Oh it could totally be the demographics. Mostly, our little town consisted of 2 types of families...either one or both of the parents worked for one of the coal mines, or they were ranchers. They were mostly happy 2 parent homes, the model of old-fashioned family values where dad went out and worked and mom stayed home and tended to the house and kids. In the families where both parents worked, either the kids fended for themselves, or the mom took care of the house and kids when she got home from work. That's just the way it was...it was quite scandalous in the church when my parents divorced. There were plenty in the congregation who thought my mom should be excommunicated and I was told by one girl in my class that we didn't really have a REAL family, because we didn't have a dad. And that we didn't belong in the church as much as she did. She had more right to be there because they were a REAL family. (not everyone was like that...there were several, but certainly not a majority. Several families ended up leaving our church because of those members who were so incredibly judgmental.) So it's possible that my experience is not indicative of the National norm, but it certainly struck me that there was a HUGE difference between what I grew up with and what it was like in the Netherlands.