancing tends to take up a LOT of time with lessons/rehearsals etc especially if she is serious about her dancing. So if things progress in your relationship progress she'll know you are supporting her if she can't make a date due to dancing. I have taught lots of girls your age and a lot have boyfriends that try to stop them dancing because they are committed to it! So don't be one of those!

Have a great date and enjoy The Matrix Reloaded, I'm seeing it next week!
 

MickeyMoose15

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Thanks everybody for the advice.

Wish me luck tonight. It is currently 1:30pm here in Wisconsin and I have to meet her at the theater at 6:00pm for the 7:00pm show. Plus I get to meet her dad since he has to sign a form for her to see The Matrix Reloaded with me since the film is rated-R and both of us are under 17 (I am just two to three weeks away from my 17th birthday). I already got my form signed by my parents.
 

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