I do agree fears should be faced. I've talked my son up to rides that I knew he could do but was afraid to. That said there are limits to this. We have walked out of Test Track (the old *very* loud version) and Haunted Mansion because I could see the fear was real and he was only 3. There needs to be a way for kids to feel safe and yet encouraged to 'fly' so to speak. So I am all for trying to talk you child into something, but I have seen parents push so hard their kids were in tears. One parent kept pinching their child when they whined. It was horrible to watch.
I was a total adrenaline junkie growing up. My siblings were not. So I rode a lot that they didn't. My son isn't near as scared as my brother was, but I see similarities there.
That said ToT is NOT a mild drop ride. I would say if you try to tell your child that, it's quite dishonest. I convinced my child to do RnR at 9 finally and it took some talking. ToT we still haven't done. I've known parents who take their kids on and they wind up hating it because it scared the crap out of them. RnR to me is actually more tame feeling and would be my pick for trying to get a kid on.
@Minnie1986 we actually had the same FP+ as you did. We did wind up adding in RnR (not as an original FP though) and while we didn't need the Muppets FP, we just used it so we could get more after.