I get it. You have a point there. And I probably can dial down the woe is me, im fine- but I am sore after a day at a park or parks- if I’m seated, and see a healthy woman come aboard, at that point it’s just who gets there first, much like a parking spot!First, I am sorry you have gone through those health situations. Second, I may not have clarified, this is not about me personally. I don't need people to stand for me personally. I am only 41, and in good shape, and perfectly capable of standing myself. But like this afternoon taking the resort bus from DHS back to MK. There was a woman who looked about late 60s to early 70s. She had a walking stick. Not a medical cane but a stick for walking hiking and so on. You could tell she needed it. She looked fatigued when she got on the bus. Red faced, breathing hard, not overweight but not in perfect shape. I looked around the bus and saw at least eleven other younger men who could have easily stood up and offered this woman a seat. Did they? Not one. That is all I was saying.
I’ll hold doors, not for just women but everyone- I’ve gotten up on the buses for elderly and expecting moms, so I’m not quite the monster I make myself out as. But with my back, standing is the worst- I can walk all day, but just standing in place is hell. So I probably won’t be that first guy to offer, which is fine. There’s people in better shape usually.
This is also reason 78b why I try to avoid those buses. I’d rather be blindfolded and thrown in a sketchy van.