Seeking help really is a waste of time & resources for him, as it's more caused by emotional scars rather than any sort of mental issue or illness. He's been to Disney before with his mother, and had only minimal incident of temper blowup. I'm confident it will be the same for us in May during our upcoming trip.
While your insight is very helpful and thoughtful, I think you missed the part where the OP says his grandson is in his 30s....I agree with Princess Kaylee and SyracuseDisneyFan. The hardest part of taking young children to Disney is that we want them to have fun, and be a special time for them. However, we tend to forget that children need rules and guidelines, and very often (in all of the excitemint) we let our children get away with behavior that would be unacceptable in any other place. As mentioned above, routine will help prevent a meltdown. If you're driving to Disney World, make sure he knows that the same rulesapply. This also holds true for stores and restaurants. This doesn't mean we need to have a rule for everything, but try to remind him that the same rules at home also are the same rules at Disney World. I can't tell how many times I hear a parent say "he/she knows better" but do children really when he or she is on vacation? All of a sudden children maybe eating food they don't normally eat at home, and getting a lot more gifts. (Please don't think I'm suggesting not to treat your child to special things. I know I would be hard pressed not to.
Thank you so much for your kind words & encouragement. You sound like his grandmother sometimes. Sadly, she is no longer with us.
Thank you so much for your kind words & encouragement. You sound like his grandmother sometimes. Sadly, she is no longer with us.
That in itself is a long story, and would take over six hours to explain.
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Nevermind.
Thanks for the laugh. That was really well written. Had me going for quite a bit until I noticed. Well played.
Unfortunately, the two best counselors for his situation are dead. One of them was just a crazy old hermit. The other talked backwards in riddles. Ben's uncle also tried to help him, and that didn't work out either.
I completely understand what you mean. I'm just a little skeptical when it comes to counselors, mentors, and so on. I once had a mentor of my own who helped me through a lot of tough times in my life. He was my best friend one moment, and the next it felt as if he left me burning alive, so to speak. That is why I am a little hesitant to push Ben toward seeking help just yet.
Ben has a friend of sorts currently who tries to help him. But I'm not sure about how I feel about this fellow. He seems a little big-headed, blurred in his intentions at times, and very pale in his attempts at helping. Not sure how this will work out.
You know, I hear of a young woman with a lot of Force. She came out of the desert, was kind of a scavenger, but turns out she has some skills. Maybe she could help?
You remind me a lot of her with your screen name. She truly is a bright young woman with a great future ahead. Thanksgiving & other family holidays are usually awkward though, as someone usually brings up the "Are we actually related" debate. As of now, nobody in my family really knows for sure...or at least hasn't said. I'm sure we'll all know one day, but as of now, it's anybody's guess. Either way, I am certainly proud to call her my granddaughter and / or just a good friend depending on what the final verdict is.
Thanks again for all your advice. I really do appreciate it. Lord knows my son & I used to fight, and believe me...it got brutal!
