Hang in there, DizkneePhreek. Hang in there. Those that have given the advice of finding him/her when your not even looking, hit the nail on the head. For instance...
I knew what I was looking for. A woman with dark hair, dark eyes, about 5'6" or 5'7", nice ...uh...personality, and most important of all: someone who could stand being with me for more than 30 minutes.
Came close, once. Hair was dark, eyes were, well, green, but it was livable. Nice personality. She even understood about half of my jokes! But then she went and lied to me. Not once, but twice. Bye-bye.
Then, two nice ladies who were friends started attending our church and young adult group. One I dated for about three months. Didn't think it would last, and it didn't. Her friend we tried to fix up with a friend of mine. Didn't work. We all stayed friends and did alot of stuff together. Dated some other ladies, no hope in sight.
Then, one night...it was Maundy Thursday service at our church. Our young adult group participated in the service with a "skit." After our part in the service, the friend of the lady that I dated and I decided to go see a movie (we didn't want to stay for the rest of the service). We went to see "Excalibur" (when it was first released in theatres). Great movie. Nothing like skipping a church service to see a movie containing: wizards, magic, incest, rape, adultery, graphic bloodshed, and crows pecking out the eyes of rotted bodies! I think most would agree that this is not a chick-flick. Anyway, after the movie I drove her back to her car, which she had parked at my house. We got out, talked for a moment, and then...
There she was. Standing right in front of me. Natural blonde, blue eyes, 5'3", definately not the profile I had been looking for. I kissed her. She kissed me. We celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary in March. And she can still stand to be with me for more than 30 minutes!
So, y'see, sometimes it just happens. Even when you're not looking for it, and, just as important, with someone you're not even looking for.