The goal of any restaurant is to move people through as soon as you can - I can't fault the server in your case - while Epcot is "adult oriented", there are still thousands of people there and there are many reservations and only fixed amount of seats. By you taking more than 45 minutes to eat, you are backing up everyone else in the reservation system, esp. if you are in the 1st seating.
Would it have been better if the server had left you for 20 minutes and never checked on you? Would you have complained that you were ready to order and there was no server to take your order?
Not trying to combat you but want you to see the other side of the coin too!
you have a point and i also am not tryin to combat you but..when we clearly say that we are in no rush and would like to take our time, then I think the point is clear enough. We will signal you when we are ready.
The goal of a restaurant is to ensure you that you have a quality experience NOT to move you along!
If we take more than 45 min to eat that is our perogative, we are on vacation and are in no rush. Don't get me wrong, we do not take our time on purpose. It is not like we are sitting there waiting for the fireworks drinking water, eating free bread, we order apetizers , drinks and extra that are not part of meal plan and Disney is making their money off of us ( and we do not mind spending).
I do not want to sound like the arrogant, money spending, don't care who you are, thurnsten howell III, but in the day in age where customer service should be a company's priority. In our opinion Tokyo Dining lacked this concept, from the hostess (who was far from friendly), the pushy waitress and the manager pushing his staff in front of customers.
However, for all we know it could have been an off day for Tokyo dining, but first impressions last! Was it a terrible experience ..NO , would we go back..probably not