I posted this as a reply in another thread (probably the wrong one since it dealt more with fear of shows then children being afraid of rides), but I wanted to give it, it's own thread.
I feel this may help some of you enjoy your vacations with your children much more, and also help your children enjoy their vacation much more as well.
Not to mention teaching your children a valuable lesson being that they 'can accomplish anything they set their minds to'. Most of the leaders in this world come from families who taught them this valuable lesson at a very young age. This will also help them trust in mom and dad so much (which is priceless once those teen years hit), and give them ultimate security within the family.
I've found with my children over the years, that when children are scared of certain things (rides, haunted houses, darkness, sleeping alone, etc..) they really don't want to be scared and it makes them feel bad about themselves inside. You know, like they can't do anything or can't do what others can do.
Some people may feel this is a bit harsh, but I always made my children go on rides while soothing them the whole way with reassurance, security, and love. Once they got through the ride, they were so proud of themselves that they are usually determined to go ride again just to show their bravery and how they weren't scared anymore. It gives them a feeling of success, strength, and pride which is very good for children and their future. :sohappy:
My children are now 10 and 6 and loved to ride everything! They are not afraid of anything and their self esteem is through the roof! My 6-year-old gets so upset when she is too small to ride (I'm talking more at like Six Flags and other theme parks). They always have a great time, and my husband and I have a great time riding everything with them.
and...if you have one of those children who literally has a screaming/crying meltdown, it will be very difficult for you, but you must make them. Once they get through it, and realize, "Hey mom or dad was right, I'm just fine and that wasn't so bad". Their trust in you and what you say will grow, and they won't be scared anymore. If you play into the meltdown, and say, "Ok honey, you don't have to go" you are reassuring your children they have a reason to be afraid and that is just not true.
It will be very difficult the first few times, but it should only take a couple of times and the meltdowns will stop. See your child will then "believe" you when you say, "There is nothing to be afraid of. These things can't and won't hurt you, etc...".
The same things goes with trying new foods for the picky eater. I always made my children try at least on bite, and if they didn't like it that's fine they didn't have to eat it.... but I've found they usually did like it and were glad I made them taste it. Now they don't even second guess new foods, and try everything. They know it's important to at least try it, and I never have to say a thing.
and one more thing..... It's important for us to teach our children about rational fears vs. irrational fears.
Rides, darkness, sleeping alone, and haunted houses are all irrational fears that inhibit our children from learning the difference in what they should and should not be afraid of.
Strangers, child molesters, cars, the street, etc... are rational fears that we need to coach our children on how to handle so that they don't get hurt or killed.
We need to help them learn what they really should and should not be afraid of.
Always teach this with encouragement, reassurance, and love and never with aggression or punishment.
Help your children conquer their fears early in life, and not only will they have a better time riding rides and on vacation, but they will be more well rounded and successful adults when they grow up.
This is an important thing for children and will impact their lives, positively, in ways you could never imagine.
(I am talking about children whose mental maturity level has reached the capability to understand complete sentences. It won't do any good for a child that can't understand your reassuring words. I found this was the case with my two children when they reached the age of around 2 1/2. Each child is different, but I wouldn't recommend starting before age 2. Also, I am not a licensed professional in any psychological field. I am self educated in this area because it fascinates me. However, I did find out from a family a friend (who is the lead adolescent psychologist at the Medical College of Georgia) that this is the proper, good, and right way to deal with children and their irrational fear of things.)
Hope this may help some of you. Lord knows all of you have helped me so much with planning my vacation. This forum is great!
Thank you.
I feel this may help some of you enjoy your vacations with your children much more, and also help your children enjoy their vacation much more as well.
Not to mention teaching your children a valuable lesson being that they 'can accomplish anything they set their minds to'. Most of the leaders in this world come from families who taught them this valuable lesson at a very young age. This will also help them trust in mom and dad so much (which is priceless once those teen years hit), and give them ultimate security within the family.
I've found with my children over the years, that when children are scared of certain things (rides, haunted houses, darkness, sleeping alone, etc..) they really don't want to be scared and it makes them feel bad about themselves inside. You know, like they can't do anything or can't do what others can do.
Some people may feel this is a bit harsh, but I always made my children go on rides while soothing them the whole way with reassurance, security, and love. Once they got through the ride, they were so proud of themselves that they are usually determined to go ride again just to show their bravery and how they weren't scared anymore. It gives them a feeling of success, strength, and pride which is very good for children and their future. :sohappy:
My children are now 10 and 6 and loved to ride everything! They are not afraid of anything and their self esteem is through the roof! My 6-year-old gets so upset when she is too small to ride (I'm talking more at like Six Flags and other theme parks). They always have a great time, and my husband and I have a great time riding everything with them.
and...if you have one of those children who literally has a screaming/crying meltdown, it will be very difficult for you, but you must make them. Once they get through it, and realize, "Hey mom or dad was right, I'm just fine and that wasn't so bad". Their trust in you and what you say will grow, and they won't be scared anymore. If you play into the meltdown, and say, "Ok honey, you don't have to go" you are reassuring your children they have a reason to be afraid and that is just not true.
It will be very difficult the first few times, but it should only take a couple of times and the meltdowns will stop. See your child will then "believe" you when you say, "There is nothing to be afraid of. These things can't and won't hurt you, etc...".
The same things goes with trying new foods for the picky eater. I always made my children try at least on bite, and if they didn't like it that's fine they didn't have to eat it.... but I've found they usually did like it and were glad I made them taste it. Now they don't even second guess new foods, and try everything. They know it's important to at least try it, and I never have to say a thing.
and one more thing..... It's important for us to teach our children about rational fears vs. irrational fears.
Rides, darkness, sleeping alone, and haunted houses are all irrational fears that inhibit our children from learning the difference in what they should and should not be afraid of.
Strangers, child molesters, cars, the street, etc... are rational fears that we need to coach our children on how to handle so that they don't get hurt or killed.
We need to help them learn what they really should and should not be afraid of.
Always teach this with encouragement, reassurance, and love and never with aggression or punishment.
Help your children conquer their fears early in life, and not only will they have a better time riding rides and on vacation, but they will be more well rounded and successful adults when they grow up.
This is an important thing for children and will impact their lives, positively, in ways you could never imagine.
(I am talking about children whose mental maturity level has reached the capability to understand complete sentences. It won't do any good for a child that can't understand your reassuring words. I found this was the case with my two children when they reached the age of around 2 1/2. Each child is different, but I wouldn't recommend starting before age 2. Also, I am not a licensed professional in any psychological field. I am self educated in this area because it fascinates me. However, I did find out from a family a friend (who is the lead adolescent psychologist at the Medical College of Georgia) that this is the proper, good, and right way to deal with children and their irrational fear of things.)
Hope this may help some of you. Lord knows all of you have helped me so much with planning my vacation. This forum is great!
Thank you.