jloucks
Well-Known Member
That is a really good point. When did weddings become the narcissistic spectacle some are today? They traditionally are about bringing two family's together. At my wedding, I scored big time. I not only got a lovely spouse of 35+ years, but a world class mother-in-law, father-in-law, brother & sister in law, step-father-in-law, step-mother-in-law, and the list goes on. Again, it would have been horrifying to tell them all, "Hey, gift table is by the door. If you're hungry, there are some Doritos in the vending machines, you can get change at the gas station across the street. We spent all the food money my future mom donated for wedding food on an *insert something nobody else cares about*".Actually...that's not quite correct.
Traditionally, the a wedding is about the community. The traditional idea of a wedding is to bring two families together, and also to - I'm not quite sure how to word it - but to let the community know the couple has undergone an important transformation in their lives and that transformation = they need to be treated differently.
It is not unlike a wake/funeral. Or even a graduation/coming of age ceremony. Without a funeral, many people actually have a hard(er) time accepting that the person has passed away. A coming-of-age celebration also = this person must be treated differently. They are no longer a child.
Many have argued, that from a sociological perspective, the lack of a society-wide coming-of-age custom in America culture = confusion. That confusion is a factor in many of the societal problems we face.
Humans are social creatures, and we crave closure. Weddings exist in just about every culture that has ever existed because they serve a societal function. Weddings are central to many of Disney's own fairy tales, "They lived happily ever after."