But, that's OK. For the last few weeks and still going on I have undertaken (tee hee) the fun project of planning my own Funeral. Well, not just that, but, Living Wills, Powers of Attorney, you know all that fun stuff.
Over that past few months my Ex-wife, has been going downhill at what seems like a rapid rate. She is no longer able to speak clearly or communicate problems that she might be having. Although she spent most of her life as a Registered Nurse, she managed to ignore the thought that at some point in time we are all going to leave this Mortal Coil. My Daughters are having nightmares trying to do the right thing for her, without knowing what she wanted. Worried that they might make a decision that will make the situation worse. All I have been able to do is listen to them expressing their frustration and sorrow about the entire situation. So I decided that I didn't want to saddle the two people that I love above everything else in the world with that burden and that I would make sure that I have pre-planned and communicated my wishes while I was still able to let them know.
Now this isn't by any means a fun adventure. To begin with you have to accept your own mortality and that isn't easy to do without obsessing over it, but, so far I think I have done fairly well keeping it separate and they have been terrific in encouraging me to do this, thankful that I am and at the same time not really wanting to talk about it. But, talk about it they have done. It is amazing how helpful they have been in make suggestions and helpful thoughts about what they would like to see happen as well.
We used lunch at "Cracker Barrel" today to discuss it privately, just them and myself. It was hard to get it started, but, once we did ideas, thoughts and emotions flowed like water. I am so lucky to have children (now middle aged) that are willing and able to communicate with me. Due to the sudden meeting two of my older grandchildren asked their mothers if Grandpa was dying and they just aren't telling them. Tough answer because no, nothing is going on right now that is an indication that my departure will be anytime soon, but, this past year has taught me that it is easy to think you are healthy and then have something evil just appear.
I don't even know why I'm telling you all this. I guess it's because the project is depressing on one hand, but, seems rewarding that I can help them not have to try and figure out what I might want in the event that I am unable to tell them at the time. I encourage everyone to at least think about taking care of that stuff before hand and save a lot of stress on your family when the time comes to deal with it. I'm also lucky that they both have a powerful sense of humor and sense of reality that allows them to be serious and light hearted all at the same time. I like that in a person.
OK, enough "Debbie Downer" stuff... back to Disney and it's Magic.
Over that past few months my Ex-wife, has been going downhill at what seems like a rapid rate. She is no longer able to speak clearly or communicate problems that she might be having. Although she spent most of her life as a Registered Nurse, she managed to ignore the thought that at some point in time we are all going to leave this Mortal Coil. My Daughters are having nightmares trying to do the right thing for her, without knowing what she wanted. Worried that they might make a decision that will make the situation worse. All I have been able to do is listen to them expressing their frustration and sorrow about the entire situation. So I decided that I didn't want to saddle the two people that I love above everything else in the world with that burden and that I would make sure that I have pre-planned and communicated my wishes while I was still able to let them know.
Now this isn't by any means a fun adventure. To begin with you have to accept your own mortality and that isn't easy to do without obsessing over it, but, so far I think I have done fairly well keeping it separate and they have been terrific in encouraging me to do this, thankful that I am and at the same time not really wanting to talk about it. But, talk about it they have done. It is amazing how helpful they have been in make suggestions and helpful thoughts about what they would like to see happen as well.
We used lunch at "Cracker Barrel" today to discuss it privately, just them and myself. It was hard to get it started, but, once we did ideas, thoughts and emotions flowed like water. I am so lucky to have children (now middle aged) that are willing and able to communicate with me. Due to the sudden meeting two of my older grandchildren asked their mothers if Grandpa was dying and they just aren't telling them. Tough answer because no, nothing is going on right now that is an indication that my departure will be anytime soon, but, this past year has taught me that it is easy to think you are healthy and then have something evil just appear.
I don't even know why I'm telling you all this. I guess it's because the project is depressing on one hand, but, seems rewarding that I can help them not have to try and figure out what I might want in the event that I am unable to tell them at the time. I encourage everyone to at least think about taking care of that stuff before hand and save a lot of stress on your family when the time comes to deal with it. I'm also lucky that they both have a powerful sense of humor and sense of reality that allows them to be serious and light hearted all at the same time. I like that in a person.
OK, enough "Debbie Downer" stuff... back to Disney and it's Magic.
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